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stuck in the past? here’s why it happens and how you can change your life for the better!

This podcast should feel extremely relatable because SO many of us live in the repetitive stories of our past. The stories of our history, the stories of our childhood—they repeat, they replay and they become fearful beliefs that we hold onto. And in many ways, we rely on those fears to stay somewhere that feels safe. It can be hard to unlearn unhealthy lessons.

When we have a traumatic experience, our memory can become fossilized around that specific event, making it difficult to look forward. If we numb ourselves or believe in those fears and limitations, we can freeze in the face of our goals and desires.

BUT …

What would happen if we woke up one morning and decided: Hey, you know what? I’m actually going to change my perspective today. 

Life may have handed me a bad deck, but I can change how I play my hand by changing my mood.

I am not my past and it doesn’t have to crush my happiness

Sure it’s helped shape me, but I get to choose how it shapes me going forward.

You’re the director and you have authority over the script. Once you change the narrative, you can change your life.

This reminds me of a motivating quote from life coach Kelly Rudolph:

You can view your past in one of two ways: as the brakes that stop you from your dream or the jet fuel that launches you into your dream.

If you’ve been in a situation where you’ve felt like things just aren’t working out, or you feel stuck and unhappy with the way things are, this episode will teach you how to use manifesting to turn your life around.

I’ll offer three spiritual solutions for perceiving your life through the lens of love rather than the lens of fear, so you can rewrite your personal narrative. Living with more ease IS possible. Let me show you how to change your life.

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in this episode you’ll learn how to use manifesting to change your life in 30 days:

Step 1

ask yourself, “what life do I want to create?”

Open your heart to what’s possible, and then ask yourself what you really want. Don’t think too hard, just answer! Do you see a picture? What does it look like? Say it out loud or write it down in a journal, which will help you create a clearer vision. From this heart-centered place, allow yourself to imagine that vivid picture. Set aside any preconceived notions. This is your time to fantasize!

Step 2

ask and pray for what you want

Take the time to say thank you, Universe, for guiding me toward what I desire. Then state your intention—and be specific! Say it with conviction. Say it with your heart. Say it with your openness. This moment of belief and grace can be a turning point in your life.

Step 3

get rid of limiting beliefs

When we clear away what we don’t believe anymore and open our hearts to what’s possible, we can create a new reality. We have to do whatever it takes to transform and transmute those inner belief systems that hold us back.

Step 4

disrupt your own narrative

Knowing what story we’re telling ourselves helps us learn, little by little, to trust life and build the sense of self-worth that we need to succeed and be fulfilled.

The most important thing to remember when learning how to change your life  is that your past doesn’t define you; it just tells a story of your strength.

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In the wonderful book Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks, the authors emphasize that there’s no such thing as fate directing our lives. We are the co-creators with the source (God or Universal law), and we can shape our lives as we wish.

Open your heart to the grace that is available to you when you truly surrender. Give yourself the chance to choose again. Pray for what you need. Ask and it is given.

I hope this episode of Dear Gabby serves you on your path to building the life you truly deserve.

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how to use manifesting to turn your life around

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GABBY: Hi there, Gabby here. This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I'm not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from a psychological or medical condition, please seek help from a qualified health professional.

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Hey there. Welcome to Dear Gabby. I'm your host, Gabby Bernstein, and if you landed here, it is absolutely no accident. It means that you're ready to feel good and manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams. Let's get started. Welcome back, my friends. Welcome back. Today's show is, well, it's just a little bit different than usual. Recording Dear Gabby has been such an absolute joy for me and it allows me to do so many things. And it's something that I'm really fortunate to be able to do and craft and be creative and plan these episodes and these topics in a really, really meaningful way.

And whether I'm introducing you to someone that's amazing through my big talks, or I'm just diving deep with our Dear Gabby Sessions, I am so proud to be able to share it. Each topic just motivates me. And so that's how I know it's motivating you.

That's how I know, because it's moving me to tears and it's moving me on a core level, I know it's impacting you. And today's episode is, compact, it is short, it's sweet, but it's important. It came about super spontaneously. I was in the studio with my producer Josh and our sound engineer Wolf and I had a really, really awesome recording.

And we were just chatting and I was just like, you know, I think that's it. I think I'm done. I don't have anything left in me. But then when we got talking, as we do, and we're still rolling, the audio recording is still on. We just started talking, and thankfully, we're still rolling. And Wolf just asked me this random question.

He said, you know, I have all these internal voices. How can we change the script on those voices that play over and over in our head? I was like, yeah, this is big talk. I like to jump into this stuff. And suddenly, I was filled with this sense of renewed energy after recording for hours. So I let the recording continue to roll.

And what came forth was a message I was definitely, definitely moved to share. It literally moved me, like I was channeling something coming through. And I was channeling something coming through. And I think partly because the idea that we all have the power to change our narrative, as I've said before, something we all need to hear.

I think partly because we all know that we have the power within us to change our narrative. And this was a message I wanted to drive home in this beautiful, random, out-of-the-blue episode. I talk about how we're oftentimes overcome by our internal stories. And I share some really practical tools that will allow you to just begin to write your own script, rewrite the narrative of your life.

And I was just really going for it. And a lot came through. We talk a lot about manifesting and visualizing, and this episode is going to provide you with so many tools to support you in creating the life that you really want. And to quote my dear friend, Dr. Wayne Dyer, “You'll see it when you believe it”

And I'm really happy to share this one with you. Listen, take it in, practice and let the changes and miracles begin.

GABBY: I once heard this teacher of A Course in Miracles share this story and it was a metaphor, really. Of how we're all kind of watching this movie and we're sitting in this dark movie theater and it's like the movie's doing some scary things you're watching and you're like, “Don't turn that corner!” “No,” like freaking out, throwing popcorn at the screen, flipping out.

“Don't turn the corner. Don't turn the corner. It's too scary. It's too scary.” And that movie is representative of our life. But what we forget most often is that we can actually walk back to the projector room and rewind and replay that movie. And so what I want to really remind you of is that you are the director of your life.

You have the power to rewrite the script. You have the power to change that reel. You have the power to start over, start fresh. And what if your life could be like a blank sheet of paper? What if you could just start today and just open up your computer screen, blank sheet of paper and rewrite the story.

What would you write? What would come up for you? What would you say you wanted? What would you choose to see? How would you witness your experiences? I offer you this idea because so many of us live in the experience of the repetitive story over and over of our past, the stories of our history, the stories of our childhood.

They repeat, they replay, they become repurposed. They become the fearful beliefs that we hold onto so closely. And in many ways, we rely on those fears to stay seemingly safe and we perpetuate them and we replay them and we repurpose them and we project them from the past onto the present and onto the future.

And we constantly live in this state and that projection becomes our perception of our life. But what if we chose to change the projector to change what we are projecting? What would happen if we chose to wake up and decide, I'm going to change my perspective. I'm going to choose to see this differently.

I’m going to open up my conscious awareness to what's possible. Now, as I say that there's probably a part of you that's like, no way, Gabby, I don't have any chance in hell of changing my story. I'm the victim. My experiences were horrible. I've experienced so much trauma. How could I possibly even let that go?

And I'm going to be really honest. I don't expect you to, I'm just offering you today spiritual solutions. for perceiving your life through the lens of love rather than the lens of fear. Because no matter how hard our life has been, no matter how far down the journey of fear we have gone, no matter what traumatic events we have experienced, there is the possibility to see and experience life with more ease.

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So right here, right now you might be listening and you're living in despair and you're living in trauma and you're living in the storyline of your past and you're repeating it and replaying it and you press play today and boom, you're getting a Gabby kick in the ass. You're getting a spiritual adjustment.

You're getting an opportunity to have a quantum shift. So right here, right now, take that area of your life or your whole life story if it is, the belief systems that you've been carrying, the storylines that are holding you back and put them in front of you. Maybe if you're not driving, just gently close your eyes and envision there's a basket in front of you and take this issue or these issues or the stories and beliefs.

And offer them up, one by one, drop each story in the basket, the story of suffering, the story of trauma, the story of pain, the story of lack, the story of inadequacy, the story of being unlovable. Whatever these stories are that we carry, we can drop them into this basket now, one by one, just release them one at a time.

Each story that you drop into that basket, visualize it now being transformed and transmuted. See it dissolving into a beautiful golden light. The energy of it is dissolving, the storyline is dissolving, the baggage that goes along with it is dissolving, the past is dissolving, the future is dissolving.

And take a deep breath, and on the exhale just let go, and see this basket now being carried away. It's being lifted by an angel, it's being carried out of sight, it's being moved away from your need to hold onto it. And it's being taken away from you now. This story doesn't have to be yours in this moment anymore. It can be let go. It can be released. It can be transformed.

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And in this experience of giving it away, just in this moment, breathe into the sensations in your body that you might be feeling right now. What does it feel like to let it go?

What does it feel like to offer it up, to see it be transmuted? Sense into that feeling in your body, where does that feeling exist? Is there a sensation of relief? Is there a sensation of peace? Is there a fear? Are you still holding on to it?

Where do you hold those sensations in your body and check in right now?

Maybe your eyes are still closed, just staying inward. Focusing your attention inward, what does it feel like to, in this moment, let go and surrender it all?

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In that feeling right now, just offer yourself a moment of grace, put your hand on your heart, and put your other hand on your belly, and just allow yourself to breathe deeply, inhale completely, exhale, inhale deeply, and exhale completely. Seeing in your mind's eye now this openness in your heart, visualize what that would look like for you.

What does it feel like to have an open heart? What does it feel like to be free from that bondage of those stories? In the past. What does it feel like inside of you and what does it look like? Are there images? Are there any visuals that you see? Open your heart to what's possible right now and in this heart centered place, answer this question.

What is the life that I want to create? Don't think, just answer it. What is the life that I want to create? What's your answer? Just throw it out there. Say it out loud. Write it down. Don't think just respond out loud or in a journal. What is it that you want to create? What is the life that you want to create for me?

Boom. I want to create a life of complete ease. I want ease. That's what I want. And so, retelling that story now from this place of having given it over and offering it up. And now from this clean, open hearted place, let's ask for what we want and let's pray for it. Let's say, thank you universe for guiding me towards what it is that I desire.

And then you insert what you want now. Say it with conviction, say it with your heart, say it with your openness. This moment of belief, this moment of grace. This can be a turning point in your life. This moment right here, right now, listening to Dear Gabby, this moment of visualization, this moment of relief, this moment of allowing can be a complete attitudinal adjustment that can change the direction of your life if you choose for it, if you choose for it.

So give it over. Offer it up. For the rest of this day, I want you to just notice how you feel. Notice any sensations in your body. Notice any shifts in your energy. Just pay attention. Pay attention to the changes that occur. When we visualize our baggage and our stories being transformed and transmuted and we ask for what we want, what we want will be given.

Ask and it is given. Ask and it is given. A beautiful message from Abraham Hicks. Ask and it is given. Clear away what you don't believe you are anymore. Open your heart to what's possible. You can create a new reality when you choose for it.

That's not going to come without any personal growth or spiritual development or taking the messages from this podcast or getting into therapy or doing the work—that is part of this journey. We have to be willing to undergo whatever it takes to transform those inner belief systems that hold us back.

But right here, right now, you have had the opportunity to give it over and to ask for something new and to claim that desire and to humbly say, show me where to go, what to do, what to say, and how I may create the reality that I desire now. Ride the momentum of this episode. Ride the momentum and the energy of this visualization.

Listen to it daily. Come back to it again and again and again. And use this exercise and this practice and this visual of letting go to be a spiritual guide to rewriting the script of your life, a spiritual path and a spiritual practice that is not what we were pulled aside and taught, but an opportunity to suspend your disbelief, let go, and allow.

I really encourage you to come back to this episode over and over again. I encourage you to give yourself the opportunity to practice what's possible for you. Open your heart, open your heart, open your heart to the grace. It is available to you when you truly surrender. I can't wait to hear how this goes for you.

Come back and leave me some comments in the reviews and just let me know how this supports you. Give yourself the chance to choose again. Today can be a quantum shift for you. Thank you for joining me today, on Dear Gabby, I'm proud of you for listening all the way through.

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