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Are you ready for a quantum shift this new year?
I recently had a moment—literally 19 hours before I stepped on stage—where I realized I was complete with my old chapter. I looked back at 20 years of sobriety, trauma recovery, and spiritual shakedowns, and I said, “Gabby, you did good. But now you’re Gabrielle”.

In this episode, I’m sharing my most recent live talk to show you how to experience that same kind of spontaneous upleveling. We often think we have to force our way into a new life, but the secret is actually about allowing.

When you learn to release the pressure of “making it happen,” you step into the relief of knowing you are a magnet for the life you want to live.

In this video, you’ll learn:

  • The Spontaneous Upleveling Secret: Why an upleveling is something bestowed upon you when a cycle of learning is complete, rather than something you can force.
  • The “Driftwood” Signal: Why seeing others get exactly what you want is actually a wink from the Universe that your desire is on its way.
  • How to Forget What You “Need”: Why surrendering what you think you need is the key to finally receiving what is of the highest good for all.
  • The Lens of Possibility: How to stop dissecting problems and start focusing on what is thriving to keep your vibrational alignment clear.

Stop “future tripping” and start living from a place of unshakeable faith. You are the one you’ve been waiting for. Press play and let’s step into your new era together.

This episode was filmed live at The Eudemonia Summit.

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This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I am not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from any psychological or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified health professional.

dear gabby #298 Jan 05, 2026 manifesting

how to have a quantum shift in 2026—uplevel now!

 The following podcast is a dear media production.

Hey there. Welcome to Dear Gabby. I'm your host Gabby Bernstein, and if you landed here, it is absolutely no accident. It means that you're ready to feel good and manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams. Let's get started.

Welcome back to Dear Gabby, my friends. Welcome back. This is our very first episode of 2026, and so I thought very seriously about what we would air today being that. This is New Year, new you time babies. It is New year, new you time, and it is also actually the last day you can join my manifesting challenge.

So I just wanna make sure those last minute stragglers out there, those folks that wait till the very, very, very last minute, head over to dear gabby.com/manifesting challenge. This is the last day to [00:01:00] join. You can get caught up right here, right now. Do not miss it guys. This is the last moment. Until next year.

Again, that's dear gabby.com/manifesting challenge. So I went into a deep dive with my producers. I was like, what are we gonna share? The first episode of the year? And I made a good call. I made a good call. I'm sharing. What I think to date is one of my best live talks ever. And no one's heard it before unless you were live in the room.

It was a talk I shared from the Uni Modia summit, which was last fall. And again, if you were in the room, you know what I'm talking about. But it was a moment. It was a moment in time. This is a moment on stage. I'm gonna be honest with you. I had an upleveling. I was channeling the entire talk. You're gonna hear me step into a new identity literally in real time.

I decided on the stage that I'm not gonna refer to myself as Gabby anymore. I'm now Gabrielle. This was actually really like a [00:02:00] symbol for what's possible when you're willing to show up for yourself and heal your traumas and come out the other side and manifest a new way of being. And so you're going to hear me level up in real time, and you can all refer to me as Gabrielle now.

And I just wanna tell you, this show, when I was editing it, I was catapulted back into the room. I was crying, I was tingling. I was just feeling the spirit energy that moved through me. And this is my art. This is my this mission. I am so excited for you to listen to this episode because the energy from that day is gonna be transmuted into your EarPods, into your car, into your kitchen, wherever you are in the world.

It is so high vibe. God, it's a great way to start the year. So go and enjoy this episode, my friends. I love you. Yesterday I decided to start referring to myself and introducing myself as Gabrielle. My name is Gabrielle Bernstein. It's wonderful to be with you.[00:03:00] 

And why? Why did I decide, Gabrielle, why did I make the decision to start to perceive myself in a new way? Because I felt this upleveling literally 19 hours ago. I was sitting in the room with Lisa Miller doing an interview, and I sat with her and I said, Lisa, I'm in a new stage in my life. I'm new. I feel something shifting inside of me.

I'm Gabrielle. And she looked at me and she's, you know, she's a witch, right? And so she's like, you're new. There's something inside of you that's shifting, and I had this moment of a 62nd sort of flashback of my life for the past 20 years, and I saw sobriety 20 years ago. I saw. Remembering trauma. 10 years ago, I [00:04:00] saw the flash of the healing and the recovery.

I saw myself on my knees wanting to take my life in postpartum depression. I saw myself in the journey of losing a child. I saw myself in the moments of deep despair and spiritual shakedown through menopause. And then I saw myself in this divine moment, right here, right now, new, and I looked at the journey and I said. Abby, you did good. But now you're Gabrielle. Now you're Gabrielle. So are you ready to step into your version of you? Are you ready today to stand with me and look at the stories of the past through the lens of compassion, the trauma, the heartache, the suffering, the sadness, the hormonal upheavals. The breakdowns, the [00:05:00] addiction, the stories.

Are you willing today with me in this moment to have a quantum shift and look at that through the lens of love? Are you willing? I already know the answer. 'cause you walked in the door. Each of you has divine guides working on your behalf, and they walked you through this door today. Your guides gave you that spark of a hit that said Come, or your wife slash guide said, go sit with Gabby.

For your dear friend and client said, get your ass to my room. The wisdom within you brought you in this room today. How different would your life be if you knew you were always being guided? Take that in. How different would your life be if you knew you were being guided, if you knew? That you didn't have to figure it out.

If you knew that it was unfolding [00:06:00] exactly as it was meant to be, and that was meant for you was finding you. And if you knew that that thing you thought you wanted didn't happen because it wasn't yours, 'cause something so much better was on the way. And if you knew that you could just do less and attract more.

And if you knew that there were invisible angel wings behind you, walking you and ushering you through the doors that you needed to step into, if you knew that, how different would your life be? My friends, take it in. My favorite message from, of course, in Miracles, if you knew who walked beside you on this path that you have chosen, fear would be, IM.

If you knew who walked beside you on this path that you have chosen, fear would be impossible. And there's a way of living in this world where you can live with unshakeable faith. Where you can know, you can know, well, that didn't happen. Thank [00:07:00] you universe. Thank you God for taking that and ripping it up and destroying it because it wasn't meant for me.

Ah. How many of you're holding onto something that you think you need? The secret to having what you want is to forget what you think. You need to give it away to surrender it all. To ask for what is of the highest good for all, and to live in a way where you know that in the humility of asking what is of the highest good for all, you are humbly guided.

You are led. You are shown where to go and what to do. You are no longer controlling. You are allowing, and you're living in the world, but you're thinking with the thoughts of heaven and you're living in the experiences that seem to be uncomfortable, but you're knowing that there is so much grace on the other side and you're living through the heartache and your faith is holding you like [00:08:00] a blanket.

And I can speak for this because I've lifted and I know it. It's the greatest gift in the world to be able to stand here with you today and tell you that there is a way of living that is not here, but it might seem to be here, but it's not. And you walk through life and you just feel joyful and you feel childlike, and you feel alive, and you feel connected, and you feel the wonder of the universe and you feel the synchronicities and you don't say, oh my God, look at that wild synchronicity that just happened to me.

But you say, yeah, duh. Of course that's mine. That's a wink. So about eight hours after I decided to be Gabrielle again, I was sitting at dinner with my friend Dr. Mark Hyman, and he is going through some stuff and I said, oh, I can help you with that. And he said, oh, you know Gabby, I wanna just make sure I have your number still.

And he just looks back 'cause we've been friends for about 15 years and he looks back and he opens his phone and he shows me his phone. Is this still your number? And it said Gabrielle Bernstein in his phone, [00:09:00] Gabrielle Bernstein. And I said, thank you guys for showing off. For affirming to me that I am new, this is where I am, and that I'm here to speak on behalf of the divine.

My mission in this lifetime is to speak on the behalf of the divine, to remind you of that connection that is yours of your divine birthright. Of that soul energy of your highest self, of the capacity within you to alchemize fear, the capacity within you to live in the light, the capacity within you to be limitless, to have infinite possibilities, to have spontaneous healings, to have full body shifts inside, to live in a way where you're guided and not living in a way where you are in fear.

And that remembrance of who am I now is not, who am I now? It's who was I? Always [00:10:00] the remembrance. I had a whole outline and I've completely destroyed it because Gabrielle is like, that was last week's outline. Gabby, where Gabrielle now. So I'm here to speak on behalf of divine and what it means to live in that way, and what it means to live in the joy and the wellbeing, and the certainty of knowing that this is the truth of who we are.

And so when we're living in that light, when we're living with unshakeable faith, no matter what happens in our life, we can choose to perceive our circumstances through the lens of possibility, through the lens of creativity, through the lens of divine guidance and wisdom. Through the lens of hope, the lens of love, and the lens of faith.

That lens is what gives our body the. Microbiome to heal. That's the lens that gives our nervous system the parasympathetic state to relax and to elevate that [00:11:00] lens through which we live is what dissolves all boundaries with love and opens our heart to see our people in our life. As Dick Schwartz would say, our mentor mentors, I think is what he calls it, the people in our life who drive us nuts.

We can see them as our greatest assignments and we can move in that way. So how do we get there? How do we get there? How did Gabby decide to today be Gabrielle? How do we get there? The first step is to step into a room like this. You signed a sacred contract, you said, yep, I'm ready to be new and to let yourself be led.

And then to stay in that humility and that humble desire every single day, one day at a time, to be in that humility of opening your heart and saying, where would you have me go today? What would you have me do? What would you have me say? And allow yourself to be guided and then to make that conscious choice every day to recognize that when we are living through that lens, we're in an energy [00:12:00] of joy.

And Joy is the ultimate creator, and joy isn't something that we can just jump right into. We can't go from despair to joy tomorrow. That's just not gonna happen, guys, right? We're not gonna sit here and be like, I have a diagnosis and I have this issue, or I have this condition, or I have no money in the bank, and we can't just jump from despair to joy.

It's not going to work. Your inner system will not believe it. But we can lean into what's possible. We can open up to these subtle shifts inside these moment by moment adjustments that put us in a different energetic state. Your daily commitment to live in the divine and to live in the light of who you're here to be is to lean into joy wherever you can, to let that joy be your guide.

To have more fun and not, like I said, go from despair to joy because that doesn't always work. But I can speak to this with authority. You know, in my darkest moment, my absolute darkest moment of being in postpartum depression and not knowing what I was going through [00:13:00] and having the experience of being on my knees every single day and having a biochemical condition, there wasn't really much for me to lean into.

That was joyful. But what I did lean into was what can I find today? To elevate me. It might be that I'm gonna walk and hold my husband's hand for 10 minutes, or it might be that I'm gonna sit and do some breath work, or it might be that I'm gonna make a phone call to a friend. Or it might be that I'm gonna walk every day.

I walked five miles uphill, walk, walk, walk, walk. And I was doing whatever I could. And frankly, what I needed was medication, which I ultimately got, and I'm not gonna, and that God works through the meds. So let's not ignore that. Okay? God works through your doctors. God works through your medications. This is not love and light.

This is love light, and sometimes Prozac. Okay? So you need what you need to survive, okay? And that there's guidance in all of it. But in those moments when I didn't accept that guidance yet, I knew that I could accept that in each molecule of the day, there was a moment for light. And the more you lean into that light, [00:14:00] through joy, through possibility, through hope, the more that light enters you.

Rumi said the wound is the place where the light enters you. So the difficult moments that you're living through are actually a catalyst for your greatest awakening. They're a catalyst for your greatest awakening.

My spiritual practice is built on consistency, period. I just gotta show up every day. It's the thing I do, and I am the same about my workouts and my physical process because I gotta move my body in some way every day, but. Between the busy schedule, it is sometimes hard to find the time to do my workouts and to get exactly what I need in, and that is why I love your reformer.

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I want you to take that thing that you've been holding onto so tightly. And try a little experiment with me today. Okay? [00:18:00] What if we took that thing that you've been strangling, that outcome, that desire, that diagnosis, that future tripping. What if we took that thing right here, right now and we gave it away just for today?

What if we did that? How would that feel? Take that thing and just give it away just for the next 24 hours. When I say that, how does that feel in your body? A little bit of relief. Is anybody in the room still holding onto it tightly? Be honest people. Let's meditate with it. Gently close your eyes. Breathe welcoming and healing into this moment. 

We thank the guidance of the highest truth and compassion for coming into this space today. [00:19:00] Surrounding us, this divine energy of like-minded souls who came into this room at this time in this moment, to have a healing, to have an alchemy, to have a connection, to remember the divine light that is within us and around us.

Together, we help each other. Elevate our consciousness and elevate our energy and shift into a new way of being. And in this moment, collectively, we are helping one another holding that light together. And hold the vision now of that energy, of that light surrounding you, just taking over the room. And all we see now are these great rays of light.

All you see in your mind's eye are these great rays of light. And in this light we breathe. Take a deep breath in. And let it go. And in this light we offer it up. And let's give it away just for today. Take that desire and know that it is taken from you. Take a deep breath in, let it go. [00:20:00] And in this light, we know that we are well.

We know that we are safe. We know that we are divinely guided and protected.
Breathe into that. Take a deep breath in, let it go. And in this light we know that we have creative possibilities. Anything that we perceive as a problem actually is divine guidance and direction. 
Read that in. Let that go. Now I welcome all of our guides, every one of our guides and our angels in this room to give us a healing, to take what is not ours and remove it from us.

Now. Any illness, any suffering, any pain, any trauma, any fear, any lack. Take it from us. Now. We're ready to be new. [00:21:00] Take it from us now. Thank you. Thank you, thank you. And in this moment as we. See all that energy that is not ours being released and alchemized and just transmuted and recycled. We welcome in a new energy into this room right here, right now.

And that new energy is an energy of love. And an energy of faith. And an energy of hope. And an energy of light, and that energy starts. To pour through us from the top of our heads down through our face gently. It's an energy of golden light moving through our neck and our shoulders, and our chest and our heart, and into our viscera, and into our hips, and into our toes, into our fingertips, our knees, our thighs, our legs, our calves healing our backs, healing our bodies, healing our mind and our consciousness, and going through our toes all the way down to the ground, and just giving us a remembrance now of who we truly are and feel that light.Take a deep breath in, let it go,[00:22:00] and feel the newness now.

Feel the shift inside and just let that energy settle.You are healed. You are well repeat after me. I am healed. I am well. I am abundant. I am free. I live with grace and ease, and I choose to allow the love of the universe to guide me. All is well. Take one last deep breath in. And release. And when you're ready, open your [00:23:00] eyes to the room, you're new. Are you willing to accept that now that there's a opportunity in every moment to become new to up level? 

Every moment right here in this moment, we can take everything that was and say thank you, and we can accept a quantum shift right here, right now. Are you willing? You see how serious I am? You 
willing to have a quantum shift right now? Let's go. Yes. Let's go. Pat your neighbor on the back. Pat yourself on the back. Give yourself a big hug right now. People, we are ready to go. I'm having a quantum shift today. What is meant for me will find me. What is no longer [00:24:00] meant for me will be released from me.

Whatever I need to be healed will be shown to me. I'm willing to show up. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to get closer to consciousness, and I'm a yes for new. Yeah. Welcome to the new era that is you. That's how this can happen. Anything can be alchemized when we're in the divine light of spirit.

Genuinely not just talking about it, but being in it, feeling it. Did you feel it? And maybe some of you in this room have big resistors and protectors up, and maybe you didn't feel it, but there was a molecule of you that felt it. That's enough. That's enough. A molecule of energetic shift is enough to create a quantum shift in your life.

My prayer for you is that you walk out of this room and you feel the healing, and you feel the newness, and you open your heart to say, you know what? I had a quantum shift today with Gabrielle, and I'm gonna ride that. I'm gonna choose that, [00:25:00] and I'm gonna allow myself to continue to show up one day at a time for my greatest purpose and my divine light.

And I wanna be clear, we are not spiritually bypassing our problems in this room today because living through the healing is part of the spiritual process, showing up for the therapy, showing up for the operation. Showing up for that moment where you have the opportunity that feels so interesting inside, those moments of grace are inside of you, and it's your choice now as of today and your quantum shift to start to lean into them.

And it's okay to be going through very tough things because you can be going through tough things and living in the light at the same time. In fact, the toughest, most difficult moments in my life were the most spiritually aligned. But they don't have to be. Your pain doesn't have to give you purpose.

Your pain is [00:26:00] part of your journey to get into the truth and the light and the purpose of who you are. So take everything that is and just say thank you, and start stepping in today to our quantum shift. And so what does it look like? What's the promise of living with unshakeable faith? What's the promise of living in that way?

It's that you show up each and every single day and you feel that vibrational. Frequency inside that you know to be true. And you take even a moment, one minute, 30 seconds, to just feel into that frequency that we established in this room, and you let that frequency be your guide. You let that frequency be your guide.

Everybody with me, my late mentor, Dr. Wayne Dyer. Has been moving through me a lot lately. He writes with me, he talks with me. He speaks with me, and he taught very passionately for [00:27:00] many, many years about refraining from the ego's needs, right? And so now that we've had this shift inside, I'm gonna give you another tool, which is throughout the day when you notice the ego desire.

Right, the ego, the fear, desire to start to lean into the drama. Or to start to lean into the pain or to start to lean into the problem, or to maybe do that thing that your ego likes to do, like wanting to prove yourself or the parts of you that you sort of just know are there, but you're not really wanting to be there anymore, and that's not really who you identify with anymore.

I want you to do yourself a favor and just notice in those moments where the desire to speak over someone, or the desire to shut down or the desire to lean into the. Fear or the desire to lean into the problem or the desire to judge somebody out loud or even internally and just witness it and do nothing.
Witness the desire to go into the [00:28:00] ego energy and refrain from that ego and sit with the discomfort of that today. Try it, witness it, do nothing, and sit with it and witness what happens inside.

Feel the shift, feel the energy. So if you sit with that inside and you witness it, place your hand on your heart after you've witnessed it and you feel that discomfort and breathe into that space in your heart, and remember the energy we created in this room, and think your way back into this room with a great ray of light and use that muscle memory of saying, oh, I know what it feels like to be in that light and let it be.

Try that once today. DM me later and tell me how it goes. And then when you notice those moments where you're back in that story of, Ooh, that thing I think I need, or I've gotta go chasing and I can't stop allowing. And I want you to remember the practice of, I can give this away just for today. I can [00:29:00] just do a 24 hour pause just for 24 hours.

I can give this away. The what I do for the next 24 hours is not gonna impact anything in my life. I'm gonna give this away just for today. I'm literally gonna give this away just for today, and that's a silent prayer inside. Thank you universe for taking this from me today. So those are two tools for bringing you back into the light, and then you're gonna find those little molecules of joy throughout your day.

You're gonna say, I'm gonna go get that coffee and I'm gonna taste that coffee, and I'm gonna feel it moving down me and just listening and holding it and smelling it because it's the best coffee. And they've got such good coffee at the Eudemonia Conference, and I just love the coffee. Then you're gonna go and you're gonna have your little honey chocolate, and you're gonna taste that chocolate.

You're gonna feel that chocolate in your body. And then you're gonna go and you're gonna meet somebody, and you're gonna look them in their eye and you're gonna say, I had such a nice day. I hope you had such a nice day too. And then you're gonna dance and you're gonna hang out, and you're gonna just find your molecules of joy along the way.

Remember, the greatest way to find that molecule of joy is brief connection. So even if you're an introvert, just look somebody in the eye and say, hope you have a really blessed day [00:30:00] connection. Connection. And as you start to do this, you start opening up clarity. You start opening up compassion for yourself.

You start opening up connection. You start opening up that committed, courageous, confident self. You start living from that place. Micro adjustments into the light. You add up those micro adjustments into the light, and then you wake up one day and you say, I'm new. Say I'm new and I want to hear from you guys.

I wanna talk to you now. I want to hear what is coming through you. I want a dialogue. This is now a two-way conversation. Would you like to talk? If anybody has a question, you can come up onto the mic and I wanna workshop this with you more 'cause I wanna hear from you and hear how you're feeling. Hello Goddess.

What is your name? Hi, I'm Mia. 

Hi Mia.  So I've actually never been introduced to [00:31:00] you at all, so hello, welcome. And actually walking down the hallway, I said, universe, where am I required today? And it took me here. 
This is a lesson. Every day wake up. Where would you have me go? What would you have me do? What would you have me say?

And to whom? Universe, what miracles would you have me perform today? Where should I go? Just humbly ask. How should I show up? Mia, you're a miracle worker. Carry on. Another tool that I like to use is who am I today and what grand and glorious adventures will I have? So I just wanted to share that and express my gratitude for you.

And thank you everyone for the contribution that you are. And be here today. Yeah. Mia is such a powerful example for us. She let her inner antenna say, go here. And sometimes when we don't listen to that inner [00:32:00] antenna, the universe is going to shake us down until we listen. Thank you, Mia. 

Thank you. Okay. Who's our next question? 

Hello, I'm Jess. Hi Jess. So I'm newly sober too. Yes, Jess. Yay family. Let's give her love, Jess. Nice. 
Um, so I'm learning how to live one day at a time, but you touched on releasing fear, but still, when I'm like trying to rebuild my life, I'm still living in fear and still living in the light, and it's intertwined.

How do I every day? Start my day to, to lead with light and be okay with letting the things that are not meant for me go. And it's really scared because I love to hold onto things and it's, and I don't know what the next day will be like, but I, I want that outcome and I want. The way that I want it, you know?

Yeah, of course you do. And the, you know, we had a quantum shift here today. We had a quantum shift in this room today, and we're gonna keep having it. We have got a short period of time left, and we're gonna keep going 'cause there's more for you. Okay? And in [00:33:00] that quantum shift today, we have this new perception that we can lean into and we can start to open our heart to.

But in that new perception, what can happen is that we can feel like, oh, but what about that fear that's gonna take me back, or I don't wanna go into that old story. Well, guess what? You will. Okay. And guess what? The fear is still there and it's still present, but you have a new opportunity to have a new relationship with it today.

You have an opportunity to have a new relationship to that fear today. Are you with me? We're not like, oh, it's gone. We're just saying I see it differently. And so the opportunity you have, my love in all of you is to start to be the witness, the nonjudgmental witness of that fear. And to notice it and to witness it and to say Thank you fear for revealing to me whatever it is that I need to know, and to breathe into it and feel it for 90 seconds.[00:34:00] 

In that 90 seconds, it can alchemize in that 90 seconds. It can move through you in that 90 seconds, it can just begin to shift. What do we do all day? We check out, we override the fear. We push past it, we eat over it, we drug over it. We force over it. We work over it, we perform over it. We numb over it. We YouTube over it, we sex over it, we drink over it.

We drug over it. What if instead? We just felt safe enough to be present with it. I wrote a book recently. My 10th book is called Self-Help. This is your chance to change your life. It's based on the principles of Internal family Systems therapy. My beloved friend Dick Schwartz is in the other room right now, one of my top five friends in the world, and gave me the blessing of taking this 45-year-old epic trauma therapy that has healed [00:35:00] millions of lives and to make it a self-help practice.

And so what is the self-help practice? It's the practice of witnessing those parts of you that wanna check out those parts of you that protect you. The fear, the fear that you're speaking of. Love the parts of you that are protecting you, the parts of you that are running the show, and having the ability to just pause and to focus your attention inward and to check in instead of checkout.

And so what does that look like? Shall we do it right here, right now? Because I know there's a part of all of you that's like, I had a quantum shift today. It felt so good in the room, but it's gonna leave me anybody. What if that thing comes back in? It's gonna come back in. Don't be afraid of it. There's something to do with it.

The part of you that's fear is a protector part. How long has that fear been around? Friends? Forever. Forever, ever? Yeah. 'cause it's young. Because as children we had very difficult [00:36:00] moments. Trauma with a big T, trauma with a small T, and those traumas, no matter how big the T affected our nervous system and affected our brain and affected our energy field, and it put us into an energy of protection.

And we've been bracing and protecting against those exiled feelings of not being lovable and not being good enough, and not being what we thought our parents wanted to be, or feeling terror like in my case, sexual abuse as a child, the terror of that trauma and living in that hypervigilant state of protecting and protecting and protecting.

And so the fears that you back and lead you to the misguided belief that you need to control your future, those fears are protection mechanisms. They're not bad parts of you. They're young, wounded parts of you, and they need your attention, and they need your love, and they need your focus and your patience.

So here's a practice. Let's do it now. You ready for it? Gently close your eyes and notice right now in this [00:37:00] moment that part of you that you hold onto so tightly, that fear story, that control. That thing that you just wanna get rid of because it's just been driving you crazy and running the show and it's just, you're scared.

You had the quantum shift with Gabrielle today, and now you don't wanna fall back into that fear. But we don't have to because we don't have to fear our fear. We can witness it with love. So I want you to gently focus your attention inward and notice in your body where that fear lived. Just give it some love and give it some grace and give it some attention and notice physically what it feels like inside.
And be slightly curious. What does this fear want you to know right now? How old is it? Give it breath. Are there any images or thoughts or [00:38:00] sensations attached to it? Give it breath
and are there any words it wants you to hear? Take a very deep breath in and feel the feeling in this moment of that fear and just be present with it now and on the exhale, let it go.

Deep breath in and feel into that fear and just let it go. And now gently and compassionately extend some attention to that part of you and just say, what do you need? And listen and take one last deep breath in and release. And when you're ready, open your eyes.[00:39:00]  How do you feel towards your fear now?

Anyone? Compassion, ready to face it. Be present with it. What else? How do you feel just in this moment kind? Do you feel calm? Do you feel connected to that part of you? Briefly. Even a molecule of connection, do you feel some clarity about it? Do you feel a little bit of creative energy buzzing inside of you?

Maybe just like a little buzzy like that energy is source. That energy is self with a capital S. That energy is your internal spiritual healer inside it is the God within you. It is the soul within you. It is the spirit within you. It is the self within you. It is your Buddha nature. It is the universal energy of love.

It's in you. It never left you. It is your [00:40:00] guide. When you feel the fear, you check in instead of checkout. The more you make that a habit of the four steps of checking in first step, choose to check in instead of checkout. You may not always have the moment to do it, but you might three hours later. The more you do this, the more that moment becomes easy to access, and so you choose to check inside instead of check out.

Then the second step, you become curious, what does it feel like inside? What do I know about this? How long has it been around offering it? Curious connection, the third step, compassionate connection. What do you need? Ask the part what it needs. And then the fourth step, check for self calm. Do you feel more calm?

Do you feel more clear? Do you feel more courageous? Do you feel more creative? Do you feel compassion to that part of you? You could do this in one minute, and in that one minute in time, you can [00:41:00] alchemize the fear, you can resettle your system. You can return to the light, and you can walk through life and have a different day.

And then an hour later, the fear comes back or the control comes back, or the judgment comes back, or the addiction desire comes back, or the need to make that call comes back and you sit back down and you check in, and you check in and you check in. And the more you check in, the less you check out. And the more you check in, the more light enters you, and the more light enters you, the more you live in the light.

The light that I came here speaking of. So we're not here to spiritually bypass the fear. We're here to spiritually guide the fear back to love. Do you get the difference? Do you get the difference? You are the one you've been waiting for. As Dr. Richard Schwart says. You are the one you've been waiting for.

You are the guru, you are the parent, you are the healer, you are the light. You are the [00:42:00] God within you. You are the one you've been waiting for. You have the power within you to alchemize the fear in any given moment and return to that light again and again and again. You got that? Does it feel safer now to be able to walk out of this room and say, I had a quantum shift with Gabrielle today, and guess what?

I can return to it. Yes. Yes. Okay, A few more questions. Let's go. I wanted to give you that, guys. I wanted to give you that because I don't want you to feel like we can have these spiritual awakenings in this room and then feel like, oh no, I don't wanna lose it. Okay. So stay with me. We've got eight and a half more minutes.

Let's keep going. My question is similarly, like if you're doing a meditation and you're just not into it, is it just a keep showing up thing? I mean, just accept that you're not gonna be in the flow, but keep doing it. 

Find, find a meditation practice that you are into, and I wouldn't, I may not have answered the question that way, maybe like five, five days ago,[00:43:00]  but that's my answer now because there's so many resources out there. Find what you love and do more of. It could just be listening to a song. It could just be walking with a song. It could be often moving and exercising and then falling to your knees at the end and listening to that song that brings you into spirit and let that spirit move through you for three minutes, and that is your meditation for the day.

It doesn't have to be painful and doesn't have to be hard. We want joy. Our practice can be joyful. 
Hi honey. Hi. I just had a question. So. How do you know when a chapter is done and it's time to turn the page versus like, things are just getting challenging and I need to push through here with someone else in your life?

Or is it, yeah, kind of with a chapter like as we're doing this Quantum Yes. Change. Yes. Great question. Excellent aligned question. Okay. So how do you know when to let go of that [00:44:00] chapter and to change into the next chapter as we're making this quantum shift? Okay. When you no longer feel like there is anything else to learn.

Okay. I've been in a lot of chapters that I was not comfortable being in. They maybe even as of last week, but yesterday afternoon, I became Gabrielle because I was complete in the learning, but I wasn't gonna. Override the learning to be Gabrielle last week because guess what? That wouldn't have worked. My system would've been like, no way. This is bs.

Okay. Am I complete learning? Don't miss the miracle of the learning. Don't miss the miracle of the healing. That's the miracle. Okay? The world is your classroom and people are your assignments, and this is a divine opportunity to learn and grow every single moment of the day, baby. Okay? You got it.[00:45:00] 

Hi, gorgeous. Hi, Gabrielle. Sounds so good. As somebody that formally just changed my name to Joshua. Yes. Nice. Two months ago I've been dancing with Josh and Joshua and would love to hear how you plan on deeply integrating. Gabrielle just started last night, just introducing myself as Gabrielle, and then telling my beloved friends to call me Gabrielle.

And I heard this morning as I was walking past the coffee shop, this beautiful low voice in Gabrielle. Dr. Richard Schwartz, my beloved, and I was like, this whole vibration moved through my body. And I'm like, this is my new name and this is who I am. And he's just really reflecting it back to me. So I know that my cycle of what was is complete.

And I know that I'm stepping into something new. And so I'm feeling the vibrational frequency of the name and it's, it might sound a little woo and heady, but it's really real. And I feel the frequency of the name. And I noticed a few moments throughout today already. I was like, Hey, I'm Gabby. And I was like, no, I'm Gabrielle.

And I noticed the feeling. Inside, and it wasn't something I was [00:46:00] planning. It wasn't something I was thinking, it wasn't something I was preparing. It's something that was bestowed upon me. The upleveling in your life, the moments when you spontaneously uplevel, the spontaneous upleveling is bestowed upon you.

It's not something you make happen. If you try to make it happen, your system won't believe it and it won't happen, so you just allow. Joshua emerges and you allow when Gabrielle emerges, and that's just where we're at. Okay? Okay. Welcome to the world, Joshua. Thank you so much. 

Hi, Gabrielle. I am Spika from India, and my question is really simple. I've gone through a huge amount of trauma trying to deal with my dad's death like about two years back. I do try to come over it every single time. That peace with me connected to the universe above, but there's still amazing talk, proud of me that's so connected that I'm just unable to like [00:47:00] fully father.

Okay, so I hear him. Can I just share something? He's ready for you to stop suffering and he's asking you to release the suffering and he is welcoming you to step in. He's saying, thank you for the suffering, but you don't need it anymore. He wants to hold your hand as you walk through this life, and he wants to be with you and guide you, but in the suffering you can't hear him.

And he's saying, feel the feelings. Don't push past them, but be willing to release the suffering. 'cause he has a lot more work to do with you in this lifetime and he won't be able to, if you can't hear him putting his hand on your head and he's like resting your eyes and he's saying, we don't need to suffer.[00:48:00] 
Do you feel the shift inside right now? 

I think it's the reason why I'm here at, yeah. To be honest, it's the most unusual, unlikely space for me to be in right now because I come from India, nobody even knows what the summit is. And yeah, thankfully my husband is here with me getting me here all the way.

Yeah. Doing all the unusual things possible with way by little money in a credit cards with very, very little money in a bank account, everything like that. Yeah. But. I don't know because he's gone through something so deep that it was a very, very hard variant of Parkinson's called PSP, which has no solution on this, you know, medical condition right now.

And that's what has got me to this place to learn how to live a better life. So, okay, I came to this place to learn how to live a better life. You asked, and it is given, and now it's your turn. Sweet. Love to follow the direction that you have received. You learned things here in this room. You learned things in other [00:49:00] workshops, so you learned things that this is not about overriding the suffering, but it's about choosing to alchemize the suffering.

You came here to learn how to live a different life. You're receiving information you asked. It is given. Now you are being guided. Now you must take the direction. So you asked, it was given. You are being guided and you must take the direction. This is the assignment, friends. This is how we're gonna close today.

You asked. Whether you realize it or not, you asked the universe for guidance. You didn't know. Maybe you said, I don't wanna feel this way. This feels like pain. I don't like this feeling. And that was an ask you asked, you said, oh, I, there has to be a better way. You asked, oh, I surrender this. Oh, this is so annoying.

I don't wanna do this anymore. I wanna be Joshua, not Joshua anymore. You asked. And you listened and you walked into a room and the room gave you an experience and the room gave you a story and the room gave you a family and the room gave you an energy and the room gave you light. And now my friends, it's your job to listen and [00:50:00] act upon what you have heard.

So will you. My brothers and sisters in this room, my new spiritual family, will you take. That guidance and that wisdom, and will you allow yourself to be in a divinely guided life? Yeah. Welcome to your new life, my brothers and sisters. I love you. Thank you.

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