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If you’ve ever desperately wanted to know how to have spiritual trust when everything is falling apart — only to feel like that trust has completely abandoned you — you are not alone. I hear this from people every single day. The world feels shaky right now. Life feels uncertain. And the very thing we need most — faith — seems to disappear right when we need it.

That’s exactly why I created this masterclass episode. I collected your most burning questions about spiritual trust and answered them all. Watch it here:

In this blog, I’m taking you even deeper — into the practical methods, the mindset shifts, and the real-world tools that will help you move from fear into faith. Even when you feel completely lost.

What Spiritual Trust Really Means (Especially When Life Is Hard)

Let me be clear about what spiritual trust actually is, because it’s often misunderstood.

Spiritual trust is not the same as blind faith. It’s not about pretending everything is fine or plastering a smile on your face while your world crumbles. It’s an unrestricted power fueled by love — one that goes beyond your logic and your physical evidence.

Spiritual trust is an active partnership with the universe. Your thoughts and your energy actively align with what you want to receive. You witness synchronicities. You document the moments when things worked out in ways you couldn’t have planned. You build what I call “spiritual proof” — a body of evidence from your own life that the universe has your back.

Blind faith says: I’ll believe it no matter what, even with no evidence.

Spiritual trust says: I’ve seen this work in my life before. I choose to align with it again, even now.

That distinction changes everything.

Why Spiritual Trust Disappears Exactly When You Need It Most

This is the question I get more than almost any other. And the answer is uncomfortable but liberating: trust disappears because fear is blocking it.

We want to have faith. We genuinely do. But underneath that desire, we’re holding fear, judgment, separation — and that fear acts as a wall between us and our natural connection to the universe.

We lose trust when we become obsessed with timing and outcomes. When will this happen? Why hasn’t it happened yet? What if it never does? That controlling energy is the opposite of a surrendered state. And when we’re not surrendered, we stop seeing the signs. We stop receiving the inner knowing. We stop hearing the guidance.

The moment you name your fear — out loud, honestly — everything shifts. Try saying: “I’m blocking my trust in the universe because I’m afraid of ___.” Fill in that blank. Then take it one step further and ask yourself: Am I willing to heal this?

The moment you say “I am willing to heal my fear,” you shift your entire nervous system. You don’t have to figure out what’s next. You just open the door.

How to Cultivate Spiritual Trust When Your Life Feels Like It’s Unraveling

Here’s the perceptual shift that changes everything: what looks like unraveling is actually an unfolding.

Things fall apart because there is a spiritual grace meant to be delivered to you through that very experience. The chaos isn’t punishment. It’s an assignment

I know that can feel like a lot to ask — especially when you’re in the deepest part of the pain. I’ve been there. I’ve been in deep postpartum depression, in moments where I didn’t want to live. And even then, I had to ask: What is my spiritual assignment here?

For me, the answer was that I had to seek help in places I’d previously judged — psychiatric support, antidepressants. That difficult season guided me to a new understanding of healing that I could then share with the world.

So no matter what you’re walking through — financial loss, addiction, depression, grief — ask humbly: What would you have me learn from this?

Three Steps to Start Building Spiritual Trust Right Now

  1. Witness the fear. Don’t resist it. Name it. Call it by its name.
  2. Say “I am willing to heal.” Those five words are enough to begin.
  3. Ask for guidance. Pray: “Thank you, Universe, for taking this from me and showing me where to go.”

You don’t have to believe fully yet. You just have to be willing. Willingness is the door.

The “Choose Again” Method: A Practical Tool for Rebuilding Trust

One of my most powerful tools for rebuilding spiritual trust — especially after a period of intense doubt — is the Choose Again method. Here’s how it works:

Step 1: Notice. Identify the fear-based thought that’s playing on repeat. The one you keep coming back to.

Step 2: Forgive. Say to yourself, “That’s just a thought I keep thinking. I forgive myself and I’m releasing it now.” Don’t beat yourself up. You’re human.

Step 3: Choose again. Reach for the next best-feeling thought. Not toxic positivity — just the next step up from where you are. Reach for relief. Reach for possibility.

When you do this, you realign your energy and reconnect with the universe. That reconnection strengthens your faith. And the more you practice it, the faster you return to trust — not in minutes, but in seconds.I go deep on this method in my book Super Attractor if you want to build this into a full daily practice.

Why Some People Stay Calm in Crisis While Others Fall Apart

This isn’t about being spiritually “advanced” or naturally resilient. It comes down to daily devotion.

People who maintain trust during hardship have usually built that faith before the crisis hit. They’ve developed a relationship with the universe through consistent practice. So when the diagnosis comes, when the job is lost, when the relationship ends — they can say, “I know I’m not alone in this,” rather than immediately spiraling into fear.

I’ll be honest with you: I still lose my cool when things feel out of control. Anyone who knows me knows this. But what I’ve built over years of practice is the ability to return to faith within seconds. The fall happens. The return is what’s changed.

That’s the goal. Not perfection. Return.

And the way you build that return speed is through a daily devotional practice — prayer, meditation, giving it over, and then giving it over again.

Signs That Your Spiritual Trust Is Deepening (Even in the Chaos)

Sometimes trust is growing even when we can’t feel it. Here are the signs to look for:

  • You return to faith faster. The time between panic and peace gets shorter.
  • You stop fighting what you can’t control. You start saying “trust the hold-up” instead of pushing harder.
  • You notice synchronicities. Signs and meaningful coincidences show up more often when you’re in alignment.
  • You make decisions from intuition, not fear. Actions feel inspired rather than desperate.
  • You see obstacles as detours. The thing that went wrong starts to look like redirection.

I once worked on a major deal where the people representing me kept messing everything up — every corner, every turn, delays and negligence. I was frustrated. But eventually I realized their slowness was divine order. That deal wasn’t meant to happen on my timeline. The universe was holding it for the right moment. The second I made that shift, I let them off the hook and let the universe lead.

It worked out — on its perfect timeline, not mine.

How Spiritual Trust Impacts Your Mental Well-Being and Decision-Making

This is not just spiritual theory — it has real neurological and psychological impact.

When we’re in a fear-based state, our nervous system is in fight-or-flight. We make reactive decisions. We contract. We control. We struggle to access creativity, clarity, or wisdom.

When we shift into spiritual trust — even slightly — we regulate the nervous system. We open up to possibility. We move from reactive decision-making to inspired action. Marianne Williamson says: “When we give time to a quieting experience, we have a different life because we have a different nervous system.”

Turning toward the love of the universe lowers stress levels, restores our cells, and reorganizes our energy. The long-term benefits are profound: greater resilience, more creative problem-solving, deeper relationships, and a baseline sense of inner safety that no longer depends on outer circumstances.

Common Pitfalls to Avoid on the Spiritual Trust Journey

Pitfall #1: Treating trust as a one-time fix. Faith is a practice, not a destination. Return to it daily — before the crisis, during it, and after.

Pitfall #2: Confusing control with trust. Trying to manipulate outcomes — even through “positive thinking” — is still control. Genuine trust requires surrender.

Pitfall #3: Waiting until you feel it to practice it. You don’t need to feel trusting to begin. Begin the practice to develop the feeling.

Pitfall #4: Impatience with your own progress. Impatience is often fear in disguise — fear that things won’t work out on your timeline.

Pitfall #5: Spiritual bypassing. Spiritual trust doesn’t mean ignoring real problems. It means facing hard things and asking for divine guidance through them — including professional support when needed.

Who Benefits Most from Spiritual Trust During Life Transitions?

Everyone — but especially those navigating:

  • Grief and loss — when there’s no logical path forward
  • Health challenges — when the outcome is uncertain
  • Career or financial upheaval — when control is an illusion anyway
  • Relationship endings — when identity feels shattered
  • Global uncertainty — when collective fear is contagious

The people who find it easier to maintain trust are those who built a daily practice before the storm hit. This is why I teach these methods in every format I can — because the time to build trust is now, not when you’re already drowning.

Go Deeper: Resources to Support Your Spiritual Trust Journey

🎧 The Trust the Universe Challenge

If you want a structured, supportive container to begin building spiritual trust in your daily life, I created the Trust the Universe Challenge — a 21-day journey where I guide you step by step into unshakable faith.

👉 Join the Trust the Universe Challenge here

🧘 A Free Meditation to Soothe Your Nervous System Right Now

Sometimes what you need most is to just breathe and come back to the present moment. I created this free guided meditation specifically to help you move from fear into faith:

👉 Watch the free meditation on YouTube

Start here. Let it hold you.

🎤 The Time to Trust Tour — Join Me Live

I am hitting the road with a brand-new live experience built entirely around helping you develop unshakable faith: the Time to Trust Tour.

When Live Nation asked me what I wanted this tour to be about, one phrase came through loud and clear: Time to trust. This is the moment — not when things calm down, not when life gets easier — right now, in the uncertainty.

I’ll be sharing the five most powerful practices I’ve devoted my life to for trusting that the universe is always guiding me. These are the methods from my upcoming book Unshakable Faith, brought to life in community.

I’ll be in Los Angeles, Boston, London, Miami, Vancouver, and more.

👉 Get your tickets and all tour details here

This is not just a talk. It’s a transmission. Come and let your faith be restored — in community.

How to Rebuild Spiritual Trust After a Period of Intense Doubt

If you’ve fallen away from your spiritual practice — or feel like trust has completely collapsed — I want you to know this: the willingness to reconnect is itself the reconnection.

The fact that you read this far? You already sent a message to the universe. I’m open. I’m willing. I’m ready to receive.

You don’t have to do it perfectly. You just have to show up. Here’s where to start:

  1. Say the prayer: “Thank you, Universe, for taking this from me and showing me where to go.”
  2. Document your spiritual proof. Write down three times in your life when things worked out in ways you couldn’t have predicted. Let that be evidence.
  3. Practice the Choose Again method every time a fear-based thought loops.
  4. Join a community. The Trust the Universe Challenge and the Time to Trust Tour both offer exactly this.
  5. Start a daily devotional practice — even five minutes of prayer or meditation. Consistency builds the muscle.

Conclusion: The Universe Has Always Had Your Back

Learning how to have spiritual trust when everything is falling apart isn’t about achieving a permanent state of peace. It’s about developing a practice that returns you to peace — faster and faster each time you drift.

The unraveling is an unfolding. The obstacles are detours in the right direction. The hold-up is divine timing. And the fear — as loud as it gets — is just a call for love.

You are not navigating this alone. You never were.

If this resonated with you, I’d love to continue this journey together. Start with the free meditation, join the Trust the Universe Challenge, and come see me live on the Time to Trust Tour.

The universe is always guiding you. It’s time to trust that.

Frequently Asked Questions About Spiritual Trust

What does spiritual trust mean when everything is falling apart? Spiritual trust is an active partnership with the universe — an unrestricted power fueled by love that goes beyond logic and physical evidence. It means seeing obstacles as detours in the right direction, and believing the universe is guiding you even when you can’t see how. It’s not blind faith; it’s built on your own “spiritual proof”: the moments in your life when things worked out in ways you couldn’t have planned.

Why does my faith disappear exactly when I need it most? Spiritual trust often disappears during crisis because fear is blocking it. When we’re obsessed with timing, outcomes, and control, we’re not in a surrendered state — and trust requires surrender. The moment you name your fear out loud and say “I am willing to heal,” you shift your nervous system and reopen the channel to divine guidance.

How do I rebuild spiritual trust after intense doubt or loss? Start by simply saying: “Thank you, Universe, for taking this from me and showing me where to go.” Document your spiritual proof — write down three times things worked out unexpectedly. Practice the Choose Again method, and join a community like the Trust the Universe Challenge to rebuild with support.

What is the difference between spiritual trust and blind faith? Blind faith is passive belief in an external source with no personal evidence. Spiritual trust is an active co-creation with the universe, rooted in your inner guidance system and built by witnessing synchronicities in your own life. It’s a sense of inner authority and certainty — not wishful thinking.

What is the Choose Again method? A three-step practice from Gabby Bernstein’s book Super Attractor. Step 1: Notice the fear-based thought on repeat. Step 2: Forgive yourself for having it. Step 3: Reach for the next best-feeling thought. This realigns your energy and rebuilds your connection to the universe.

Where can I find support for building spiritual trust? Gabby offers several resources: the Trust the Universe Challenge, a free guided meditation on YouTube, and the Time to Trust Tour — a live experience coming to LA, Boston, London, Miami, Vancouver, and more.

Gabrielle Bernstein is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, international speaker, and spiritual teacher. Her books include The Universe Has Your Back and Super Attractor. 

dear gabby #313 Apr 13, 2026 spiritual connection

a masterclass in spiritual trust: how to trust the universe again when everything is falling apart

 The following podcast is a dear media production. 
 Hey there. Welcome to Dear Gabby. I'm your host Gabby Bernstein, and if you landed here, it is absolutely no accident. It means that you're ready to feel good and manifest a life  beyond your wildest dreams. Let's get started. 
 When things are hard, when the world feels really uncertain or even shaky, it can be incredibly difficult to trust. And I know that feeling of wanting to trust the universe, but feeling blocked or having a sense of being lost, and this is something that you guys ask me about all the time, so I have collected your burning questions about spiritual trust, and I'm answering them all right here. 
If you've ever wondered, how do I trust when my life is unraveling, or why does my faith disappear exactly when I need it most? Or how do I start building spiritual trust from scratch? Well, then this episode is [00:01:00] for you. I'm answering these questions to give you hope and to soothe your nervous system, and to offer you practical ways to develop unshakable faith that the universe has your back. 
By the end, you'll have the certainty that you're never navigating a crisis alone again. The first question that I wanna address here is important because a lot of people are walking through life feeling like they're completely out of alignment with the universe. They're feeling a sense of unease in all situations. 
Maybe they're controlling their circumstances or trying to make things happen. And a lot of folks are sharing with me that they're just genuinely scared and afraid of what's happening in the world right now. And so you might be wondering, how can I cultivate spiritual trust when my life feels like it's unraveling? 
We have to start seeing all the unraveling as a unfolding. Things are falling apart in front of me because there's a spiritual grace that's meant to be given to me. And when we make this a daily practice of witnessing the stuff that's struggling and instead of resisting it and fighting against it, we instead [00:02:00] see it as a practice of knowing that we have to get back into alignment. 
It's an anchor. It's a guide. This is our moment to start to shift into what's possible rather than what isn't working. It can feel like a lot when we're really in it. Okay. It can feel like a lot when we're really in it, but bringing ourselves to the place of recognizing this difficult moment in time is a spiritual assignment for me to get closer to consciousness. 
And when I think back into my own life about the most difficult moments, the moments of complete despair being in deep postpartum depression. Being in that place where I really didn't wanna live and having to look at this and say, what is my spiritual assignment? Well, that can feel like a right, it can really in the universe, but it's not. 
It's a moment in time where we have to go deep into our soul and say, what is my spiritual assignment? And in that instance, my spiritual assignment was that I had to seek help in places that I otherwise may not have [00:03:00] looked. I had to seek help and psychiatric support. I had to seek help from antidepressants, and these were things that I had judged and things that I had looked over. 
But really what it gave me was this beautiful experience of recognizing that there is many more ways to heal, and I had to take a difficult moment in my life and really recognize that that moment was an assignment. It was begging me to show up for a new perspective and guiding me to understand the depths of despair so that I could come through the other side and teach it. 
So no matter what you're going through in this moment, no matter how desperate it is, maybe you're struggling with addiction or maybe you're struggling with your own depression, or maybe you're struggling with. Financial loss or financial insecurity, I want you to just humbly ask, what is the spiritual assignment for me? 
And put yourself back in the seat of what's possible rather than in the seat of what's not possible, what's not working. This is a perceptual shift, but when we shift our perception, we experience miraculous change. So it's a lot to ask you right out of the gate [00:04:00] here in this episode to say, look at the difficult moments, and ask yourself, what's the assignment? 
But it's a different perspective that can change everything. Because if your only job is to learn from this, then you can't fail. And if your only job is to learn from this, then you can come out the other side. So keep humbly asking, what would you have me learn from this? And that really brings us to this place of wanting to develop spiritual trust. 
And I often get this question, how do I start building spiritual trust from scratch when I feel so completely lost? Well, simply being willing to listen to divine guidance is evidence that that connection exists. It doesn't matter. If you are believing in God or the universe or spirit or spirit guides, believing that there is an energetic presence is all that matters. 
I don't care what you call it. I just care that you call upon it, and that when we open our hearts to connect to a divine wisdom beyond our physical sight, opening your heart to that divine wisdom is really quite simple, and I want you to [00:05:00] realize right now you've already done it. You pressed play on a podcast about how to trust the universe. 
Okay, you sent a message to the universe. I believe there's divine wisdom for me here. I'm ready to receive it. You've done it and I'm about to dive into why trust seems to disappear exactly when we need it most, right? Those moments when we need it and it's just gone. And we can really feel that stress of not knowing what to do when we're living in such shaky times. 
And I wanna teach you how you can move from fear into faith in a really major way. I've made this. Theme for this year for me, I even went out and designed an entire tour called Time to Trust when my Live Nation partners came to me and they're like, what do you want your tour to be about? I just said, the only words that are coming to me is time to trust. 
This is a time to trust the universe. This is a time to trust in an. Unshakeable faith that there is an energy beyond your physical site. And so if you're listening and you're like, I wanna take these methods deeper, and you wanna be in community around this, definitely check out the tour. I'm gonna be in la, [00:06:00] Boston, London, Miami, Vancouver. 
Just visit dear gabby.com/events and you can get all the details for the tour. This is a moment in time where. Having faith is required of us. I feel like if we don't have a sense of safety inside and we don't have a sense of faith, we're like a fish outta water. We're flailing. We're just trying, but not receiving. 
Why does spiritual trust seem to disappear when you need it most? Because trust often disappears because we're unconsciously holding onto fear. We want to have that faith and we want to have that trust, but we have fear or judgment or separation or attack, which is all in the way, and this acts as this block to the natural connection to the universe. 
All of our fear. Resistance. All of our stories inside hold us back from trusting and believing, and we lose trust when we become so obsessed with timing and with outcomes and that when I need it and why isn't it happened yet. And when we're trying to control [00:07:00] and when we're in that place, we're not in a surrendered state. 
When we're in a surrendered state and surrendering to the plan of the universe, that's when we start to see the signs. That's when we start to receive the inner knowing. That's when we start to receive the guidance that we need. So the reason that you feel like I need it most right now, and it's not here, is because fear is very present in those moments, and so we have to work with that fear. 
One of the best ways to work with that fear is just to name it. Just to say, oh, I'm blocking my trust in the universe because I'm so afraid of X, Y, Z. I'm afraid that this won't happen, or I'm afraid that I'm not good enough, or I'm afraid that I can't accomplish that, or I'm afraid that it won't be there. 
And so name it. And then the next step is to offer it up and say, am I willing to heal this? The moment that you say those words, I am willing to heal my fear. You. Absolutely shift your entire nervous system. You start to open up a dialogue with the [00:08:00] universe. You don't have to figure out what's next, but you put yourself into a new energetic state that says, I can't figure this out alone, but I'm willing to heal. 
Just try that. This is something I'm gonna go deep into in my live talk time to trust. It's actually a method from a new book I'm writing, which is called Unshakeable Faith, and this method is going to be detailed in this live talk and in the book, but for right now, just try this simple part of it, which is just take that thing that you've been so afraid of and that area where you just can't trust and just say, I'm willing to heal. 
I'm willing to heal. We wonder sometimes why that is so hard, right? What is spiritual trust and why is it so important when facing adversity? It's an unrestricted power that's fueled by love, and it goes beyond your logic and your physical evidence. It's a trust that allows you to move through rough times with a lot more honest. 
D and a lot more compassion for yourself, and it [00:09:00] provides this new perspective that obstacles are actually detours in the right direction. And when things look like they're wrong, you can actually say, oh, this isn't working, because something so much better is on the way. I have developed such strong faith and trust that I was actually working on it really, really big deal, and the people leading me through the deal were just. 
Messing it up. They were every single corner, just messing it up, slowing it down, making mistakes. And I kept calling them out and saying, what the hell is going on here? What is going on here? This is amateur hour. What is going on here? And the funny thing is, is eventually I realized that their mistakes, their negligence, their being so slow in the journey, and the process was divine. 
It was the perfect divine order. Because that deal wasn't meant to happen when it was being pushed out into the world. It was supposed to happen later. It was supposed to go slower. And so the negligence of the people representing me was a divine order, and the second that I made that shift, [00:10:00] it allowed me to just accept the fact that they were not handling it well. 
It let me let them off the hook it. Let me just drop it for a while. It let me know the universe has a better plan here because there's no way in hell that this would be so held up that they'd be so negligent that this would be so out of control if it wasn't meant to be held up for a reason. So trust the hold up. 
Trust the hold up. The universe will block things if it's not the right time, and sometimes it'll block things because people will just not do their job properly and you just can't get it done. Now is the case for me now, it's working out in the right time and order. I often get the question, what are some practical exercises to strengthen spiritual trust daily? 
And so very simply put, when you're actively choosing good feeling thoughts, you're staying in alignment with the universe and you're strengthening your super attractor power and that muscle of the miracle mindset. And this is about speaking words of. Grace speaking words of [00:11:00] faith, speaking words of inner wisdom. 
I would recommend that you notice those moments when you're out of alignment with the beliefs that you really wanna have and just witness yourself in the judgment and you can practice my choose again method, which I love to teach here. First step is to notice that fear-based thought that you have on repeat. 
You've been saying it over and over again. And second step forgive yourself for having the thought and just say, Ugh, that's just a thought that I keep thinking I forgive myself, and I'm gonna release this now. And then the third step is to just open up to the possibility of the next best feeling thought. 
You start to reengage your inner dialogue by reaching for what feels good, reaching for relief, and reaching for the next best feeling thought. When you do this, you actually realign your energy back into your super attractor power, and you reconnect with the universe. That reconnection starts to develop a strength in faith inside of you, and that faith starts to just expand and expand and expand. 
This is all on you to [00:12:00] witness and notice those fear-based thoughts. Forgive yourself for having those thoughts and choose again. If you wanna deepen your practice with the choose again method, I actually teach it very in depth in my book, super attractor. So I'll link in the show notes to super attractor. 
That's a great place to practice that method. The next question that I love is, how does spiritual trust differ from blind faith? Great question. Active co-creation. Spiritual trust. It's not a passive practice. It's actually an active partnership with the universe. Your thoughts and your energy align with what you want to receive. 
You're actively in the energy of aligning with what you want to receive. It's built by witnessing miraculous synchronicities in your life, and those synchronicities are proof to you that the universe is working. I call this spiritual proof. It's like a spiritual certainty that you have because I want you to document right now all the moments when Spirit did have your back, when the universe did have your back look closely and see, oh, that actually was divine guidance, that wasn't blind faith, and I [00:13:00] want you to settle into your nervous system. 
And what did it feel like in those moments when that thing just worked out or I received that sign, or I felt intuition guide me, or I took an action based on a sense of certainty instead of a sense of fear that. A true, genuine faith that's not blind faith. It's a sense of inner authority. It's a sense of certainty, and unlike blind faith in an external source, right, this is trust that's rooted in an inner guidance system, in an inner knowing in yourself, energy. 
The strength within you. And this provides a constant intuitive wisdom. There's a big difference. And this brings me to the next question, which I'm gonna answer, which is why some people stay calm in crisis while others feel like they're losing it. And this comes down to a daily devotion. Okay? This is a daily devotional practice. 
I am the person that when I feel out of control, I lose my shit. Okay. I still have that part of me that just loses her. [00:14:00] Cool. When I'm out of control, anyone who works with me knows it. Anyone who's close to me knows it. But what I do have now is a knowing in the moment that I can find my way out quickly. 
I'm still healing the part of me that loses it. When I feel out of control. I'm actually, so I'm like the nine bajillion times better than I ever was before because I've practiced the principles in my book, Self-Help, and I've healed the part of me that's so out of alignment, but I know I still have a part of me that gets really flipped out when things are out of control. 
What's miraculous is that I flip it back to faith in seconds. In seconds. We're not going to avoid uncertainty. We're not gonna avoid the feelings of needing to control, but we're gonna know where to turn and we're gonna remember our truth in those moments. And then the more we remember that truth, the further we get away from being in that energy of freaking out when we have a daily devotion, which I've committed to in my life. 
We start to trust that we are in that place of divine guidance, we start to [00:15:00] know that I just flipped out. That was a part of me that still isn't disbelief, but the universe actually has my back and I can realign right here, right now. And again, that's what I'm gonna teach in the time to trust towards. 
It's that the practices that I've lived my life, the five steps, the most important practices that I have deeply devoted my life to for trusting that the universe is guiding me. It doesn't mean that I don't fall off. It doesn't mean that I'm always walking around feeling like everything's perfect. It means that within seconds I return to my faith. 
I know where to turn when I'm out of alignment. I know how to pray when I'm out of alignment. I know how to give it away for 24 hours. I know how to do nothing and let the universe show me what to do. And that sense of knowing is the path that I have been on. I'm gonna share that path with you in the Trust the Universe tour. 
So again, that's the link above to develop that question that I just asked a bit more. Why do some people maintain spiritual trust during hardship while others actually lose it? Those who maintain trust choose to see themselves through that [00:16:00] lens of possibility and love. They are often people who've developed that faith beforehand. 
They're the folks that say, okay, I just received that diagnosis, but I'm gonna go through this with a sense of knowing I'm not alone, rather than those who fall into fear and let the fear take over rather than fearing the worst and really getting into that fear of why and how, and I don't know what's gonna happen next. 
They have the willingness to stop relying solely on their own strength. They let spirit help them get out of the way, and they get into a daily devotional practice of just giving it over and giving it over. This is a really beautiful practice of getting yourself connected to the spiritual realm rather than treating it like a one-time fix. 
And we can feel that shift inside of us when we get into the daily practice of prayer, when we take those things that we can't control or those big issues or those big fears, and we say, thank you universe for taking this from me and show me what to do because we can't figure it out alone. The [00:17:00] universe is always gonna reveal to us a way better situation, a way better plan than we could ever have imagined, but we have to tap into it. 
We have to open our heart to it, and we have to say yes to it. But that starts through prayer starts by saying, take this from me. Show me where to go. And then we're gonna wonder. Sometimes we're gonna be like, you know, where can I look for guidance? And where can I reestablish spiritual trust after such loss or so much uncertainty? 
That brings us to this inward reflection. We're gonna need to turn inward. And befriend every fear-based feeling and just have compassion for it and forgive the fears and notice them and just say, okay, I see you and I hear you, and I'm gonna call you by your name. This is fear, but I know that there's a better way and I'm gonna welcome the guidance of the universe instead. 
So witness that fear. Call it by its name and say your prayer. Thank you universe for taking this fear from me and showing me where to go and what to do. And as we develop that faith. It becomes [00:18:00] like an anchor. It becomes a sense of knowing, and I've had a lot of difficult things happen in my life. 
Moments of loss, big loss. I've had moments in my life where I've had to rely on my faith, and I've noticed in these deep moments of uncertainty and fear, moments of depression and despair, that my faith was always there. It held me like a blanket. It was there to remind me that I was being guided. It was there to remind me that there was a way when I consistently said I'm willing to heal, when I was choosing better thoughts and more positive outcomes when I gave myself a sense of grace and side and compassion towards these parts of myself. 
When I opened up to the capacity to pray to the universe, these practices developed a sense of inner certainty that I swear by that I need to survive. And yes, do I lose my shit when things [00:19:00] feel out of control? Yes. Do I come back with in moments? Yes. Do I know in those moments that that is not real? Yes. 
Am I still having a human experience? Yes, but the more that I develop this faith, the less those moments show up. And the less I believe them, and this is what I want you to remember, the universe is always conspiring for you and for your highest good. And even when it doesn't look like it, you're being guided. 
And so I want you to really surrender to that faith inside of you. I want you to open your heart to it and to definitely join me if you're out there in the world. If you're out near these cities, la, Boston, London, Vancouver, Miami. If you're in these cities and you wanna be with me live. Definitely let's develop this unshakable faith together. 
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It's a lot, and we talk a lot on this show about shifting our energy and stepping into the power that sometimes. Programming in our mind is actually really holding us back. And if you know, you should be more confident and you are sure of yourself, but your brain second guesses and criticizes you all the time. 
There is a podcast that I want you to listen to and it's called Unfuck Your Brain, hosted by New York Times bestselling author Kara Lofi. Kara is two time Ivy League grad. I love her approach because it's not just fluff. She really gets into the grit of why we think the way that we do. And her work is centered on helping women identify those invisible scripts we've been handed, like the ones that we should handle money or ambitions, or our relationships or our motherhood. 
Certain way, the shoulds, I hate the shoulds. And on the [00:24:00] show, Kara shows you exactly how this programming is messing with you, and then she shows you how to change it so you can speak up for yourself. She blends psychology with deep understanding of how society and sexism shape our internal dialogue. And she also brings in incredible experts like Tory Dunlap and Mel Robbins to share their wisdom and changing limiting beliefs. 
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What you're gonna listen to in the next clip from the universe has your back. Book. Launch isn't just the story, but the shift. It's the moment where fear is driving, and then the moment where awareness starts to settle in. Because that right there is the practice, my friends. That's how you come back  
 to trust. 
Take a listen. [00:25:00]  
 The first lesson I wanna share with you tonight is actually one of the most important steps that we have to address if we're gonna begin a spiritual path of any kind. And this step is recognizing what's up, so that it won't keep coming up. If we don't show up for what's up, it will keep coming up. 
It will keep showing up. It will continue to show up in different forms, in different ways, and it will rock you to your core, and it won't just rock you because you're so uncomfortable with what's showing up. It will rock you because you'll be like, shit, it's here again. And that happened to me today. I woke up this morning and um, I saw the email that went out to everybody with this launch email that my team and I had prepared so perfectly, and we had it all set up to go out in two different ways with two different bits of language and go to the perfect page link. 
And the email went out to hundreds of thousands of people and it went with the wrong link [00:26:00] on my launch day. So. This sent me into a tizzy, like a tizzy beyond just, oh, that sucks. Let's find a way to fix it. Right? Like a tizzy beyond like, oh, that's uncomfortable. Let's like, let's make this happen. Who did this? 
Let's fix it now, blah, blah, blah. Like that would be like the normal response. I went into full body shaking. I get in my Uber, driving up to do a radio show, and I'm screaming the most. Profound profanities. The poor Uber man was like, God bless this woman. She's probably sitting there like praying to God that I will get out of the car. 
On the phone with my project manager, Jessica in London going, what the happened here? You know, losing my mind. I show up Stacey, my publicist is waiting for me at Sirius Radio. She's looking. She's like, isn't this so exciting? I'm like, it's a miserable morning, honey. And she's like, don't let anybody see you do that. 
A woman walks [00:27:00] up to me, are you Gabrielle Bernstein? I'm like, oh. So it goes on and it's on and it's on, and it's just, it's this one moment after the next. I'm just giving this poor girl Stacey, who's new to the team, just giving her so much attitude, you know, just so pissed, like, you know, and then I'm sitting there with her and I'm just, I'm just, you know, slowly this steam is slowly shedding and dying off slowly I'm starting to engage and I'm realizing, okay, I gotta go on the radio in a few minutes, so I really have to get this together. 
And I go on the radio and I'm with this lovely woman, Jenny McCarthy. She's so cool. This lady, and I love her. She's awesome. So she's interviewing me and little did you know, she wasn't really into self-help books. And so she's talking to me and she's like, you know, well what happens when you know things don't go right? 
Like, how do you know the universe has your back? Well, you know, Jenny, the shit hit the fem for me this morning. And things were not going right. I am not happy. Then I, I told her, I said, listen on the radio, I said, [00:28:00] email went out a hundred thousand people, people got the wrong link. And she said, well, what do you do with that? 
How do you transform that fear into faith? What do you do with that? I said, I'm doing it right now. I'm accepting in this moment that that reaction, my fear-based reaction to that somewhat seemingly insignificant issue in the grand scheme of things, my reaction was another opportunity to be in the witnessing of what is up to witness another divine spiritual assignment for optimal growth and healing to see myself in my wound. 
Not in my crazy, in my wound. What that triggered in me is a very deep wound. I am not supported. I have to do it all. That's where the tears came from. That's where the fierce, fierce anger, the anger and the frustration and the cursing and the fire, it comes from the [00:29:00] little girl who did not feel supported, and that is what keeps showing up. 
So it will keep showing up until you show up. So one of the ways that we can begin to show up is first and foremost just to look at it. Whether you're on the radio or you're with a best friend, just call it by its name, Jenny McCarthy. Here's my fear again, honey. And that's what it was. That's what it was. 
Just looking at my fear straight in my face and honoring the wound. And so if we don't honor what's up, it will keep coming up. It will keep coming up. It will keep showing up in different forms, in different ways, in different attitudes, in different relationships. It'll keep showing up in the same relationship, just a different being. 
It'll keep showing up in the same job, just a different boss. It'll keep showing up in the same situation, just a different angle. So we must show up for what's up or it will keep showing up. And what we need to show up for is our resistance to love. The [00:30:00] stories, the beliefs, the things that we hook into, the limitations, the doubt, the judgment, the attack, all that we hook into, these are the ways that we resist the energy and the flow of the universe. 
And if I'm gonna write a book for you about how the universe has your back, I better talk to you first and foremost, about how the universe can be blocked by you. So the first few chapters of this book identify the resistance. It helps you look at that resistance, look at it head on, honor it. Witness it. 
Get real about it. Do you know what your resistance is? Do any of you know, like how do you resist love? Tell me, do you resist love because you play small? Do you act out? Do you speak poorly about other people because you are afraid to see what you don't like about yourself? What are the ways that you resist love? 
Get honest with yourself. Yeah. Tell me how are you resisting? Are you playing small? Yeah. Scream. Trying to control is a major one [00:31:00] baby. Let's talk about control. When we try to control, we're in a place where we believe we are God, right? We think, you know, I have the power of the universe, but really the true power of the universe, allowing the power of the universe to move through us is when we step back and we allow, when we let go of the rope, when we allow that place of control to be released. 
Sitting there in the radio show this afternoon, I just sat there and I let go of the rope. I said, I'm willing to let this go. I'm willing to release this. I'm willing to see this differently. And in that moment of letting go of the control, the universe could come back in and the rest of my day could unfold accordingly. 
And I can show up here tonight and not feel disconnected, and not feel frazzled, and not feel like I'm still worrying about the email that didn't go outright this morning, but most importantly, feel supported. Right. So when you're controlling, when you're in limitation, when you're in lack, when you're in self-judgment, when you're in a place of unforgiveness, all of these ways are ways that we resist the [00:32:00] presence of love, and so we have to be willing to look at that resistance in order to clear the path back to the presence of the universe within us. 
When we move so fast, we block the flow of the universe. When we move and move and move and move and move and move and move, and we don't give ourselves a moment to just sit down and take it in. If we don't take it in, then we're not allowing the flow to move through us and guide us. We're just pushing past it. 
We're ignoring it. We have to take it in the next step is that when you think you've surrendered, surrender some more? So when you think you've surrendered, surrender some more. Take that in. This is actually my favorite chapter in the book. I took some of my favorite stories from the book and that's what's in here. 
I shared this story publicly in New York City at my Crazy Sexy Miracles event last year with Chris Carr, and now I'm gonna share the full circle moment. So the same time that I started writing, the Universe had your back. I also, you know, I had the plan of like, get the book done in [00:33:00] time. It's gonna be early, we're gonna submit it. 
And at the same time, I had another vision in my mind. I had a goal, I had an objective. I knew it was gonna happen exactly as I expected, and I had the whole plan. Thank you very much. And the plan was to make a baby. It was the perfect plan. I was gonna get pregnant, I was gonna write the book, I was gonna have the baby, the book was gonna come out. 
I was gonna be perfectly like lined up for the book to come out like three months after the baby was born. I was gonna have like the best nanny ever. It was gonna all be perfect 
and I had the intention. I started to do what we do to make a baby and I wasn't getting pregnant. Month after month, I would get my period and I would start counting nine months ahead saying, okay, well how can I move this around and how can I change this around because this is coming and I, I gotta make sure that it's all lined up properly. 
And I would cancel events and shift around my travel. And I was just saying, okay, you know, I'm, I'm gonna try to still complete God because I wanna be [00:34:00] God and this is gonna happen on my time and month after month. It didn't happen. Fast forward to December 31st, 2015. It's New Year's Eve. I am at a party with my college friends who all live all around the world, so I hadn't seen them in a while, and all of them have children that are about two years old. 
Little kids are all running around the house and I'm preparing for this dinner and I'm hanging out and I, I see these little kids running around and I'm looking at my husband and I'm thinking. I'm behind. I'm not getting pregnant. Everybody has their kids. Their kids are two, they're moving on to their second kid. 
I'm completely behind. I'm not part of this. I feel like I'm not good enough. Is there something wrong with me? And I'm feeling this very silent shame that only women in that situation know what I mean. And if you are in that situation or have been, my heart goes out to you. [00:35:00] And I feel that discomfort and I just kind of push it down. 
I wake up on New Year's Day and I got my period, and so here I was. It's a full year, and this intention that I had, this vision that I had didn't happen. It didn't happen the way that I expected it to happen. It didn't happen in the time that I had anticipated. And I woke up and I was upset and I was angry. 
And then my friend Jordan, who's here tonight, was at my house and he's like, honey, what's wrong? And I just, I looked at him and I was like, you know, this is what's up. This is what's up. And he said, you know, he's really talked me off the ledge. And he reminded me that I was not really looking at this from a very spiritual place and I wasn't allowing, and that I had been really trying to control. 
And I excused myself and I said, let me go sit with this. Lemme go meditate on this. And I sat in my meditation and I heard my inner wisdom say, your plans are [00:36:00] in the way of God's plans. Get out of the way. Your plans are in the way of God's plans. And that day I channeled what is the best chapter in the book when you think you've surrendered, surrender some more. 
And I took myself on the path of spiritual surrender. I took myself on the path of spiritual surrender, and I used and applied the principles that I channeled in the book to my own life so that I could feel that release and I could feel that connection. The first step to spiritual surrender, take your hands off the wheel. 
The universe cannot take from you what you will not give away. The universe cannot take from you what you will not give away. So take your hands off the wheel through prayer. Through intention, through meditation, through coming, even to places like this, even evenings like this can remind you to just take your hands off the wheel. 
[00:37:00] And a lot of times people say, you know, just surrender. Like, just let it go. And you're like, how the fuck do I let it go? That's why I wrote this chapter. I wrote this chapter because it's too often that we just throw those words around, let it go. How about, here's the plan. Let's let it go this way. Here's the plan. 
So take your hands off the wheel through prayer. That prayer can be simple. This book is filled with prayers. I actually think one of my special skills, it should be in my bio prayer giver, so there's all these prayers, and so one of the simplest prayers, thank you universe for taking this from me. 
Reinterpreting this for me. I surrender. And so I started to just get into that daily prayer practice. Thank you for taking this from me. Thank you for reinterpreting this for me. I surrender. Just offering it up, giving it up, saying thank you, take it. The second [00:38:00] step in the spiritual surrender process is to turn over times and turn over outcomes. 
So one of the issues I was coming up against was this issue of I need to have a baby at this time, right? Or it needs to be in this way and it has to happen before the book comes out. So the book can be there and everything can be the way I want it to be. But that control and that manipulation was in the way of God's. 
That control and that manipulation was in the way of God's plan. And so here I was and I had no choice but to offer it up and give it over, but most importantly, to turn over the time and turn over the outcome, I found that the simplest way to turn over the outcome was to focus on what was thriving in my life rather than focusing on what I thought I needed, focusing on what I already had. 
So rather than being like, I'm left out, I don't have a child. I'm not in the same place as my friends, I started focusing on, I have an amazing husband who shows up for me, who loves [00:39:00] me. I have an opportunity to get grounded in this relationship as we build a business together. I have a beautiful, beautiful, divine, holy relationship that I wanna put my love, my intention, and my energy into. 
I have friendships that are thriving. I have a business and a career that is booming, and I got a book, baby that's coming out soon. So I started to focus on what I had thriving in my life and in the focusing of the thriving I released and I let go of that outcome and that need to get somewhere. And I was very happy right here. 
And that's the simplest way to get into the now, is to just focus on what you do got, focus on what is in front of you, focus on what is working, and let go of time and let go of outcomes. 
That moment right there. That's the work. It's not about never getting triggered or never losing your faith. It's about recognizing what's really coming up and choosing to [00:40:00] meet it with that awareness instead of the fears that hold us back. Because when you do that, you come back to yourself and when you come back to yourself, you come back to your faith in the universe. 
So if you take anything from this episode, let it be this. You can come back fast. It doesn't matter how far you've gone into fear, it really doesn't. You can come right back now and just start by asking yourself, what is the spiritual assignment here? What is this moment trying to teach me? And if you're willing to see that differently, you open the door to that guidance, the guidance of the universe, and you start to remember the truth that you're not doing this alone. 
And if you're listening to this and you're thinking, I want to feel that connection more consistently, I want to actually live in that place of trust. I want to really know that I'm being guided. Then I made something so special for you guys. So, so, so special, and it's my 21 [00:41:00] Day Trust the Universe challenge that's designed to help you take all the work out of your head and into your real life. 
This is, to be honest, one of the most beautiful challenges I've ever created, because at the end, you start to feel this sense of certainty, trust your inner knowing. You know how to calm your own nervous system and feel that inner wisdom and trust the signs that you receive. It's such a cool challenge. 
And so for 21 days, I guide you with really powerful and simple audio lessons and meditations and prayers, and they help you settle your energy and reconnect to that inner knowing. And there's a digital journal and there's Gabby AI connected to it. So the more you do this, the more you. Trust and over 300,000 people have already gone through my challenges, and they've used these practices to feel calmer and clearer and supported, and it's just $37. 
It's like less than a cup of coffee a day to really strengthen your faith in the universe. So head to dear gabby.com/universe challenge to get started today. That's dear [00:42:00] gabby.com/universe Challenge. 
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 Hi there, Gabby here. This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and [00:43:00] support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. 
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