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I’ve spent the majority of my life communicating with Spirit through meditation, prayer and other forms of conscious contact with the spiritual realm.

It’s literally like being in a conversation with a friend. 

But here’s the important part: You can’t expect to hear the guidance if you don’t open up the conversation. 

So how do you start a conversation with Spirit? 

It’s simple: You ask for guidance. 

And how do you know you’re receiving that guidance? 

You’ll feel grounded, inspired and loved. You may feel a shiver down your spine or a brush of energy move through your body.

Listen to today’s episode of Dear Gabby to learn how to connect to spirit and TRUST the guidance you receive.


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The voice of Spirit has no agenda, no drama, no forcefulness—only a sense of ease.

Oftentimes the voice of Spirit we hear is very different from our own voice. It can feel like an ethereal being delivering a loving message. Other times it comes through as our own higher self—curious, compassionate and courageous.

The key is making a conscious choice to open up to spiritual guidance throughout your day, in whatever way resonates with you. It could be meditation, prayer, repeating affirmations, journaling, or moving your body in a way that feels good. What matters most is your willingness to tune in.

Just get into alignment and you will receive clear guidance. 

Ask for guidance and expect clear direction!

In this episode you’ll learn:

  • How to begin to cultivate a stronger connection to spirit
  • How to distinguish between spirit and ego
  • How to open yourself up and tap into your vulnerability
  • How to begin to connect to spiritual guidance in order to manifest your desires
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dear gabby #221 Aug 26, 2024 spiritual connection

how to talk to spirit and receive spiritual guidance from the universe

[00:00:00] The following podcast is a Dear Media production. Hi there, Gabby here. This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I'm not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from a psychological or medical condition, please seek help from a qualified health professional.

Hey there. Welcome to Dear Gabby. I'm your host, Gabby Bernstein. And if you landed here, it is absolutely no accident. It means that you're ready to feel good and manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams. Let's get started.[00:01:00]

Welcome back, my friend. Welcome back to Dear Gabby. Today's episode. is so good. It's all about how you know you're hearing spiritual guidance. This is a topic that so many of you have come to me asking for. People are always asking me in audiences, how do I know if it's my ego or if it's my intuition? How do I know it's my spirit guides?

What do I do to know Gabby? And in this episode, I reveal it. I give you the direct line to spirit. I kicked off the topic of the show today just by answering some questions that were sent in from some of my listeners, and so many of them had the same question. So I was like, here's our topic. If you are someone who is ready to start to deepen that connection to that spiritual realm and you're ready to recognize the voice of spirit within you, this is your episode because oftentimes the voice of spirit that we hear is really different from our own and it can actually feel in many ways like an ethereal [00:02:00] being or a presence of love inside of us and sometimes it can also come as a sense of higher self or curious compassionate courageous energy.

Starting to get to know that voice of that presence of spirit inside of you is very, very powerful. And the more you start to tune into your inner awareness and start to understand what that spiritual feeling is inside of you, the more you develop what is known as self energy with a capital S. And self energy is the energy of a courageous, compassionate connection inside that is really our superpower.

I reveal the exact practice that I use to connect to that self energy inside this episode and also inside my forthcoming book, Self Help. This is your chance to change your life. Self help is coming out on New Year's Eve, people. Don't wait. Pre order the book right now, because when you pre order, you will get access to a free full day virtual event with me called the Self Help [00:03:00] Masterclass.

And it's going to be the event where I reveal to you the secret to attracting, the secret to manifesting, and the tool that I have created for you. Absolutely fine tuned to activate my manifesting power. You're also going to get a deep dive into the methods from the book that will really give you that super attractor connection.

So head over to DearGabby.com /selfhelp and pre order the book today. Enjoy the show. Today we did something a little different. We did something kind of awesome. A while back I asked for folks to leave their review about the show and then to share a question that they may want me to dear Gabby.

And so what I'm going to do today is a little different than usual. I'm going to dear Gabby this question that came in from F Janelle B on the reviews section of Apple. And she sent in this question for me to answer live. The question then will also become the theme for our conversation as I bring [00:04:00] dear Gabby folks into the podcast live and workshop them.

Let's start with F Janelle B and her question today, which is about spiritual guidance. And I know this is a topic that so many of you really want more of that you long for it. And that clarity of how to connect can be extremely heartwarming. no matter where you are on your spiritual path. So here we are.

F. Janelle B. asks, Dear Gabby, When asking for guidance, how can I tell if the guidance I receive is Is truly from spirit or is just my ego getting in the way? I have a very active mind and sometimes worry that my ego is trying to sneak through fear based guidance disguised as intuition. This happens often during meditation.

Excellent question. I get this question in [00:05:00] more ways than one. For decades, I've been on stages talking about spiritual principles and I've always received the question of, Gabby, how do I know it's my inner guidance rather than my ego? Or in this case, how do I know that it's my spirit guides rather than my own ego, my own fear voice?

Let's get into this. When it's the voice of spirit, you feel grounded, you feel inspired, you might even sense like a buzziness or a speediness. There's an enthusiasm behind that inner guidance. There's only love. Even if it's a direction or a suggestion to go in a direction that may be like a warning sign, it's still wrapped with love and safety and security.

There's no agenda. There's no drama. There's no forceful nature. There's a sense of ease. [00:06:00] Sometimes it might not even sound like your voice. It could sound almost like the voice of an ethereal being. Sometimes I hear when spirit speaks to me that's like dear daughter of the light. Literally that's what I could hear.

Dear daughter of the light. Or we are here. We are, we are speaking on behalf of a collective or a presence. And sometimes it's just the voice of my own higher self, the curious, compassionate, courageous part of me that's coming through, directed by the presence of love, the presence of spirit, the presence of God.

And so we know that it's the voice of spiritual presence or a spirit guide or your inner guidance system when it is grounded, calm, inspired, loving, peaceful, no agenda.

It's a sure sign that it's the voice of your ego. when [00:07:00] you have an agenda, when there's an agenda, when there's a timeline, when there's urgency, an urgency that seems controlling, when there's any form of attack thought, when there's a doubt, when your body doesn't feel connected to it, when it feels almost like there's a sense of fear behind it.

You could even hear the voice of your ego, it could be a good message, but it doesn't feel aligned or resonant in your body. It's maybe potentially feeling forced, like it's coming at you rather than through you. That's a really good distinction. You know it's the voice of spirit when it's coming through you.

And it's the voice of ego when it's coming at you. Wow. That was the voice of spirit coming through me to express that. For me, you can see me in this show. You know when I'm in my logical mind of like, okay, let's bring on the next guest or whatever. And then, you know, when I start talking fast and I start feeling [00:08:00] inspired and if you're ever watching a video, you can see my hands go numb and there's just this source of energy coming through.

And that's when we're channeling spirit guides and our own presence of spiritual wisdom within. So there's a freedom in knowing that it's your inner guidance system and spirit and there's a control when it's the voice of your ego. So to recap that message for F Janelle Bee on our Apple reviews and for everybody that's listening now.

You know it's the voice of spirit when it's coming through you and you know it's the voice of your ego when it's coming at you. Most beautiful, simple distinction. How do we connect to that voice of spirit? Keep listening to Dear Gabby. Go back to our podcast episode on spirit guides or any of the manifesting episodes on Dear Gabby.

Just keep listening. Search Dear Gabby Manifesting, it all is right there for you. And all of the practices that are related to super attractor or manifesting where the universe has your back are all designed to help you get into alignment with that [00:09:00] presence of your own inner guidance system so that you can hear a fluid connection to the voice of your spiritual guides.

That is all laid out for you here on this show. So go back and listen if you want to go deeper into clearing the space for that connection. So on this topic of spirit guides and connecting to our inner wisdom, I want to go deeper with you. I'm so excited to connect to people. I haven't seen you guys in a while and let's bring in our first guest.

Hi, Samantha. Oh my goodness. I'm so excited to be here. Thank you so much. Welcome to Dear Kathy. Are you psyched about this topic? I am so psyched. And it, everyone always says this, but it feels like divine timing. So just so grateful. Well, it always is divine timing. It's never an accident. So I guess I'll just dive into my question.

I have been working with my vulnerability and with my heart being kind of closed in general and kind of working to open that [00:10:00] heart and let love in, especially love and vulnerability and intimacy from my partner and then my friends around me. I'm kind of resistant to receiving and not giving love, but more receiving love.

And I feel like I made a lot of progress in that, but I just recently am kind of dealing with some trauma that I'm uncovering. And I, I have gotten happy days and I love it so much. And I've done a couple of those practices, but it feels like that's setting me back from being vulnerable and open to love because it's like, My nervous system is all over the place and I'm processing too much.

So yeah, I'm just wondering if you have any advice for kind of that situation. It's a slow, steady path and the best, honest, best advice I would have given you is what you're already doing, which is doing happy days, but, but big, but with a big B, you have to realize that when you start to look more closely at the blocks to your vulnerability, you're You'll have parts of you that are going to come up really loud and [00:11:00] really fear based, similar to that voice of ego as we were talking about in the beginning, being like, no way, too scary, don't go there.

That is the first step, going there with happy days, following the methods and the path. that I've laid out before you and taking it slow and steady, leaving behind anything that's too overwhelming for you in the moment, coming back to it in five months, five years, I don't care, but going slow and steady because you can't, when it comes to wanting to be vulnerable, particularly in romantic relationships, it is an undoing of historical trauma.

That must occur in order to feel safe enough in your own body and internal system to let someone in with true vulnerability. So there isn't a fast hit [00:12:00] of fix. There isn't a fast fix, but there is a path from the trauma to profound freedom and inner peace and vulnerability, which is called happy days.
And so I'm so excited that you have that book and that you're doing it and it is triggering you and the triggers. as long as they're not so extreme and taking you out, are a good sign because it means that it's touching, that you're not so dissociated and that you're able to touch into the reality of what's coming through, right?

So those feelings, while they're very overwhelming and can be very flooding to your system, are also extraordinary signs that you are, have done so much work to get to this point where you're safe enough to even touch into those feelings. Got me? Yeah, take that in. I see that your whole energy shifted when you said that.

Yeah. So your shift in your energy that I just witnessed is such a sign to me that you are ready to go here, but slowly and safely. [00:13:00] And you came on, you're like, I want to know how to be vulnerable. Well, this, this is the path. This is the path. Because if you try to be vulnerable, particularly in an intimate relationship and you force it, or you try it or whatever, before you've done the work to get to a place of inner safety, then you're going to retraumatize yourself.

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So right now, what is vulnerable in your relationship? Vulnerable is, hey man or woman, I don't know, are you in a partnership with a man? Yes. I'm just always wanting to make sure I'm honoring whoever people are, wherever they are. Hey man, you know, I'm having a lot of resistance to vulnerability. I'm wanting to acknowledge that that's there and that it's affecting us.

And I want to let you know that I'm doing some really deep inner work, and it's beginning with this book, Happy Days, and I'd be comfortable right now maybe sharing some of my journey with you. That is a f ing vulnerable thing to say to someone. Yeah. And letting him in on your process is very important.

Because, one, it is a step towards genuine vulnerability and authenticity. [00:19:00] And two, he's not in the dark, you know, like, where is she, what's she doing? He's with you. And, you know, some of us do this work and it changes the relationship and some of us do this work and it dramatically heals the relationship and elevates the relationship.

And that was the case for me. So I can give you that promise if you make that commitment. Gosh, thank you so much. It really did shift so much when you said. Just the fact that you're feeling these triggers means like you're ready and that you're capable of feeling these triggers and that it's possible to heal.
I feel like I've always. Thought like, Oh, well, I guess I'm this way forever. Right? No, no, no, no, baby.

That's why I wrote this book because your ability to feel into that truth is the healing journey. Your ability to open that book is a huge step forward in your recovery. [00:20:00] You are not the victim of your trauma.

It does not have to have a hold on you forever. It does not follow the guided path in happy days. Go slow and let the voice of your inner guidance system lead you because that voice of your inner guidance system, that spiritual presence is going to say, you know what, Samantha, let's skip chapter three right now and let's come back to that in a year and it's gonna be very loving and very clear and very connected and that's different than the voice that's like.

No way I can't even go here, right? So knowing the difference between those two voices based on the theme of today's show and letting that voice of spiritual guidance, which is going to be the loving, very all knowing voice come through and just take you slowly by the hand and gently guide you through this journey and to definitely skip things that feel like too much.

And to definitely reach out to the therapists that I recommend in the book and the [00:21:00] types of therapy if you feel called. And to definitely do whatever practices feel grounding and don't do the ones that don't right now. But the answers for you, Samantha, I can say with every inch of my being, lie in the pages of that book.

Don't look any further. God bless. Thank you. You're welcome. I'm sure that's not the answer you wanted to hear. Everybody's like, well, I want to know how to do it right now, but, but it's right there and that's why I wrote it. It's all right there. Yeah. Your guides brought you to the book. And your guides brought you on here today for me to say, go do it.

Thank you. And thank you just so much for your work in general. I absolutely adore you. Thank you so much. I want to leave you with one more thing, and this is for you and for all of our listeners who are all recovering from their own form of trauma in any form, big T or small T. I want to deeply acknowledge your courage to open a book like that, to listen to a show like this.

Requires courage, [00:22:00] courage to go to the places that scare you so you can come out the other side. And I'm really proud of you. Nice job. All right. That was beautiful, Samantha. Who's next? Hi! How are you, love? Hello! Oh, my goodness. This is so unexpected, but not. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Wow. I got in the shower and I have to still do my makeup, but I was rushing so I could come sit down.

So, it's an honor to talk to you. How can I help you today as it relates to listening to that inner guidance or anything else that's coming through for you? Inner guidance, intuition, but kind of as that relates to, I think I've had a lot of recognition of past trauma lately and understanding what that means and still kind of working through what I want to do with it.

So in short, my Mom specifically, but my parents, I just really haven't had a relationship with [00:23:00] them for almost two and a half years and going through a lot of therapy with that. My mother suffers from like borderline personality, narcissistic personality. So I'm just kind of trying to figure out that place and that boundary.

But without that, like, I feel like part of my soul is missing. If that makes sense. Like, I feel like I've just changed as a person. My social anxiety is just triggered like crazy. I used to be so much of a people person and, you know, embrace being around people. And now I just kind of would prefer to be on my own.

And so I think that happening has really forced me to not listen to my intuition and not listen to that inner guidance. And I'm kind of trying to repair or try to figure out what that relationship looks like while repairing myself and my soul. But then I don't know, I think I'm trying to do too much and I, I, I don't know if I'm just not listening.

Can you [00:24:00] clarify one thing for me? So something happens specifically to create more of a. break with your mom at the moment? Mm hmm. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Okay. So, of course, you're super triggered. Of course, your traditional coping mechanisms are no longer working. Of course, you're super activated because mom, the attachment figure in your life, Who is never safe for you because she has, God bless her, mental illness, has recently done something that has super activated you.

So let's give yourself some grace here, sister, okay? And I recently took your attachment style quiz. I'm definitely anxious attached. You're definitely an anxiously attached person. And, and the quiz that she's referring to helps you understand that you have your own unique attachment style. And seeing that and understanding that is a first step to giving yourself grace.

And really looking at yourself [00:25:00] right now, and let me know if this feels possible for you. But to look at the part of you that's so triggered in this moment, right, the anxious part. And how do you feel towards that part of you? Just like it doesn't belong there. Oh, okay. So you're, you're, you're kind of judging it.

Okay. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Well, then I want to give my, I want to give you a little Gabby perspective of that part. Okay. Anxious part of Jennifer. I honor you. And I understand you, and I have extraordinary compassion for what you're going through right now. And I want to just give you a huge hug and just let you know that this is totally normal and totally to be expected, given your attachment style with your mom, and you're triggered right now.

And I want to just, just, just let you know that it's, I'd love to know more about you. And I just want you to know that [00:26:00] I have compassion for you. And I just want, does, does that part of you feel that, does that anxious part feel seen? Absolutely. Absolutely. So I want you to take your journal out tonight and I want you to write a letter to that anxious part of yourself.

And maybe the letter starts with a lot of bullshit, like, why are you here? You know, I don't like you, blah, blah, blah. But then as you write. See what else begins to come through. Don't edit anything, right? Like there could be some funky stuff that comes up in the beginning, but we want to let that out and clear that so that the voice of love spirit guides inner guidance.

So we can clear space, clear the ego story to let that voice of self, right? The energy of your inner guidance system. to come through and care for that. That makes sense. Okay. Yes. Write the letter, write the letter, start wherever you need to start and write until. Love [00:27:00] comes through. I love it. Okay. Oh that's a good lesson.

I can't wait to put that in my next book. Right until love comes through. I like right until love comes through. What a good lesson. Gabby. I like that. Thank you. That is, that's powerful. Go slow baby. You're having a trigger. You're, You grew up with a borderline mom. That's really hard. God bless you. Thank you.

God bless her. Yeah. You know, it's not an easy world. No, no. I hope she can get the help she needs, but wish her well. But you gotta do your thing, girl. Yeah. Yep. Minimal you can do. And pray for her. And you can keep your side of the street moving forward. That's right. That's right. Absolutely. Absolutely. That makes sense.

So I will do a little bit more listening than, than doing. Right until love comes through. Yeah. I love that. Thank you so much. Happy. You're welcome. Gorgeous. Thank you.

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What's up, girl? How you doing? Oh my God. [00:32:00] Hi. Thank you so much for bringing me in. I did not expect this today, but I've been wanting to ask this question since the manifestation challenge that I did back in January. And I signed up and I thought initially, like, I'm going to make it about career, career, career.

But then when I started and I was doing the meditation. It just felt like what I really wanted was relationship. Like that's just what was coming through. So I was like, okay, I have to honor that like intuition that that's what I really want. So I started, I kind of started over and I did it for like deep respect, meaningful relationship.

And I remember the day that it was like a meditation about how do you want to feel when you get this thing and the feeling before the getting. And [00:33:00] I had been interested in a relationship with a particular person who lived in my, my building. And once I started feeling those feelings, I started seeing them all the time.

And I was like, wow, this thing worked really bad. And long story short, that relationship ended up going like really badly. So I was getting really worried that like, I'm not able to manifest because talk about feelings of unworthiness. I felt like I had done the challenge wrong, which I know I'm going to stop you right here right now.

My love. Okay. Stop it in your tracks. Here's the deal. You put out a vibration that you were ready to receive love, right? And that you were ready to get into a relationship. And that vibration is super freaking hot. Okay. And it's magnetic and it's, and it's vulnerable and it's like. open. And so you know what, you're going to be a magnet for a lot of [00:34:00] guys when you're in that vibration.

Okay. The guy that just happened to be the closest to you in proximity was this guy that signed up to be, you know, not the highest and best. What I want to really emphasize here is that the manifesting part was completely accurate. There's a step that you may want to clarify next time. And that is actually the step of clarity being crystal clear about what it is that you want to attract.

Because You have no trouble getting into alignment with your superattractor power to attract into your life. All you have to do is just define what you're trying to call in. I want to call in love with someone who is, you know, really stable and does a lot of personal growth work and, you know, is financially secure.

And what I want you to do is I want you to write a list of what are your non negotiable. What is super non negotiable for you? And so non negotiable is that he's doing inner work and he's mentally well. Right. Non negotiable is that, you know, he [00:35:00] has, you know, just giving examples, like he's, he's financially secure, he's creative and non negotiable.

And then there's, then there's the second part of the list, which is like, what would be nice? Okay. And nice is like, he's six foot tall, but that's not a non negotiable, but it's nice. Right. But what's most important is the non negotiables because if you do that work that you did so well of cultivating the feeling.
You are going to be a magnet for a lot of stuff. And so you don't want to be a magnet. You don't, you know, you don't want to be like the moth to the flames, right? Because you're just flame is so light and so bright that all the moths start coming. You want to be super clear about what it is that you want to be a magnet for.

Well, can I just ask how you, because obviously it takes time to get to know people in general. I think you kind of touched on this before, but how, you know, when it's coming from spirit versus when it's just like you said the [00:36:00] closest person to you because I, I really would like to moving forward. I mean, one thing that I did was write down all the things that I did get from this experience that were positive, which is like a stronger desire to protect myself and move slow and all this stuff.

So is there a way to kind of like connect to yourself more to know before? Okay. So here's the deal. That is exactly right. The more you strengthen your relationship and awareness of the voice of spirit, the more safe you can feel as you start to open up energetically to others. And in any situation, because you can trust your intuition more.

You can be more patient. You can go more slowly. You can listen rather than react. You can allow the voice of love to lead you. And that spiritual voice and that spiritual presence of guidance is always within us and around us. And honestly, even when we get into shitty [00:37:00] relationships that are scary or whatever, there are opportunities for learning and growth and you've already chosen to see it that way.

So let's say thank you to that experience for getting you closer to cleaning up your energy so that you can attract what you want. and to also strengthen your relationship to your spirit guides, to your own inner wisdom, so that you can listen more and do less. The more you strengthen that relationship through your meditation, through your journaling, through revisiting practices that you love from the meditation challenge, through listening to this podcast, through going back to the manifesting episodes of Dear Gabby and doing the work and through reading a book like Super Attractor.

I'm going to send you a copy of Super Attractor. Okay, just give it to my team is going to send that to you and start cultivating these practices. The more you will be able to hear that voice of your intuition. And then the next time you get into a relationship, you can be fearless because you can be like, listen, I got my [00:38:00] spirit guides right here, right behind me, backing me up, protecting me and telling me to walk away or telling me to walk forward.

And I don't have to fear that. Now, reality is, is like, You know, all relationships are assignments and relationships that we are going to be guided. So you're going to bring up stuff for us no matter what. But the next one won't be a feeling like this one, right? Because you've already got the spiritual guidance that's come forth for you.

Hey, sweetheart. Thank you so much. It means a lot. I just wanted, I loved the challenge, but then I hated the feeling that I did incorrectly. So I'm really glad to get clarity on that. Um, uh, And you know, that challenge is a first step. And that's why we say the next step is to read the book or read Superattractor, or whatever, right?

Because you start with the challenge, you start with listening to one of these podcasts, but the consistent daily practice and the ritual, and the getting into the ritual. guidance. And, you know, I'm assuming I'm your teacher here. You've found the [00:39:00] challenger back here talking to me. So use me, right? Use one of the nine books.

Use happy days to undo the patterns that have held you back in these relationships. Use super attractor to manifest with more clarity and use the universe has your back to transform your fear into being really listen to the voice of that guidance system. If you want to, if you guys want to hear the voice of your inner guidance system and trust that voice of spirit, read the universe's There's a whole episode on that and happy days if you want to get an intro to it and read that book.

Okay, baby. Thank you so much. Beautiful. Thank you. All right. What a good one. What a good one. What a beautiful group of people that came through today to really recognize and identify when we take any action, whether it be facing into our vulnerability or showing up for our personal lives or our professional lives.[00:40:00]

With that presence of spiritual connection coming through us, then anything is possible. So understanding the difference between the voice of your ego, the voice of fear, and the voice of your inner guidance system, the voice of love will be one of your greatest virtues because having that greater awareness and understanding will allow you to very effortlessly notice when you have to get back into spiritual alignment.

Amen. Notice when it's time to open up a book like Happy Days and do some deeper work. Notice when it's time to close Happy Days because it's feeling like too much. And when we allow ourselves to be led from that voice of spirit rather than the voice of fear, everything begins to unfold naturally around us.

Our relationships miraculously transform. Our careers [00:41:00] begin to expand beyond what we thought was possible. And we also Can notice that boundaries begin to dissolve. And so this show, while we've touched into a lot of different topics like trauma and action and vulnerability, the main core through line that came through all of this is that anything that we do, that we face into, that we show up for in our life when done with spirit by our side, when done with the voice of love as our leader can be miraculous.

It doesn't have to be something we're afraid of, it can be something that we fearlessly and courageously face into, because we're not alone. We have a presence of love within us and around us, guiding us, protecting us, and showing us with clear direction exactly where to go, what to do, and what to say, and we can trust it every step of the way.

Thanks for joining me today. I'm excited for all of you to crack open to that presence, the spiritual connection within. See you next week on [00:42:00] Dear Gabby.

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