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a surprising way to reduce everyday anxiety

In my daily life, I often use the principles of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy to check in with the parts of myself that are activated. When feelings of anxiety arise, I don’t instinctively suppress or override them, like I did in the past. Instead, I choose to tap into curiosity and ask myself questions.

Here’s why: Trying to override anxiety often exacerbates it, especially if we are trying to control it.

In this episode of Dear Gabby, I explain how one of the healthiest things you can do for your activated part is to begin an internal dialogue. Speak to it with compassion and curiosity. 

checking in with activated parts of yourself

Curiosity plays an essential role in my approach. As strange as it might sound, I engage with my anxious self, asking questions such as, “How can I help you?” and “What do you need at this moment?”

Anxiety is a form of protection, in a way. But often it isn’t necessary, and experiencing it makes us feel less safe, not more. Offering space to our anxious feelings can mitigate their impact.

learn to accept anxiety

Rather than trying to bypass anxiety, we can lean into it and learn where it’s coming from. During this episode, you’ll hear from three brave callers who are facing different roots of anxiety, trauma and healing.

I firmly believe that accepting anxious or fearful aspects of ourselves sends a message to the Universe that we are receptive to creative solutions and support. 

in this episode, I share:

  • How to get curious when anxiety shows up
  • Ways IFS can help you manage your anxiety
  • The role acceptance plays in releasing anxiety
  • Why we do not need to be the victim of our activated parts
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This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I am not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from any psychological or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified health professional. Visit this list of safety, recovery and mental health resources for guidance and assistance.