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Several years ago, I was driving to Birmingham, England, with Jessica, who was my British publicist. We had worked together for years whenever I launched a new book in the UK.

On the train ride through the countryside, Jessica said to me, “I love my job, but one day I want to leave London and live in the country.”

I replied, “Well, you know, Jess, with your career path, you could work from home. And who knows, maybe one day you could work for me.”

One year later, she decided to move to the countryside and part ways with her employer. Within a month of taking that leap of faith, I reached out and offered her a job. 

Now, more than seven years later, she’s the COO of our business! 

This story reminds us of the power of our intentions. 

when we fearlessly state our desires out loud, we send a message to the Universe (whether we realize it or not)

These powerful statements are actually seeds being planted for a greater plan.

I went back to London a couple of months ago (with Jess!) to give a live talk on manifesting and host a powerful Q&A with unscripted real-time coaching. And now I’m sharing it on Dear Gabby.  

in this episode, you’ll learn how to:
  • Fearlessly claim your desires and shift your mindset to send a powerful message to the Universe
  • Stop blocking your abundance by identifying and addressing limiting beliefs
  • Approach those beliefs with compassion so you can fully release your attachment to them
  • Commit to a way of living that will help you see beyond the limits of fear
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For more support on your manifesting journey, here are 3 more tips to attract your desires: 

1. take inspired action

Inspired action means taking a step forward from a place of alignment and flow. It’s about surrendering to the present moment and allowing yourself to be guided and inspired to do something, rather than forcing it. 

When we take inspired action, we’re not just following a to-do list or checking off tasks for the sake of productivity. Rather, we’re taking action that feels aligned with our true purpose and calling. We’re listening to our intuition and allowing it to guide us toward the next steps on our journey.

Inspired action is often accompanied by a feeling of ease and joy, rather than stress or being overwhelmed. It’s about trusting that the Universe has our back and that everything is unfolding exactly as it should.

So if you’re feeling stuck or unsure of what to do next, try tuning in to your intuition and asking for guidance. Trust that the answers will come. And when they do, take inspired action toward your desires. 

2. release limiting beliefs

It’s also important to release any limiting beliefs or negative thoughts that may be blocking your manifestation. These can come in the form of doubts, fears or old patterns of behavior. 

Maybe you believe you’re not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough to achieve your dreams. Or maybe you think success is only for other people.

These limiting beliefs put up roadblocks in our minds and prevent us from seeing the possibilities that are all around us. The good news is that we can learn to release them and free ourselves from their grip.

One powerful tool for releasing limiting beliefs is to first become aware of them. Start paying attention to the thoughts that come up when you’re feeling stuck or discouraged. Write them down and examine them objectively. Ask yourself if they’re really true, or if they’re just stories that you’ve been telling yourself for years.

Once you’ve identified your limiting beliefs, challenge them and look for evidence to the contrary. For example, if you believe you’re not talented enough to pursue your dream career, ask yourself if there are any skills or experiences you have that could help you succeed. Reframe the belief from “I’m not good enough” to “I have room for growth and improvement.”

Another powerful technique for releasing limiting beliefs is to practice affirmations. Affirmations are positive statements you repeat to yourself to help shift your mindset. For example, you could repeat, “I am capable of achieving my goals,” or, “I am deserving of success,” several times a day. This helps reprogram your mind with new, positive beliefs.

Finally, practice this prayer: 

Thank you, Spirit, for your guidance. I surrender this grievance to you, and I welcome you in to reorganize all limiting beliefs back to love.

Releasing limiting beliefs is a process. It takes time and practice. But the rewards are well worth the effort. By letting go of these beliefs, you’ll open yourself up to new opportunities and create a life that’s truly fulfilling.

3. trust in the process

Trusting that the Universe has your back (no matter what) is the greatest gift you can give yourself. It’s about being in a place where, regardless of what’s happening around you, you can trust that things are working out for your highest good. 

When you believe the Universe is guiding you, obstacles and difficult situations become divine spiritual assignments that help you grow. You learn to let go of control and surrender to the flow of life. 

The Universe works in mysterious ways, and what you desire may come to you in unexpected ways or at unexpected times. Trust that everything is unfolding for your highest good and that the Universe has your back.

You have the power to create the life you desire through manifesting.

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By aligning your thoughts, beliefs and actions with the energy of what you want to attract, you can manifest your dreams into reality.

This episode will help you recognize that the Universe is not only supporting your desires, but also your healing, your growth and your inner light. 

Once you tap into the energy of abundance and focus on feeling good, you can trust that the Universe will deliver exactly what you need, at exactly the right time. 

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dear gabby #126 Mar 24, 2023 spiritual connection 39 min

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Hi there, Gabby here. This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I’m not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from a psychological or medical condition, please seek help from a qualified health professional.

Hey there. Welcome to Dear Gabby. I’m your host Gabby Bernstein, and if you landed here, it is absolutely no accident. It means that you’re ready to feel good and manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams. Let’s get started.

Welcome back, my friends. Welcome back. Today’s topic is big. This is a big topic today. It’s about releasing the beliefs that hold us back from living our best life. When we have a belief system that’s not in alignment with the life that we want, we’re gonna stay stuck in the beliefs that we don’t want, and I want you to think about that for a second.

I want you to really ask yourself, what is it that I believe that’s blocking me from living the life that I genuinely want to live? Today’s episode, I’m coaching three people from my live talk in London, and in these conversations we explore how you can claim your desires and let them unfold completely naturally, and how you can overcome the limiting beliefs that are holding you back from manifesting the life that you want and really claiming it.

I’m gonna teach you how to commit to a way of living that will help you see beyond all limits and fears. This is a process of becoming curious about the beliefs that are holding you back and to really witness with compassion those belief systems, so that we can help really heal and transform the way that we experience our life.

And because when we fearlessly state our desires out loud, and when we send that message loud and clear to the universe, we are gonna experience radical change. And I told you this is gonna be a big episode today, so I strongly encourage that you get comfortable. Listen, take it all in. Enjoy the show.

It’s funny, there’s wild Brits coming through. You’re gonna love it. Enjoy the show.

GABBY: All right. Who’s first? Who’s first? Send them up, Jess. I styled Jessica tonight and I’m so happy with her outfit.

Hi, love. You are Numero uno. We’re here. What’s your name?

RULA: Rula. R U L A.

GABBY: Rula. Okay. Rula, how may I help you? We’re very close. This is so exciting.

RULA: We are so close and I just love you so much and yeah, it just felt so emotional when you picked me because I just did all what you were saying. I just imagined like it had already happened.

I, there was no urgency.

GABBY: When you raised your hand? Right on. You’re already doing the work. Rula, how can I help you, my love?

RULA: So I do sometimes experience urgency in some areas of my life. In other areas, I can really let go. And I experience urgency with men and I think that might be related to having a biological clock.

And I’m 38 years old and I also experience guilt cuz I feel like there’s so much that I want, but I, there’s also so much that I have, like I’ve created an amazing life and I’m scared that if I have more and have it all, that I will trigger my friends and make them feel bad. But part of me also believes, well, I can have it all and then, take them with me and also show them the way.

GABBY: That was a nice reframe. Okay. There’s a few things happening here. The energy that you tapped into when you wanted me to pick you, what was that like? What did you do to allow that to happen? Because I’m not kidding you all. I felt it. I felt it, number one. Right? So what was it that you did?

RULA: It was like if I got on stage with Gabby afterwards, I would be buzzing. I’d feel high and I just, I felt it anyway.

GABBY: You felt that feeling in the moment? You felt the buzzing in that moment?

RULA: Yeah. Yeah. And then I guess there was a part that was like, I don’t need to be on stage, cuz I already have the buzz of being on stage with you.

GABBY: That’s right; that’s right. I’m feeling it now. I’m experiencing it. So you’re actually Dear Gabby-ing yourself right now. So work, sweetheart. Sit with me for a moment. I wanna give you the opportunity to see how what you did right there is exactly what I want you to be doing for your relationship.

I want you to be in that visionary mode. I already… her energy’s like, no, I lost you cuz you, there’s disbelief. I see it. I There’s some disbelief, right? Yeah. Yeah. So what would make it possible for you to open up your heart to start being in that energy of excitement? Positive anticipation. The feeling of what it is that you desire.

Could you write it out, write a journal, and to start to write out what that feeling would be like to be in that romantic relationship? What would it feel like for you?

RULA: Um, I think what’s blocking is like feeling worthy of the type of man and the type of relationship, and then feeling scared that I’ll upset my friends that might not have it or people that don’t have it. But the, to answer your question, sorry…

GABBY: I’m gonna ask you though, do you think that your desire to just, to like dim your light for your friends is actually connected to the desire to have a partner?

RULA: Maybe, um, related to desires in general.

GABBY: Okay, great. So there’s a belief that I am not worthy of my desires.

RULA: Yeah.

GABBY: Okay. Okay. But that was completely gone in this room tonight.

RULA: Yeah.

GABBY: You gave it over. So the point I’m making is what you did right there is no different than doing that for a romantic relationship or for the career beyond your wildest dreams or for all the things that you’re manifesting into your life.

And you nailed it when you said, well, if I can do it, then I can show them that they can do it too. So do you want your sisters and friends and all these people in your life to be dimming their light?

RULA: No.

GABBY: So treat yourself the way you would treat them, be the light so they can see that light within them.

So there is a belief system that if I’m too great that others will not like me or I won’t be loved. And that’s a deep core wound. That’s a deep core wound. Hang on. Okay. I need more Happy Days up here. Okay. So I want you to do the work on that. Right? Start there with that, because I know that’s not the book that you wanted me to hand to you.

You were like, can I have some Super Attractor and just start attracting this into my life? No. But right now, my love, there is a belief system that if I’m…

You guys get me. Here’s the deal, guys. I can sit here and tell you every method inside Super Attractor and every method inside The Universe has Your Back and give you every single deck and talk to you about how you are the light, and you are a perfect manifestation of what it is that you desire. All that is true.

All that’s true, but if you don’t do the deeper work, you will never believe that you are worthy of what you desire and you will continue to block it.

We can’t wash over the reality that the beliefs that we keep thinking, the storyline. The storyline, the storyline is the belief system of our life. And in order to really, truly attract what we desire into our life, we have to undo those belief systems. And let me tell you something, that is manifesting. This is my greatest manifesting book yet.

This is my greatest manifesting book yet because when you do… Anybody done the work here? Has anyone done Happy Days? Gone through it. Can I hear some hell yeses out there? Yes. Yes. But do you see that? That’s like 15% of the room.

Now how many of have read The Universe has Your Back? Yes. So this is what I’m talking about.

Next level it, people. Next level it, people. This is not easy stuff and it’s not like get a sign and all that and that’s great and all that’s fun and all that works. But if you really want it to work, because you could do a book like this and you could do a book like Super Attractor and you start attracting, attracting into your life and manifesting a life beyond your wildest dreams.

But then one second, this little thing flips, or the guy doesn’t call back, or the job doesn’t continue to be as exactly how you thought it was gonna be. And boom, you’re triggered right back into that core wound of Oh! Not good enough, I’m not worthy. It’s not there, it’s not happening. Of course, things aren’t gonna work out for me.

And so do both. Practice all the principles of cultivating the energy of what you desire, just like you did tonight, Rula. And get to work on the belief systems that are holding you back from living the life that you truly want to live. Okay?

Because Rula, tonight, believed that she could get on the stage, but she also believed that if I don’t get on the stage, I’m gonna feel great. And I’m gonna feel that feeling no matter what, and I’m gonna create more of that feeling. You can do that in every area of your life as soon as you start to undo the stories that are holding you back.

Okay, my love? But the method that you did right there, once you start to release those beliefs, that’s what I want you to do for everything. Believe it to receive it. Nice one, Rula.

RULA: Thank you, Gabby.

GABBY: What a beautiful example. Go read that book, Rula. I wanna hear from you. I want you to send me some notes.

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GABBY: All right, who do we have here? This beautiful lady with her leather skirt. Hello, love.

GUEST: I love you Gabby. Can I just take in this moment? I’ve tried to join your Zoom so many times, but always be doing a school run or something and I was always like, it’s okay. The time will come. So…

GABBY: And here we are. IRL. Dear Gabby live.

GUEST: I’m so grateful right now. So my questions tell many things I want to ask, but the one that the most prominent right now, I guess is how do I stay consistent? In this belief like, so it’s nice, you know, when this meditation that you just put us through was just so gorgeous. And when you’re in that moment, you feel it with your full heart.

But then, then there’s. The other 23 hours and 55 minutes. That that.

GABBY: How do you do it? Yeah.

GUEST: How can we just stay so focused and so consistent on that route? Cuz I’m going through a massive transition from leaving the corporate career behind. Retraining into wellness cuz I wanted to be that mother who’s there for her child and…

And it’s so scary and it’s so humbling. And even though I’m qualified, I’m almost 40, I’m knocking on these doors and somebody who is new in this wellness world and I’m getting rejection, I believe it, but I just need to focus and stick to the vision.

GABBY: Okay, so first things first. Don’t wait to be picked.

Okay? So, start doing it now in this wellness world, I’m sure there’s many things that you could do for free or in your household or for your child or for your home or whatever that might be a friend, and get into the feeling and the act of the service that what it is that you desire. Listen, honey, I taught myself how to be a public speaker on these stages for free for five years, right?

Not that that’s gonna be the length of time. Just get into it now. Start doing the thing that you’ve been dreaming of, okay? And there’s no excuse. You know, you’re like, I don’t have time. You don’t have time for your greatest desire? Make it. Make it.

GUEST: Thank you.

GABBY: Yes, you’re doing it. Start doing it now. Okay. That’s number one.

Then yes, you’re gonna have these fleeting moments where you’re like, boom, Gabby Bernstein just downloaded all this stuff for me. I said this meditation, I feel so good. Yeah? Okay. But I’m not gonna sit here for the next two years with you in this room, right? And so, although you can listen to me all day along on my podcast or whatever, right?

Or miracle membership, you can listen. So use whatever it is, whether it’s me or another meditation or another person out there to be in that energy and return to it regularly throughout the day. So maybe more than once throughout the day. Then in those moments when that fear is gonna come in, because that’s gonna be the majority, right? The fear is the first responder.

Until we actually start to lower the volume on that fear and raise the volume on our inspiration. And what happens is the more we practice these principles and practice these principles and practice these principles, the more that love voice becomes the loudest voice in the room.

But it takes commitment, it takes conviction, it takes repetition. It’s also what you’re gonna be teaching. So you wanna be going to school every day for yourself. You got me? Yeah. And truly, that’s for all of you. I want you all to be teaching these methods in your own life. So you have to go to school every day for yourself.

Be in the experience of what it is that you want to share, and know it in your body. Get to know it in your body. Get to know that shift. Last week I had this beautiful impromptu therapy session with Gabor Maté. Okay. Like ‘the guy’ and he’s helping me out with something. It wasn’t therapies. I mean, he’s calling to help me with something, but he got right to it.

And he said, you know, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot. You’re not in your authentic truth in this area. And I said, holy sh*t, like, yes, I got that. But you know what, that was decades of reconditioning, reconditioning, reconditioning, believing something different to be able to be in that moment with Gabor Maté and say, oh my God, I feel that and I see that.

So we have to do the day-to-day work to have that quantum shift of, ‘Oh my God, I see it.’ Okay?

So, my love, in this situation, I want you to be in the daily repetition of choosing again. Now, for you right now, I’m not getting it. I’m 40. I’m turning 40. I’m not getting the job. That’s the story. We heard the story, right? And we know how that makes you feel like sh*t, right?

Okay. Can you forgive yourself for having that thought right now? Yeah. She’s like right away. Yeah. She’s like, and she went like this. Hmm. Because you know what? The thought is usually a young part of us. It’s usually a child part of us that’s super struggling. And so, the moment that we forgive that child part of us, it’s like, oh, I can be seen now because I don’t have to hide anymore.

And so by forgiving that part of you, what would be the next thing you would wanna say to that resistance? What would be the next best-feeling thought?

GUEST: There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re worthy of it. You can absolutely do it.

GABBY: Yes. What else? Tell me more.

GUEST: I love you.

GABBY: You love me? Okay. As in you love you.

GUEST: Of course. I love you, but as in, I love myself as in to that, to that younger part.

GABBY: Yes. I love myself and she loves me too. Okay. I love myself. Yes. Okay. And more and more, what else would you say?

GUEST: Take action.

GABBY: Okay. Right on. I felt that, did you guys feel that? Yeah. Take action. Anything else?

GUEST: Keep going.

GABBY: Keep going. They’re all saying it to you. Believe you already got it, but here… Yeah. But do you know what I wanna just share with you? If you are, you have children, right? If any of them came to you and were like, mommy, it’s not working out, what would you say?

I love. Take action. Keep going.

GUEST: Don’t give up.

GABBY: Don’t give up. So can you see? Yeah. Take that in. Yeah.

[APPLAUSE]

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Notice how it makes you feel. Forgive yourself for having the feeling, and then she was just going for it, going for it, and going for it. And start to treat yourself with that kindness. People, I do this all damn day long. And so, you’re like, okay, how do you feel good? I choose to. It’s a lot of work to think with negative thoughts all day long.

It’s a lot less work to reprogram them. Okay, nice, nice one.

[APPLAUSE]

GUEST: Thank you so much.

GABBY: Beautiful, sweetheart.

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GABBY: All right, who’s next?

[APPLAUSE]

GABBY: Hello, gorgeous.

TISHA: Hello.

GABBY: How you doing?

TISHA: I’m so good. I feel so blessed to be on this stage and just in your presence right now. So first of all, just thank you for inviting me on this stage.

GABBY: What’s your name, baby?

TISHA: My name is Tisha.

GABBY: Tisha?

TISHA: Yeah. And I’m from Birmingham. So me and my friend Renee…

GABBY: I went to Birmingham today. I went to Birmingham. I had a raw food dinner. This was a hundred years ago. Ok. Yes. Jessica and I went to Birmingham, and on our way to Birmingham we manifested. Can I tell that story before we start?

TISHA: Yeah. Okay.

GABBY: So, Jessica, our COO of my company who used to formerly, yes, Jess Hot outfit. She used to work for Hay House, who’s hosting you tonight, and she used to be backstage with me and just making sure the lights were going and the audio is on in all different on stages all over England.

And she also did the promotions from my book. She got my second book in the Sunday Times. I mean, she was just on fire for me and we were driving to Birmingham and she’s like, I love my job so much and I’m gonna be here for a while, but there’s one day I wanna live in the countryside and it’s hard to commute from London to the countryside.

And I said, well, you know, Jess, your career path lends it that you could either work from home for them or you could be in PR in some way, shape, or form. And I said, but maybe one day, maybe one day you’d work for me. And I just said it. And when she did decide to move to the countryside and she loved the company, she tried working for Hay House over the phone and coming in, it was too hectic.

And she said, I need to be home. And then within a month of her leaving, I said, come work with me. And seven years later, she’s the COO of our business. And … we can’t do without her.

[APPLAUSE]

We can’t do it without her. And that story, I think is in Super Attractor. And I share that because these moments in time when it seems like it’s nothing, actually are seeds being planted for something so much more.

And here she is again, back with her Hay House family doing, you know, working it again backstage. So that was our Jessica story. Let’s carry on to you.

TISHA: Yes. So first of all, I just wanted to say it again. Thank you for having me here. When you first mentioned bringing people on the stage today, I automatically started visualizing, how would you pinpoint me out of the audience?

Like what would you say? And I was thinking, okay, I’ve got black on, I’ve got my hair out today for the first time in how long? So maybe she’ll mention these things. And I didn’t realize that subconsciously I was probably so in a seat there. And then, because that happened, and one thing that I always advocate for, because I do, I like to speak and just spread positive messages to people.

One main thing I always say is have the audacity. So I said to my friend up there, when you said, who wants to come up? I said, let’s just have the audacity because if she chooses us, who knows? Um, so, you know, I had the confidence when I seen my friend then starting to whoop her hand, and I thought, I always promote being audacious, have the audacity.

So just do it because you’re proving a point now to other people that if you don’t have it, then you know you are actually being quite self-limiting in just not having the cheek to do something.

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GABBY: Is there anybody out there? Is there anybody out there who didn’t have the cheek to raise their hand?

I have no idea what I’m saying. I’m like speaking British right now. Okay. That wanted to come up though, that didn’t have the cheek and… Sir, I’d like you to stand up, my love, and come back over here. You’re next. You’re next. You’re next. Did you notice that all the women who’ve come up so far are like the performers and the presenters and the, they all had the cheeks.

TISHA: Yes.

GABBY: But, and that’s all fine, but I’m gonna get more of, no, you know, no cheekers up here. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Now how can I help you? Thank you for that cuz now we got a new guy coming up. Yeah. How can I help you baby?

TISHA: So I think, like I said, I’m somebody that likes this. It’s a passion for me to wanna speak and help people, whether that’s to be the best version of themselves physically or mentally.

And since I’ve decided to embark on that journey off the back of reading The Universe Has Your Back, that has really spiritually aided me. And I sent you a message recently saying that and you replied. So thank you. Yeah, that meant. So since I’ve started going on that journey, I’ve felt like I’ve been really working on my purpose.

And this year, I really do wanna take things to new heights and hopefully I can do it as a proper career and be able to earn money from it. But hopefully off the back of that, then I can move out and get a home for me and my daughter because I’m gonna be raw and real, and that’s part of what my authenticity is, just being real and open.

I’ve grown up in a home where it’s not what I would want for myself or my daughter moving forward. And I guess it’s almost been a self-limiting belief that I’ve grown up with feeling like I’m not gonna get that home that I fantasize about or that I see other people with or that I see online. And I just want support with letting go of that self-limiting belief. And really…

GABBY: When you have that belief come up, what does it feel like in your body?

TISHA: The thought of having the home? It feels amazing.

GABBY: Oh, it does.

TISHA: It feels so good. I feel at peace.

GABBY: Oh, good.

TISHA: Yeah, I feel so good just imagining me and my daughter being in that home.

GABBY: Oh, so why are you sitting here? No, but I imagine there’s a voice that comes in that’s sometimes not that.

TISHA: Yeah. Because that’s not my normal right now. So it just, and it’s also that fear of moving out and then having that financial responsibility and probably self-limiting beliefs surrounding money.

GABBY: So the limiting beliefs are around money. Mm-hmm. . Okay. So what does that feel like in your body when you get into that story about the money?

TISHA: As in the limiting side of it, it feels awful.

GABBY: Awful. Yeah.

TISHA: It feels stuck. It feels like I wanna cry. That’s how it makes me feel.

GABBY: Yeah. Yeah. And where is it in your body? Is it in a certain place?

TISHA: It is over my back. It’s in my stomach. Yeah. Mainly up here. How, okay.

GABBY: That part of you inside that you’re noticing, how long has it been around?

TISHA: It’s always been around, I feel like, because…

GABBY: Yeah. So it’s young. It’s been there for a while. Yeah.

TISHA: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

GABBY: And is there a visual or a memory that’s like when that feeling started to come into your life?

TISHA: I think the fear has always been there, cuz growing up I never felt comfortable, um, about everything in my home.

And then, because I’m still there, um, I guess the feeling has just grew more and more as I’ve got older.

GABBY: Okay. Okay. So you have a younger part of you that was activated by being in the home but you’re still living in the home. So that younger part is still very alive and inside of you?

TISHA: Yes.

GABBY: Okay. Now, if you were to ask that part of you what it needs right now… What might, is it a female? It sounds like a young girl.

TISHA: Yeah.

GABBY: What might she say if I asked her what she needs?

TISHA: To just stick at my dreams? Cause I know that I’m gonna get out. Um, so I guess it’s just to stick at what I’m doing because I do have the ability to visualize and feel what that vision brings to me.

But I guess sometimes I can get stuck in the moment of what’s happening right now. And then, I just sort of need to be able to not stay in that moment so much. And just…

GABBY: What if, but what if she was in that moment? What does she need in that moment?

TISHA: Some compassion.

GABBY: There you go, my love.

TISHA: Yeah. Yeah. Mm-hmm.

GABBY: What else?

TISHA: Patience. Just the strength and the determination and the faith. Um, that I know that my vision has power and purpose. I know why. I feel like I know a decent amount of why I was put on this earth and why I was given this life. So I know sometimes that I have to place that power in something bigger than me, and that’s how I know that it’s true because…

Really? The universe has never failed me.

GABBY: Yeah, yeah.

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Wow. Okay. And you wanna to do work like this? Like writing, writing books or putting…

TISHA: So I think because I know that lots of people go through the root of education and then they can speak off the back of that. But I pride myself of having the combination of yes, education, but lived experience.

And I think the lived experience…

GABBY: Yeah, what do you wanna do with it?

TISHA: I want, I wanna be able to share that with other people because sometimes not everyone has the audacity to say what they’re thinking.

GABBY: In what ways do you wanna share?

TISHA: I wanna be able to be in spaces like this. That’s why I’m so grateful to come on the stage, because it’s the start of the year.

And I’ve started it in front of so many people.

GABBY: Driftwood, girl. Yeah.

TISHA: And it feels so good. Yeah.

GABBY: So you’re living it right now. You’re here at an event hosted by Hay House, which is the spiritual imprint. Yeah? Okay. I hear your voice and I’m like, oh, I wanna listen to that voice more. And I believe her and I feel it, and it feels so good to me, and I want more of that. And I believe her, and she has an experience that she’s here to share.

TISHA: Yes.

GABBY: And so, that’s happening. But the thing I wanna warn you of is that I’m noticing you’re overriding that younger part of you. And sometimes your spiritual beliefs can be almost like spiritual bypassing. Is anyone familiar with that?

And you know, listen, I had to do that for many years just to survive. Okay? Because the younger parts of me were so dark and traumatized that it was really hard to face into them. And so, what I want you to just all do, those of you who might resonate with this right now, is become the witness. Just notice when you’re in those triggered places, notice and get to know, right? Notice.

Know, what do I know about that part of me that’s inside that’s acting out or fearful or whatever it might be? And then need. What do you need right now? Because we are comprised of all these little children that are inside of us. Children who were told they weren’t good enough. Children who had trauma, children who had addiction in their household, children who had even the best upbringing in the world, but just were never felt seen because their parents were working too hard or whatever that story might be.

We all have these little children inside, and these children get super triggered all day long. They get activated, they react. They’re often, the children are out there running the business. The children are out there being the parent. The children inside of us are freaking out when the guy doesn’t call back.

And so, when we can extend compassion as she did by noticing that younger part inside and knowing, getting to know it, becoming curious about it, what do I know about that part of me? And then asking that part of you, what do you need right now? She said compassion and compassion is the quality of our resourced adult, undamaged self—the internal parent inside all of us.

And so her ability to tap into that compassion is what I want to see more of. I want you to spend time every day with that younger part of you and give her compassion and give her love, and not just in pep talk because the pep talk is like another protection mechanism.

TISHA: Yes.

GABBY: Okay. You’re great at a pep talk and you believe in the pep talk and I believe in it too.

TISHA: Yes.

GABBY: But it also is a defense mechanism. It’s a way of, and it’s a way that you’ve survived. Okay, my love? And so, we want to thank the pep talk and be like, okay sister, we love you. Keep your, you know, rah rah. But take a break for a moment. And go into that place of real inquiry.

TISHA: Mm-hmm. Yes.

GABBY: Okay? Because that little girl in you just needs more of you.

TISHA: I agree.

GABBY: Yes, love. Yes.

TISHA: Thank you so much.

GABBY: So your homework for tonight is to just open your heart and become curious. All of you become curious about those parts of you that may feel blocked and become curious about those parts of you that may be holding you back and be compassionate to them.

I want you to recognize that the universe is constantly in the support of not just the visions that you wanna create. The manifestations that you want to bring into your life. But the universe is supporting your healing, your growth, your inner light. And so I pray for all of you to start to welcome that presence of an energy beyond your own, and connect to the parts of you that feel lost, and feel scared, and feel afraid.

And to give yourself permission to be unapologetic about what you desire and to make your greatest desire to feel good, to feel good. Because when you feel good, everything can unfold naturally. Believe it to see it, my friends. Believe it, to see it and be willing to do whatever it takes to get to the belief system that you are worthy of what you desire.

I love you, London. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I will be back.

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