free meditation
photo of leaves

learn to fine tune your energy

Let me brag for a moment about my amazing makeup artist, Alex. 

She has the best freaking energy ever! 

Everyone loves her.

She’s fun, professional—and super high-vibe. 

Oh, and she’s amazing at doing my makeup. 

photo of gabby and makeup artist

So yes, the makeup’s great—but her talent is not the key to her success. Alex embodies the exact qualities that can create massive abundance in our lives. She has the secret ingredients. 

In this episode of Dear Gabby, I’ll unpack these success secrets for you. 

listen now

how to raise your vibration

How do the most successful people create their own opportunities? It’s ALL about the vibes.

The great news is this: You can elevate your vibration and bring high vibes to your work any time you want. 

If you’ve been working for years to fine-tune your skills, you might be focusing on the wrong things. I know. Frustrating, right?

  • Do you get close but never quite there with reaching your goals?
  • Maybe you even get interviews for your dream job—or you get the chance to pitch to your dream client—but it never quite works out.

In this episode, I’ll help you fine-tune your energy so you can break through to your wildest dreams.

Often we think our success comes from how much we do, how hard we push or how talented we are.

That’s actually bullsh&t.

what really matters is the heart, the connection and the energy that we bring to it

Alex now has tons of other high-profile clients and celebrities reaching out to her with requests. She is rocking her career. It’s not just because the makeup is great—it’s because she’s great.

Ready to experience that kind of success? 

listen now

Looking for more help fine-tuning your energy and attracting what you want?

Learn my methods for creating the life of your dreams in my book Super Attractor. I open up about my beliefs about loving, wise spiritual guides who can help you in every area of your life. 

in this episode, you’ll learn how to:
  • Fine-tune your energy so you can truly offer your highest and best efforts to anything you do
  • Check in with your energy and make adjustments in the moment
  • Raise your vibration and elevate every opportunity the Universe brings your way
  • Magnify your skills and expertise by bringing high vibes to your work environment 
  • Attract the right people to help you achieve your personal and professional goals

You could be the world’s greatest makeup artist or the BEST in your specific area of expertise—but until you reach a state of positive flow, you can’t fulfill your highest potential. 

listen now
get more gabby

free manifesting meditation to attract your desires

By submitting your number, you agree to receive recurring automated promotional marketing text messages from Dear Gabby, Inc. and Gabby Plus, Inc. at the cell number you entered above. Consent is not a condition of any purchase. Reply HELP for help and STOP to cancel. Msg frequency varies. Msg and data rates may apply. You also agree to our Terms & Privacy Policy.

disclaimer

This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I am not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from any psychological or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified health professional.

dear gabby #133 Apr 24, 2023 purpose 30 min

4 ways to manifest success

Listen on:

The following podcast is a Dear Media Production.

This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I’m not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from a psychological or medical condition, please seek help from a qualified health professional.

April is Alcohol Awareness Month, and that’s very meaningful to me. I’ve been sober for 17 and a half years, and my sobriety has given me everything, everything in my life. I wouldn’t be able to be here with you right here, right now, speaking to you on Dear Gabby, giving you guidance if it weren’t for my sober journey.

And throughout my sobriety, I’ve had the privilege of working with many organizations and there’s one that truly, truly touches me and is near to my heart, and that is the McCall Behavioral Health Network.

McCall has over 50 years of experience treating substance use and mental health disorders, and I believe deeply in this organization because get this, if you walk in their doors, you are going to get support, period.

This is a time when we really need to show up for the organizations that are doing the great work to really help the cause of supporting people through their recovery. 17.6 million people or one in every 12 adults suffer from alcohol use disorder. More than half of all adults have a family history of problem drinking and alcohol use is on the rise, especially among women.

McCall Behavioral Health Network is a nonprofit organization for individuals of all ages and families across Connecticut. McCall supports everyone’s journey to healing and their wellness is their highest priority, and so if you walk through their doors, you will receive services, period. That’s why I’m asking you today to consider donating.

If you can, please go to deargabby.com/donate. This is a chance for you to be part of the solution. This is a chance for you to save someone’s life. You’ll be helping people transform their lives and giving them hope, so that so many people can have the experience of sobriety and the ripple effect of their wellbeing.

So head over to dear gabby.com/donate. Thank you.

Before we start the show, I’m just gonna shout this from the rooftops. My assistant Ashley is the absolute best. She helps me with so many things in my life. But the thing that I love most is that when I wanna send someone a book, Ashley is there to send it, but she also has a lot of support, and that support is from stamps.com.

We’ve been using stamps.com in our company for so long, and it’s made all of our shipping needs effortless, especially when Ashley wants to play Santa and send out my books. Now, you too can skip your trip to the post office. There’s no more wasted time and energy standing in line. Go to stamps.com. You can send letters and packages from your home or office anytime you want, and it’s just so easy.

All you need is a computer and a printer. Plus, with stamps.com, you can do everything you would at the post office—track packages, print shipping labels, and even schedule free pickups with the postal service. It’s like having your own personal post office at your fingertips. You can measure your packages and print exactly what you need to avoid overpaying for postage.

They will automatically tell you the cheapest and fastest shipping options—saving time and money. And get this, they’re gonna send you this little free scale. It’s so cute. So get access to all USPS and UPS services you need right now from your home, anytime, day or night.

Set your business up for success when you get started with stamps.com today. Sign up with promo code Gabby for a special offer that includes a four week trial, plus free postage and a free digital scale. No long-term commitments or contracts. Just go to stamps.com. Click the microphone at the top of the page and enter code Gabby. Happy sending.

Hey there. Welcome to Dear Gabby. I’m your host Gabby Bernstein, and if you landed here, it is absolutely no accident. It means that you’re ready to feel good and manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams. Let’s get started.

Welcome back to Dear Gabby. Welcome back. Welcome back. Welcome back, my friends. So excited about today’s episode because it’s an episode that really defines, really Gabby’s definition of success. So many people come onto this show, sharing their personal endeavors, their career pursuits, their desires to bring forth what is within them, but they’re missing a key ingredient.

And the key ingredient is fine tuning your energy. Often we think that our success comes from how much we do, how hard we push, how talented we are. Actually all that’s a bunch of BS and what really matters is the heart, the connection, and the energy that you bring to it. Yes, of course, talent matters. Yes, of course, hard work matters. Yes, of course, your commitment matters—all of that.

But all of that without the fine-tuned energy will fall flat. It’ll fall flat or it’ll hit a glass ceiling, or it just will not resonate. So I wanna share a little bit of a story to help drive this home. I was in the market for a new makeup artist.

I’ve had some amazing makeup artists. Some of them moved to LA, and I needed somebody that was gonna really be committed to me, know my needs and show up for me weekly at this. And I met this young woman who had done some makeup for my friend in the country and we were at a pool party at my friend Carolina’s house and she introduces me to this sweet young woman named Alex.

And she’s like, oh, Alex is the one that was doing my makeup. I was like, I love that makeup from your event that you did the other night. And I just started chatting with Alex and she’s hanging out with me and my son and she’s getting in the sand with my kid making some sand castles, and she’s just so awesome.

Her energy is excellent. Her vibe was exciting. She made me want to hang out with her more and I didn’t know where I was like, oh wait, so you did that makeup for Carolina? That was excellent makeup. Would you like to do my makeup one day? Absolutely. Gabby, I’ve been reading your books forever. It would be so awesome to do your makeup.

That would be amazing. Reach out to her. She comes, she does my makeup. It’s excellent. Yes, the makeup was excellent, but the energy was perfection. She showed up with the best attitude. She showed up with a beautiful smile on her face. She went above and beyond. She started to prime my face before she put the makeup on me.

She was doing this whole facial massage and ice rolling and microcurrent and just really caring for my skin, telling me all the details of what it was that she was doing to really get my skin all nice and juicy and plump before she put the makeup on. She was just so grounded, so easy to be around. It was as if I was hanging out with a really good friend and that energy…

While the makeup was awesome, that energy is why I said, please come back the next time and the next time and the next time. And I fell in love with her. And now when I have an early morning shoot, she legit sleeps over my house the night before, I remember I was on Good Morning America very early, and they’re like, wow, you got your makeup done so early.

And I was like, yeah, because my makeup artist slept over and that is how Alex now at the young age, in her early thirties, has landed me as her client and many other people in the high profile or celebrity space are now her clients on a regular basis, calling her, traveling with her, bringing them to do their weddings.

And it’s not because just the makeup is great, it’s because she’s great and so I really wanna drive that home for you today. You can have all the skills in the world. You can work as hard as possible, but if you don’t show up with the energy, it’s not gonna stick. I know as someone who employs people and I hire people. We can find some great people out there, but if the vibe for our community, for our company, the ethos of the energy of our team isn’t there, it isn’t gonna work.

And so whatever it is that you are wanting to bring forth in the world, I’m gonna ask you right now. What energy are you bringing to it? How are you showing up for it? How are you coming off? And yeah, maybe you’re not an extrovert like Alex, but are you smiling? Are you kind? Are you quirky? Be quirky. Are you being yourself?

Are you in your authentic truth? And that energy that you bring towards whatever it is that you wanna bring forth is what’s going to help it magnify. It’s gonna help it make an impact. So today’s episode, I want to really teach you the power of fine tuning your energy and recognizing that your vibes speak way louder than your words. When you are in an energy of high vibration, when you show up with a really good attitude, the universe will reflect that back to you tenfold.

Definitely one of the keys to my successes, showing up, smiling, treating everyone equally. Loving people, caring for people, and checking with my energy. If I’m showing up to Dear Gabby and I’m not feeling a hundred percent, I’m gonna do anything I can to just smile, to get into it, to commit to it, to take care of myself in whatever way I need so that I can bring my highest and best.

And that’s what we have to do if we wanna really bring forth our greatness. We have to show up and we have to make sure our energy shows up first. I’m excited to hear from my guests now and see how this relates to you.

[AD BREAK]

Let’s take a quick moment for a break and to talk about something that has been really, really important to me lately. Here’s the story guys. When you are a woman and you have a baby, you have this beautiful gift of a child, and then you get so many more gifts. Gifts like hair loss, and I have always had this like, really thick hair.

Uh, enter baby, enter postpartum, enter hair loss, totally uncool. So, hear me when I say this. I have found the new fabulous hair care product that I am obsessed with, and it is called Vega Mour.

Vega Mour is a fully vegan, plant-based, hair wellness brand that is on a mission to give everyone a healthier scalp and stronger, fuller-looking more beautiful hair and every product and every ingredient with this brand works in tandem to form a complete, holistic approach that considers all of your underlying factors that contribute to the beauty and health of your hair.

And all the ingredients are clinically tested for purity and optimal efficiency. And one of the products I love using is called the Grow Hair Serum. The serum is specifically designed to support and nurture all your hair follicles, which can lead to stronger, thicker, and healthier hair.

If you’re looking for a simpler way to support your hair health, try one of the Vega Mour’s monthly subscription value kits, which is what I have. It just shows up right when I need it. Give yourself the hair you never thought you could have with Vega Moore.

For a limited time, Dear Gabby listeners, get 20% off their first order by going to vegamour.com/gabby and use code gabby at checkout. That’s V E G A M O UR.com/gabby. Code Gabby to save 20% off your first order.

I am now in my forties and I’m really, really, really health conscious, and that’s exactly why I love athletic Greens AG1. I gave AG1 a try because literally all of my friends were talking about it, and I knew that I needed something to even improve my health and my gut more, and I wanted a supplement that was easy to fold into my daily routine.

Now, I take AG1 in the morning before I even have a coffee. That’s right. Even before I have my coffee, I have my AG1. It sets me up to win and I love it because I know I’m doing something good for my body every day. It’s perfect for busy people like me because AG1 makes me feel like I’m ready to take on the day and give my body the nutrition it craves.

When I travel, I’ve got all these little green packets in my bag ready for the day. I never miss the vitamins and the supplements that I need. And with its unique blend of 75 high-quality vitamins, minerals, and whole food sourced and ingredients, it gives you the energy and focus you need to tackle the day, leaving you feeling refreshed and revitalized.

AG1 is not only a great all-in-one solution for daily nutrition. It saves you confusion and money. Each serving costs less than $3 a day, and that is a small price to pay for the powerful long-term results.

AG1 makes it easy for you to take the highest quality supplements—period. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost effective routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a free one-year supply of Vitamin D and five free travel packs with your first purchase.

Go to athleticgreens.com/gabby. That’s athleticgreens.com/gabby. Check it out.

[END AD BREAK]

GABBY: Let’s bring in our first. Hi, Jamie.

JAMIE: Hey Gabby. Thanks for picking me to come on and talk with you. So for the past six or seven years, I’ve been struggling with autoimmune disease and problems with my endocrine. I have this pattern that’s been ongoing since I was a child of having difficulty advocating for my needs to get met.

And oftentimes throughout the treatment process, I’ve had doctors leave once I started seeing them, I would have positive test results and my doctors would dismiss them, and I’ve just had a really hard time getting treatment. So much so, that about five years ago, I stopped seeing doctors. And recently, I decided I wanted to take back control of my health again and try again with doctors.

What can I do now to shift my energy so that I can be heard and follow through with treatment and get a solution and get a proper diagnosis?

GABBY: So the same way that I was talking about how we have to bring our energy to the table to have that success in our life. We also have to know what kind of energy we want to work with—whether it be people that we employ.

In your case, you’re employing these doctors to be the caretakers. You’re the CEO of your health as my friend Kris Carr would say. And so, you’re hiring your team, and so I want you to really get still with what energy do I want in these doctors? I want them to have a positive perspective. I want them to be upbeat. I want them to be gentle. I want them to be caring, smart—whatever those words are for you.

I want you to manifest your team because you’ve got Team Jamie here right now that’s gonna support you in your healing. You said yes, you raised your hands. Yep. I’m ready to start to to get into it again. I wanna have that health and I wanna have that abundance in my body and my mind, and so be unapologetic about the kind of human you wanna have on your team.

Define it. Define it. What is the energy that you want to attract? And then when you wake up in the morning and you say, okay, I’m gonna go to that doctor today. Go with your best foot forward. And also interview them from the standpoint of so when good things happen, what’s your attitude about it? And are you gonna be optimistic with me? Because I need optimism. And hold them accountable? How does that feel?

JAMIE: Got it. It feels good. It feels good to hear that. Yeah. I really do wanna get better and I, I wanna feel better and I wanna feel good and I wanna know what it feels like to be supported.

GABBY: Yeah. And speak to your spirit guides, because guides work through doctors. And so from a spiritual perspective, there are entities and healing guides.

There’s spirit guides that are doctors that will help guide you to the right human spirit and work through them. So if that’s a belief that you share with me, which I can see is something you share and the listener who’s out there that doesn’t believe that, then you know, take it or leave it. But because Jamie, you have that faith, write in your journal to your guides and say, thank you guides for showing me this doctor that you’re gonna work with.

Help me find our team and talk to those guides regularly. I have a strong feeling, Jamie, that when you start to do this, it’s all gonna start to line up really easily for you, and you’re gonna feel really supported by the team that you establish. And because of your willingness to get well, you’re gonna attract the team that is Team Jamie. Team Well Jamie.

I also wanna ask you, have your doctors ever asked you about your history, your past, your childhood.

JAMIE: Yes, and I do have a trauma history and sometimes I’ve felt like that’s gotten in the way. Like oftentimes I’m dismissed, oh, you’re a woman, you have a trauma history. Let’s put you on antidepressants.

Let’s not look at the fact that you have positive antibody results or look at your thyroid health or look at your adrenals. But I’ve also worked with some spiritual healers and been noticing some of the patterns that come up from that trauma and trying to address that on my own a little bit with them. And that’s been helpful in some ways.

GABBY: I think it’s all of the above. I’d love for you to go back and listen to my episode with Dr. Gabor Maté. In that episode, we talk about he medical industry and the medical field and how one of the things that’s most commonly overlooked is how trauma informs our physical conditions—particularly autoimmune in women.

And I am all for getting the right doctors. You are having a physical experience that needs to be tended to. I’m all for the right diet. I’m all for the right supplements, I’m all for the right team—all of it. But that without that deeper healing may not be enough. And so, I’m gonna send you a copy of Happy Days.

So it’s your time, my love. Lemme just tell you something. You raised your hand and you said, I want help. So your guides are working not only through the doctors, but they’re working through me right now. Trust me when I say this, I’m going to send you a copy of Happy Days and I’m gonna suggest strongly that this is your time.

I want you to make sure you have a therapist or a coach or somebody to support you as you go through the journey of that book. And make that person, that therapist part of your wellness team, because that therapist is just as important as the doctor who specializes in autoimmune. Those two humans are Team Jamie and one can’t go without the other.

We have to have to have to address the psychosomatic effects of trauma. And I know for myself, as my trauma healed, my gut healed. As my trauma healed, my sleep healed. As my trauma healed, my skin healed—all of the above. So I’m channeling for you now because my hands are now numb and I’m hearing very clearly, love: all of the above.

Okay? And also this is a turning point for you. It’s a really big turning point for you. I hope you can feel that. Because there’s something clicked inside of you that said, yeah, I wanna get better, and you got here right now, and then this unfolds the next step and the next step and the next step. I hope you feel empowered by that, Jamie.

Yeah. Yeah. You’re beautiful. Lots of good health and wellness coming your way, my love.

JAMIE: Thank you for your guidance.

GABBY: You can thank your guides. I’m feeling them right here, right now. Thank you.

[AD BREAK]

This episode is sponsored by Better Help.

So I’m really excited to have this conversation with you all today. And if you have been listening to this show in the past, you know that I am a huge advocate for therapy. I know it can be really overwhelming these days.

We’ve got a lot going on in the world, a lot of uncomfortable feelings, a lot of drama that we’ve lived through, and it’s a squirrely time to be alive, to say the least. And that’s where Better Help comes in.

Better Help is online therapy designed to help you talk to a licensed therapist from wherever you are. With Better Help, you can access therapy from the comfort of your own home, from your office, or even from your smartphone. They make it that easy.

And take it from me, therapy has extreme benefits. I would not miss a therapy session. Every single week I have been in therapy, and by the way, I do all my therapy over the phone. I’ve found that it’s a lot easier for me to be vulnerable and feel connected when I’m virtual. And what I love about Better Help is that they have a network of licensed and professional therapists who are available to provide you with personalized care and support—anytime you need it.

And by having your therapy be online or on the phone, you can feel that sense of safety and a deeper connection at times when you don’t feel like you’re in the same room as somebody. And so, why wait, my friends? Start feeling better today and get on the path to a happier, more peaceful you.

I swear by therapy. Every time we get on this show, I’m always recommending let’s take this journey a little further with a therapist. Discover your potential with Better Help. Visit betterhelp.com/deargabby today to get 10% off your first month. That’s better h e l p.com/deargabby.

I’m so excited to tell you about this amazing company that I love, love, love, love, love, love, love: Cymbiotika. I loved this product so much that I reached out to them and said, can I interview the founder on my show? Dear Gabby. And Cymbiotika is this cutting edge health supplement company that is committed to creating the purest, most effective supplements to support your overall health and wellbeing.

They use only the absolute highest quality ingredients, and they’re these sophisticated formulations that are scientifically proven to increase vitality and longevity by filling in nutritional gaps that are just simply a result of our diet.

I’ve been taking their products for a few months now, and I’m truly blown away by the improvements in my energy levels, my overall health, my concentration, my absolute favorite, must have never skip a day, is the liposomal vitamin C. This is sort of like my health insurance. It’s also the Cymbiotika super green, which is the perfect way to get your boost in your daily nutrition.

But my favorite is their D3K2 CoQ-10 supplement which has really helped me maintain my focus and mental clarity throughout the day without any of the jitters or crashes that I’ve experienced with other supplements. So if you’re looking for a health supplement that you can really trust, look no further, just go to Cymbiotika.

Visit cymbiotika.com/gabby for 15% off sitewide, or create your custom bundle and get up to 45% off. Code applies on top of custom bundle discount. That’s C Y M B I O T I K A.com/gabby.

Give Cymbiotika a try. Trust me, your body will thank you.

[END AD BREAK]

CALLER: Hello, Gabby.

GABBY: Hi, gorgeous. How are you?

CALLER: I am so good. I was actually with you in London. I put my hand up and I didn’t get picked. I think manifesting…

GABBY: It was meant to be today. It was meant to be today.

CALLER: Yes. Hundred percent. I can’t believe this—so good. So I suppose my question is around facing a lot of resistance when it comes to actually manifesting my dreams.

I went through a failed suicide attempt six years ago, and I received a vision that I would speak on stages and inspire women and just really help them find their own inner light. And there’s just been so many blocks along that journey. Yeah. So any advice would be amazing.

GABBY: What is it that you wanna share on that stage with those women?

CALLER: I want to share with them that it doesn’t matter what they go through in life. I’ve been through so much trauma. And I’ve been able to really find my base. I’ve actually just been accepted to train as an I F S therapist as well.

GABBY: Yes, my love. So you’re doing a level one training?

CALLER: Yeah.

GABBY: That’s a lottery. It’s hard to get in there. Those of us who get into it, because it’s a lottery and there’s thousands and thousands of people trying to get in, please take that as a sign. This is for your healing and for the world. Wow. Wow. You are asking the universe to give to you. Okay, my love to help me get there, whatever. Right? But I want you to start asking from your heart, how would you use me?

Because you are a survivor. You’re a thriver, you’re a super attractor, you are a miracle worker. You’re committed. And so the way out of that manic manifesting, which you self prescribed, right? You said I’m a manic manifester.

The way out of that is to just be in the prayer of how would you use me? How may I serve? And of course you are in that, but I wanna get you grounded completely in that.

CALLER: Mm-hmm.

GABBY: That whenever you’re looking like, oh, why am I not on that stage yet? Why am I not there yet? Just one day at a time? Show me what to do.

How would you use me? How would you use me today? Keep it in the day because the days add up and then one day you’re gonna be sitting in a chair like this, like me. You’re gonna have a microphone and it’s gonna be nearly 20 years later, you’re gonna be saying, okay, thank you for using me.

CALLER: Yeah, that really, that really hits my heart for sure. I’ve been getting that message a lot, actually from various different sources. Thank you so, so much, Gabby.

GABBY: You are so welcome. And I’m so happy you’re here. I see in my mind’s eye clapping, your guides are saying, we’re so happy you’re here. Let’s work. Let’s get to work. We got a lot of good things to come.

Beautiful, my love. Thank you for sharing, and I’m so excited to see what you do in the world, and please know that I’ll support you every step of the way. I’m so behind you. Keep it up.

CALLER: Thank you so much.

GABBY: I’m so moved by the people who came through today, and I wanna acknowledge that as soon as I started leaning into the energy rather than the to-do list, the intention, the energy, the service, everyone that came through started to shift. I could see a shift in their face. I could see a shift in their voice, could hear a shift in their voice.

Everything started to unfold for them. They could see with a lens of hope. And so, I wanna remind you today of the power that you have. You have a lot more power than you think, and your power lies and the energy that you bring forth and the energy that you choose to welcome into your life.

The energy that you surround yourself with, you have the power within you to create a life, to create success, to attract more of what you want by fine tuning your energy. And that begins with the intention. That begins with the intention to show up with grace, to show up with joy, to show up with possibility.

To have a smile and to have the willingness to show up for your energy, not just for your craft or your day-to-day tasks or your job, but to show up for your energy through meditation, through prayer, through books like mine, through a podcast like this. Any spiritual book, any therapist, any work that you do on yourself—to make your number one priority to fine tune your energy.

Because your energy is what attracts what it is that you want into your life. So all the success that you desire is right there waiting for you as you begin to fine tune your energy to become a match for it. Thank you for joining me today on Dear Gabby.

If you made it to the end of this episode, that means you’re truly committed to miracles. I’m really proud of you. If you wanna get more Gabby, tune in every Monday for a new episode.

Make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss any of the guidance or special bonus episodes. Your experience at this show means a lot to me, so I really wanna welcome you to leave an honest review and you can follow me on social media at @GabbyBernstein.

And if you wanna get in on the action, sign up for a chance to be Dear Gabby’d live at deargabby.com. See you next week.

Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.