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In this episode I guide you to witness the miracles in front of you and remember that you have the power to choose again. Through candid stories about my own “effed up thoughts” and a divine encounter on an airplane, I break down the #1 block to inner peace: judgment. Filmed live in 2014, this old-school Gabby wisdom is your guide to releasing self-attack, letting go of the past, and remembering that the moment you desire change, the Universe rushes in to help. No matter how difficult your circumstances, you can always choose to see a loving solution instead of a problem. Practice the mindset shift revealed in this talk and expect miracles!

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You’ll learn:

  • The #1 block to your inner peace (and how to release it).
  • My simple, moment-to-moment practice for forgiving your thoughts and choosing love instead.
  • A hilarious and divinely guided story about a man on an airplane that will completely shift your perspective on judgment.
  • Why saying “I want to change” is the most powerful prayer you can say to open an invisible door for miracles.
  • How to finally stop being so hard on yourself and let go of the past.

This talk is your permission slip to be free. The moment you witness your fear and desire change, you open a door for the Universe to rush in and support you. If you’re ready to let go, this episode will show you how.

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This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I am not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from any psychological or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified health professional.

dear gabby #277 Aug 25, 2025 emotional wellbeing

miracle mindset shift that will change your life!

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Hey there. Welcome to Dear Gabby. I'm your host Gabby Bernstein, and if you landed here, it is absolutely no accident. It means that you're ready to feel good and manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams. Let's get started.

Hello my friends. Welcome back to Dear Gabby. It is the end of August here in New York, and I have been soaking up these last sweet days of summer. I can feel the energy of the city buzzing, but I've been in the country most of the time and I've just been. Enjoying the relaxation. And last week I was actually in the studio recording.

Two really special things that I really can't wait to share with you soon, and I'm keeping the details under wraps for now, but lots of cool stuff coming. And I also wanted to share something that I. Came in from Ireland that really [00:01:00] touched my heart. This is from someone who joined the Gabby coaching app in late July and she was a longtime listener of the show and then she joined my app and she said, hi Gabby.

I downloaded your app on the 26th of July, and I absolutely love it. I've listened to over 2000 minutes already and I'm on day 17 of the Trust the Universe Challenge, which has been the game changer. Thank you so much for all your amazing work you've done. I'm reading The Universe Has Your Back right now, and it's exactly the message I needed to hear.

I love. This. I love this. I love this. I love seeing how people are really committing to the inner work and witnessing those deep shifts inside of themselves, which is what I've been in awe of lately, truly. And that's what this week's episode is all about. This is your tools that you can come back to over and over again to let go of the past, to stay in spiritual alignment and to let yourself off the hook, to shift your mindset in the moment.

So in today's episode, I'm actually sharing a talk from way back in 2014. This is one you really, really [00:02:00] want to listen to. Super spiritual, super aligned. Definitely listen, because it's a message that never expires. I'm gonna walk you through what forgiveness really means. How to stop judging yourself so harshly, how to let go of the past.

The simple steps that you can do to reconnect with that spiritual light when you're drifting into fear and separation. And this is a real spiritual deep dive. I want you to listen through it all the way to the end. It's so beautiful and I can promise you that this audio is gonna help you find something to use right away and start practicing in your life.

So let's get into it. Enjoy this beautiful talk, I wanna teach you about forgiveness because people look at forgiveness and they're like, well, how could I possibly forgive my abuser? How could I forgive my husband who treated me like crap for decades? How could I forgive that boss? How could I forgive myself for all that I have done? Many people come to me and say, how do I [00:03:00] forgive?

Forgiveness is much easier than we make it. I had an experience of teaching forgiveness to someone who I thought already knew. I was at a wedding last week for a really close friend of mine, and we all sort of work in the same field. So my publisher was there. This is the woman who buys my books and I'm sitting with her and I'm looking at her and I'm like, things have been interesting.

I've been having some really effed up thoughts lately. And I've been really judgmental and I've been really nasty to myself and others in my mind, and she looks at me and she's in horror. She looks at me and she goes, you and I go, yeah, yeah, yeah. Don't worry. I got this. The miracle is that even though in the midst of that chaos and that darkness and that judgment and that separation and all those attack thoughts. I forgive [00:04:00] myself instantly. I choose again the moment I witness the thought, I recognize I have detoured into fear.

I choose again. It is a very simple practice that took a lot of cultivation and exercising. I've gotten really freaking good at it. And so I wasn't actually sitting there to tell her about how difficult things were. I was actually telling her how awesome things had gotten because I've been in this practice of witnessing that darkness and choosing again, witnessing that darkness and choosing again, and that is the miracle of forgiveness, is that forgiveness is simply a choice.

It's a choice in any given moment to be the nonjudgmental witness of your fears and look at those fears without judgment, with lots of love and compassion, and in an instant say, I choose again. I forgive myself. I forgive this thought. I forgive this person who may have harmed me. I forgive this situation [00:05:00] most of the time, guys, it's, I forgive this thought you all probably walk around with some pretty gnarly thoughts.

I hear these thoughts. I get to witness you. I get to see you. A young woman told me a story about what she thinks about herself. She's a young woman who's perceives herself as overweight, and when she walks in the streets of New York City and she maybe she trips over a rock on the street, her instant thought is, girl, you suck.

Horrible, right? How can we speak to ourselves like that? You know what you say? You know where you go, but we have a way out, and that's what I wanna talk about today. We have a massive way out and it's very, very clear, and it's very, very simple, and we just need to start to exercise it. And many of you, whether if you're here on these mats at this time, you've begun the journey of exercising it, whether you realize it or not, you are already with me.

I had a great opportunity of witnessing what the first step in this [00:06:00] process of unlearning and remembering is the first step. Is witnessing non-judgmental, witnessing being the witness of your fear, being the witness of when you've detoured into darkness, how you've detoured. I was on an airplane last week.

I've been traveling a lot. I've been on the road you guys since, oh my God, I don't even remember, like almost eight, nine days ago. I've run out of underwear, thank God I manifested underwear today. I was washing my underwear in the sink and I was like, this is not cute. This is not good. And then I was walking back to my room and this woman runs up to me.

She's in a little booth over there and she goes, oh my God. Oh my God, I just wanted to give you something. I, I love you and I just wanted to give you something. And she's like, I hope this isn't too weird. But we have underwear.

Thank you, universe, but I've been on the road so much that I ran out of underwear. Okay. My first leg of my trip, I'm going from Nantucket to. New York, New York to [00:07:00] Utah. Stop being in Utah to Santa Fe. It was a wicked trip and I was on my last leg of my trip and I'm sitting on the plane and there's no one sitting next to me.

And you know that moment you start Instagraming, you're like, hell yes, the seat's empty. And so I get psyched, you know, I'm like, this is awesome. And the doors are about to close, and this man steps onto the plane and he starts putting his luggage above my head. I'm like, great, I don't wanna talk to anybody, and now I have to sit next to this man.

So he comes and he sits down next to me and I put on my headphones and I start listening to my mantras. I'm just like, I gotta get outta here. I start to do my thing and I zen out and the stewardess comes by and she starts to offer us our meal. And she says to me, do you want a salad or do you want this sub that has bacon and sausage airplane food doesn't do it for me. [00:08:00] And so I, I, I said, absolutely not. No, thank you. I've got my seeds. Thank you. And, and in that moment, the man next to me says, I'll have the sandwich. And then judgmental dark side of me goes, oh God, man, don't do this. I said this in my mind, don't donate the sandwich.

And I'm like, it's not healthy. I know you don't want that. It's not gonna be good. The whole fucking story, you know, it's like, don't. Eat the sandwich. So I try to forget about it. I go back to sleep and I used to like to talk on planes, but I got over that. I talk enough, so said I'm gonna just take a nap, made my nap.

10 minutes later, the sandwich comes. It's like she's gotta put the sandwich on. So he's eating his sandwich and I'm like already awake and I'm pissed off that I'm awake. So I'm like, forget it. I'll just get on the internet. So I'm sitting there with my go-go wifi, just getting into it, and I'll go into the back end of my website because I'm working on the search engine optimization on my site.

And so I go into the back end of the site and I'm just twiddling around and I see this one blog and it says, how to Change Your Diet. [00:09:00] And so I go in and I start writing tags, how to lose weight, how to eat more mindfully. EFT for losing weight addiction to food overeaters anonymous, like I'm typing in every tag you could imagine.

And this man looks over at me with his beautiful blue eyes and he says, how do I do that?
I looked at him and I said, you sitting next to the right girl?

Started to teach him tapping emotional freedom technique. It unlocks addictions. I start talking to him about my addiction recovery and all that I've been through. I tell him about my mother, who is an overeater. I tell him about my book may cause miracles and I get his address so I can send him a copy.

I get him all hooked up. I start emailing him blogs. I'm sending him tips. We are in it. [00:10:00] We are in it. And he starts to just tell me about how his wife is so thin and his daughters are so thin, and he says, you know, I, I'm so glad that my girls got her jeans. He says, you know, I just, I really wanna change. I look at him, I say, you've got the first step, man.

You just said it. I really want to change. Whether you realize it or not, you just opened an invisible door. Your desire to change allowed you to speak up when you were sitting next to a self-help book author. That is how God works, man. You said, I want that. And an invisible door opened, invisible wings spread for you.

And here we are. We've been emailing for a few weeks now. And the email exchanges have been beautiful and the books have been [00:11:00] sent and he's on his path. It's like, okay, I did that tapping thing. I think it works, and that's how Spirit works. When we have the opportunity to witness our behavior and invite in that presence, that's when we are guided to sit next to the self-help book author on the plane. We have these moments of divine recognition and divine guidance. When we open that invisible door with the simple words, I wanna change, that's your step people. An invitation, a sacred invitation.

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You've just heard me talk about the first step, becoming the non-judgmental witness of your fear and how even in everyday moments we can choose again. Now I wanna take you deeper into what happens after you ask for guidance and how staying present with the miracles unfolding right in front of you can transform everything two and a half years ago, I'm walking through my spiritual experience and I'm witnessing my life and I'm seeing how I'm feeling quite disconnected [00:20:00] physically.

I was a great student of a Course in Miracles. I was very, very dedicated to metaphysics. I'd been doing all my forgiveness practices. I'd been reprogramming my thinking, but I was feeling disconnected and I started to say, I need a miracle. I need help. Show me what you got. And then one day out of nowhere, I was invited to a yoga class, a private yoga class in New York City.

And I, I, I'm thinking to myself, you know, I don't, I don't really like yoga, but it was a yoga class and a dinner. So I don't like yoga, but I like dinner. So I was like, okay, I'll go. I'll go, I'll go. And I wanted to hang out with the people that were going. So I showed up and I walked into this tiny little yoga studio in New York City and I saw this beautiful 70-year-old woman with a turban, a gown, a beautiful mala beads strung.

Sitting on this tiny little stage, [00:21:00] smiling, the biggest smile you have ever seen. So much joy was just beaming from this woman, and the moment I walked in the door, I felt elevated in her presence. I felt elevated in her existence. I felt like the room was starting to expand. This tiny little yoga studio became as big as this tent.

It was so magnificent. It was so big. It was so loud, and she wasn't saying anything. Her presence was her power, and so I sat myself down on that yoga mat and I started waving my hands in the air and barking and, and breathing really fast. And then hysterically crying, hysterically crying buckets of tears moving through me.

And in the middle of the class I screamed, I have found my yoga, and she looked at me and she [00:22:00] goes, mm-hmm. You know what I'm talking about because you know the magnitude of being fully present and that prayer that I had asked when I said, I need to know more, God, show me what you've got. I need more was answered by that invitation to go to that yoga studio that day.

Because not only did I get on that mat that day, but I went the next day. I went the next day, I went the next day. 28 days later, I signed up for a teacher training. 270 hours later, I am a teacher. And all of that physical presence that I was longing for in my practice and that busting through of those blocks and that greater connection to spirit has been gifted to me because I asked.

I witnessed the detour that I had taken. I asked for help. I was guided to what I needed. Witness the fear. Ask for help. Be guided back. The next step is to witness the miracles that [00:23:00] are in front of you, because I could have asked and listened and gone to that yoga studio, but not been present enough to witness the light.

I could have been walking in on my phone, Instagramming the Buddhas downstairs, talking on the phone as I come in the room, just, you know, sizing everybody up, looking at their outfits, thinking about the jewelry they were wearing, figuring out what was for dinner. No, I was witnessing. The miracles that were being bestowed upon me witnessing.

And so in the presence of that witnessing, we are gifted the reconnection to the light. And as we become that witness and we become that opportunity of just allowing, allowing, allowing. So you are the non-judgmental witness. You are asking for the guidance, and then you accept what is gifted to you. You accept it.

I challenge you when you're in that separation. To choose again and to open your eyes and start to witness what is [00:24:00] around you to witness the light that is around you. Witness the light of your sisters and brothers who are laughing as they drink their juices and walk through this incredible mountain.

Just simply look up and witness the magnitude of the mountains we are surrounded by. So when you're in those moments of separation and attack and judgment, I really challenge you. I really invite you to just open up to choose again to ask. You'll be restored, you'll be rejuvenated, and all that separation will be dissolved by delight.

So you're living in a light now, right? You're witnessing, you're asking. You're being present in the miracle of the light, and life gets really groovy. And then you forget. You forget what it is. You forget what you're here to do. You forget where you're here to go, and you have these moments of [00:25:00] forgetting.
And you start to think, you know, what is my purpose? What am I here for? What am I doing? I'm going to this job every day that I hate, or I just, in this marriage, that's not what it's meant to be, and I feel stuck.

Anybody feeling stuck? Anybody feeling blocked? I have one last story of how to get back into the light.
I have a very, very dear friend who has been a banker for a decade. He's been stuck in this job where he feels so lost and so blocked and so disconnected from the job that he is here to do. And in that stuckness, in that blackness, he came to me asking for help. He said, I need help. I said, okay, well, you've been on this journey for a while.

You've been doing this work, and I, and I'm gonna start to just give you some tools. And so he started to bring those tools in, but then he got lost and he got to a really, really dark place, a real dark place of just being pissed about his life. I'm sitting with my friend about a week and a half later, and he's just sitting there and I look at him and I [00:26:00] say, I have a message for you.

And I don't know where this was coming from. I was just allowing, there was voices coming in and I was just allowing, and it was a just undeniable connection. I just said, just sit down. I know you're ready for this. I've got a message for you. Your job is not to be the best banker. Banker. Your job is not to be the best at the spreadsheets.

Your job is not to make the most money on Wall Street. Your job is not to have the best suit in the room. Your job is not to bring in the most clients. Your job is to be the light. Your job is to be the light in a really dark environment. Your job is to leave your positive attitude in an energy where it is so toxic and greedy and negative in an environment where the boss is leading with an iron fist.

Your job is to leave your light. Your job is to give a better perspective to your coworkers. Your job is to raise the vibration by just living in the [00:27:00] joy of who you are, man. Your job is to be the light. And for whatever reason that day he was willing to receive the gospel of Gabby. And he just stood there and he was like, okay, I'll be the light.

He went to work and he, and he put on his little outfit, his little Prada suit, little tie, and he walked into his office and he stood really tall and he looked around and he said, I'm the light.

He didn't say that out loud, but he, he said it. I'm the light. I called him about two weeks later and I said, Hey, how's it going? Oh, you know, good. Just be in the light.

That is the [00:28:00] brilliance people. That is the simplicity. When we dwell in the light and the joy of who we are here to be, all boundaries are removed. All of our intentions and desire to live in our purpose comes forward. All of that truth comes forward. When we start to live in the joy and the presence of our light.

When we start to release the boundaries with that light, that is when it is restored. You have this opportunity, and this is my call to action for you. This is my invitation to you. I invite you to get over yourselves. I invite you to release the judgment and the attack and the separation. One negative thought at a time.

One attack thought at a time. One moment at a time. I invite you to let go of your disconnect from your purpose, and remember that when you are only in that presence of my purpose is to be in joy. My purpose is to be the light and in my presence, the room is [00:29:00] vibrating in my presence. The room is magnetic in my presence.

The room begins to expand. That is your job, and I invite you to join me on this experience. Of being in this beautiful, magnificent world at this time, being the witness of all of the miracles that are available to us, taking ownership of the gift that you were given as a Western citizen, as a person who is living here with the privileges of being able to be in a tent like this, own that right now.

Be with me right now in that presence of how freaking lucky you are, how blessed you are. And do not take it for granted. Take responsibility. Take responsibility for the gifts that you have been given, for the privileges that you have and the opportunity that you have and you know who you are. You know that if you made it to this mat, you are the one [00:30:00] that will wake up.

And as a teacher of the light, it is my duty and my mission to remind you of that. You are here on a journey of unlearning and remembering you are here and you have access to the light at all times. It's through your journey of unlearning and remembering that you remember and accept the presence of the light that you are.

And in the presence of that light, you become joyful. And in your joy, you heal the world. In that joy, you heal the. If today's episode sparked something in you, I have hundreds more forgiveness, surrender, and mindset shifting practices waiting for you. Inside my Gabby coaching app, you'll find my guided meditations daily lessons, my most powerful methods for manifesting my 21 day challenges.

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Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this [00:32:00] episode. Hi there, Gabby here. This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I'm not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice.

If you are suffering from a psychological or medical condition, please seek help from a qualified health professional.