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I’ve spent the past two decades amassing some pretty awesome tools for getting through tough times. Still, nobody can prepare for every hardship that’s in store, including me.

After a beautiful pregnancy and birth, I experienced a debilitating bout of postpartum depression. There came a point when I felt completely powerless over what was happening to me. I was living in a very dark place with constant fear, anxiety, insomnia and agoraphobia. It was overwhelming.

Confronting a major life crisis makes you feel trapped and incapacitated. But I’m here to remind you that when it comes to overcoming challenges, there is ALWAYS a way forward (and often, more than one). Even when things seem hopeless. 

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in this episode I’ll share:

  • 4 methods for working through hardship
  • Ways to shift your mindset to survive (even thrive) in tough times
  • How to build resilience so you can navigate life’s bumps better
  • Deeply moving stories shared by members of my Melbourne, Australia, audience 

4 strategies for overcoming challenges

Very few people emerged from the pandemic unscathed. The prevalence of anxiety and depression has skyrocketed worldwide in the aftermath of those surreal years. 

If you’re one of the millions (it could even be billions) of people whose mental health is suffering, I’m very happy you landed here. 

These straightforward methods for overcoming obstacles will raise your emotional and spiritual vibration, which will help give you the power you need to get past your darkest and most difficult days.

I have personally used each of these methods when I needed relief. 

strategy 1

observe the uncomfortable feelings

When you get overwhelmed with a strong emotion, step back and try to identify what you’re feeling. Is it anger? Fear? Sadness? Rejection? 

Observe what’s happening with compassion for yourself. There’s a reason you reacted this way, and your only purpose at this point is to locate that reason, without judgment. When you consciously connect the emotional and psychological dots that lead to big, disruptive feelings, you can better manage (and eventually, avoid) those triggers in the future. 

If tuning in like this is too painful or traumatic, that’s okay. It’s your sign that you should seek the help of a therapist who is trained to help people resolve such embedded emotions. I’ve included a list of resources here. 

strategy 2

pump the brakes on your self-imposed timeline

In my experience, a lot of stress is generated by the pressure people put on themselves to achieve certain milestones on a preset timeline—whether that’s getting married, writing a book or buying a car. 

Maybe your life doesn’t look exactly the way you thought it would right now.

It’s normal to get bummed out—but don’t dwell there.

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From an energetic POV, things move much faster when you’re actively grateful for where you are NOW and appreciative of the runway you still have to go even further. 

Self-imposed deadlines are arbitrary! You made them up … and you can just as easily erase or adjust them. To really learn the skill of letting go, check this out. 

strategy 3

take a body-centered approach

The mind-body connection has long been established—thoughts and feelings do affect our physical well-being. What’s important to acknowledge is that the impact can be either negative or positive. Let’s focus on positive change.

There’s a specific type of trauma recovery called Somatic Experiencing (SE), which I write about in my book Happy Days. This mind-body modality helps heal deeply rooted negative emotions that are stored in the body. Rather than focusing exclusively on the thoughts or emotions associated with a traumatic event, it expands to include the natural bodily responses.

Just as you would go to physical therapy to regain strength and mobility after breaking your leg, this kind of therapeutic support helps heal a broken nervous system. Using things such as movement, self-regulation and grounding techniques, SE reboots your brain to alleviate chronic pain and stress.

SE can also easily be integrated into other counseling services. Make sure to find a licensed and experienced mental health professional with training in SE techniques.

strategy 4

make big changes through small actions

What small daily actions can you take toward healing that will bolster your resilience and inner grace? Is it reading a passage of a book? Listening to a podcast? Going for a walk? Saying a prayer?

Lasting change usually doesn’t happen all at once. You need to have faith in your journey and keep taking the small, consistent steps that will prepare you for the bigger steps. Even just a 1% change every day can lead to a meaningful shift. 

please remember, there is always hope

One of my wonderful guests in this episode, Liz, is an ICU nurse who worked through the most harrowing months of COVID. She’s proud of her work, but feels it’s affected her vibration and what she’s able to attract. 

She’s not alone. Many of the nurses I’ve spoken to post-COVID are suffering from PTSD, even if they don’t call it that. They’ve endured so much. The main thing I recommend is Somatic Experiencing, because it’s such a powerful recovery tool. 

I also encouraged Liz to actively seek out her most supportive friends and family members. The time to self-isolate is OVER.

Listen to this episode for more poignant stories and for guidance on overcoming challenges, no matter how insurmountable they seem. One thing I’m sure of is that the human spirit is astonishingly resilient. 

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dear gabby #157 Aug 18, 2023 emotional wellbeing

the most effective methods for handling life’s biggest challenges

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GABBY: Hi there, Gabby here. This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I'm not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from a psychological or medical condition, please seek help from a qualified health professional.

If you're a regular listener of this show, you know that for the most part, I'm pretty chill and believe it or not, that's true even when it comes to my parenting style. I'm that mom who can stay calm even during a four-year-old meltdown. Seriously.

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Well, well, number one, I know I can trust the universe when the sh*t hits the fan. That's period. And number two, I lean heavily on my meditation practice. I've been meditating daily for 17 and a half years. Yep, that's right. I've never skipped a day of meditation. I just haven't.

And it is this practice that has helped me navigate the most stressful situations in my life. And it's also given me the ability to really lower my anxiety level. So whether you already have a meditation practice or if you've never tried it before, I want to help you cultivate that same sense of inner peace.

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Hey there. Welcome to Dear Gabby. I'm your host Gabby Bernstein, and if you landed here, it is absolutely no accident. It means that you're ready to feel good and manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams. Let's get started.

GABBY: Welcome back, my friends. Welcome back. You know, I really love these Friday episodes because it gives me this chance to share something really special with you.

Often I like to share my live talks and today, I'm sharing a super high vibe talk that I gave. It's a conversation that's really timely. It's very pertinent and it's especially true for today's show. In recent weeks, I've shared a couple of my talks from my Australia tour, and today's was recorded live in Melbourne.

It's a highly-charged episode, and what came through was nothing less than astonishing. Look, my friends, you know me. I never pull a punch or sugarcoat anything, so here it is. Life is freaking hard, no matter how you live your life or try to control things, tough times are inevitable. And we have challenges in our day-to-day life and sometimes when we're really dealing with these major obstacles or crises, it can feel like we're trapped and I'm here to remind you that overcoming challenges can be difficult but there is always a way out.

There is a way through every block. And on today's episode, you will listen to each of these beautiful guests that come through. Hear my words to each of them. See what resonates with you. I share very practical tools and strategies to help them overcome hardships and really shift their mindset and build resilience and I really know that you're going to recognize yourself in these stories and these lessons.

So I was really deeply moved by these stories and I'm so honored that these audience members went there with me. They went there with me. So take it in. Listen, see what feels right for you, and I promise applying these methods will help you shift your thinking. So maybe share this episode with a family member or friend who needs it.

And drop a review or comment and let me know how you liked the episode. I love you guys. Enjoy the show.

GABBY: All right. Why don't you, why don't you grab the mic, man, and come sit down. He'll go first. Let's have that lovely man come first. You're already on the stage, baby. Come sit with me. All right. What's your name?

MARK: Mark Chilson.

GABBY: Mark?

MARK: Yeah. I'm another Mark.

GABBY: There's lots of Marks in my life today. I love Marks. Mark, how can I help you?

MARK: Well, a lot of ways you can. 2022, I think for a lot of us was a terrible year. Derailed mentally in a very horrific way. I feel I let my kids down. I'm a solid dad of three kids, I spent most of the year on the couch, not wanting to get out.

I had to sort of con my way through pretending I was doing things for my family and my friends. I feel I went through that. I then went through a phase where I was sort of uncomfortably numb. Where I knew that I had to do something, had to get out of the rut, and I think that scared a lot of people, because they saw how quickly I went down, and that was a big shock, because I'm normally a very energetic sort of guy.

So, went through the phase of being uncomfortably numb. I then had to own up. I had to stop wallowing. And I own my s**t and understand that the way forward was to own my s**t. So I've been doing that and I'm in the process now of letting what were the triggers, letting that go, cleaning my house up. And I think where I'd like some help is a lot of those people who supported me, which were wonderful, fantastic.

My inner sanctum. They quite rightly are worried about the next phase. They want me to play safe and they want me to do things so I don't relapse.

GABBY: What were you relapsing into addiction or into depression or?

MARK: Depression, anxiety. I just fall right down and…

GABBY: Mark, you're not alone in that.

MARK: No, no. I think a lot of people got hit by the COVID bit, right?

GABBY: I mean, Mark, we went into a global and we're still in a global mental health crisis as a result of that, my love. Okay? I want to speak to that. Depression, right? When you're in depression, it feels like there's no way out.

MARK: No way out.

GABBY: And I want to hold space for what happens to those of us who experience mental illness.

I believe that I was gifted the experience of mental illness with postpartum depression and suicidal ideation. And the gift for me was to know what that's like so that I can really, really, really speak to you. And know what you went through.

MARK: Thank you.

GABBY: And understand the fear of going back and to speak with conviction about the benefits of having psychiatric support when it's necessary, to speak about the benefits of therapeutic support when it's always necessary. And to remind you that there is always a way out. And I understand the fear of relapse. I understand.

Because one of the biggest things about anxiety and depression is the fear. Oh that it could come right back on, right? But when you have that connection to the part of you that gets anxious and the part of you that gets depressed and look, I want to be very clear about what I'm saying. Some of our friends in this audience are on psychiatric medication and this may actually not be as easy for them, let alone may not necessarily be a life without that medication.

That's fine. That's great. I'm glad they have it. I'm really sensitive to the topic of mental health because God gifted me the experience of knowing what that means. And so, I'm going to speak about it with the path forward, but also the compassion for what it is. But the more that you start to understand and connect to that part of you that is anxious and depressed, the more aware you become of what triggers that part of you.

And the more you spend some time connecting with compassion towards that experience and to the part that led to that experience, the less afraid you have to be of a relapse. Because why do we relapse into old behavior? Because we haven't built the foundation to hold us up.

But when we build up that foundation. Whether it's, you know, you're getting sober, 12-step recovery, therapy, sponsors, whatever. In your case, therapeutic support, maybe psychiatric support, maybe just being here at Dear Gabby, having a book like Super Attractor, which actually I really want to give you Happy Days.

So we'll get you a copy at the door.

MARK: Fantastic.

GABBY: Using your tools because the more you build up your foundation, the stronger you are. And then if there is a relapse, which there could be, you bounce back faster. It's not about whether or not we ever relapse, it's how quickly we come back. So I don't want you to fear the future.

I want you to be focused and present in building the foundation right here, right now, because that alone will give you confidence. So what ways are you building that foundation exercise, positive books, like this kind of book, listening to Dear Gabby, coming to this show, choosing every day to do that, this Daily Design Method, saying prayers.

All of the things that work for you, work them, and then you'll feel like you have a lot more power.

MARK: Looking forward to it.

GABBY: You're doing it right now. You're doing it right now.

MARK: Thank you.

GABBY: Beautiful. Thank you, Mark. Excellent. And thank you, Mark, for speaking on behalf of half of the population right now.

MARK: There's a lot out there.

GABBY: Yeah. There is.

MARK: Thank you for all your work too.

GABBY: Thank you, sweetheart. All right. Who's next? Bring it in.

ASH: Hello.

GABBY: Hi, sweetness. How you doing?

ASH: Hi, Gabby. How are you?

GABBY: I'm good. Thank you. What's your name?

ASH: My name's Ash.

GABBY: Hi, Ash. Hello.

ASH: Firstly, thank you so much for being not only my spiritual teacher, but the spiritual teacher for so many in the room.

Uh, it's kind of crazy because I actually did the manifesting challenge in January and I manifested this moment, so I'm kind of freaking out a bit.

GABBY: Wow. Ooh. Mm. That’s dope.

ASH: Thank you. Uh, Gabby, what I'd love to know is, uh, I started my own recovery journey three years ago and I've been clean and sober since then.

And as you would know, in that process, I've done a lot of the inner work and I've really looked at my life and I believe that I've found my purpose, which is to fight to remove the stigma around mental health, trauma, and addiction. I've got my podcast Behind the Smile, which is my passion and it's my life's work.

However, I'm 35, so I got sober at 32 and in that process, I left a marriage. I moved cities. And I completely changed my career path. So as much as I try to hand it over and pray, I do still find myself caught up in fear and particularly fear of time, because there are things and questions, big questions that I now have unanswered that I thought I knew the answer to before I got sober.

Things like, am I meant to be a mother? Should I go back to the corporate job that was safe or continue on this, this purpose that I feel is my life's work? I'd just love to know, how do I grapple with that, that sense of time?

GABBY: Get over it. There is no time. There literally is no time. There is just, what are you doing today?

How are you showing up right now? How are you helping another human stay clean and sober today? How are you, and, and to answer even the question of like, should I have children or should I? Um, maybe today you don't want to, and maybe in a year you meet a man or a woman, whoever it is. And you're like, this is the love of my life.

And I'm going to have a baby. I think we wrap our heads up and the idea of 35 being older or something, Oh my God. No, no, you're a baby. And also you got sober, very young, 32 years old is very young to get sober. You have the rest of your life ahead of you. Don't try to put any kind of timeline on your life.

Why? Anytime I've tried to control time, one, nothing ever happened out the way that I thought it should, and two, everything that happened the way it was meant to was way better than what I thought it should be. So as your elder, stay sober, work your program, get serious about your recovery.

Carry the message every single day, however you do, whether it's through a sponsee or whether it's through a friend or whether it's coming up on stage and continue to just ask the universe, God, whoever you believe in, where would you have me go? What would you have me do? What would you have me say? And to whom?

Stop planning. You plan. God laughs. Congratulations on your sobriety.

ASH: Thank you so much.

GABBY: Thank you.

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GABBY: Hi honey, how are you?

LIZ: I'm so happy to meet you right now.

GABBY: So nice to meet you.

LIZ: My name's Liz. I am a nurse. And I, I love my job. I love caring for people. I love...

GABBY: Let's have a round of applause for her because the nurses, the nurses are human angels. You truly are.

LIZ: Thank you. Yeah, I obviously I love my job and I love everything a part of it.

I worked through COVID. I saw a lot of tragedy, a lot of sadness and loss and, you know, good moments too with everyone who came together and working as a team to save lives, which is really amazing. I obviously had my own loss and my own, uh, struggles, but I just, I guess it affected my vibration. It's affected my energy and what I attract as well.

So I guess my question is, how can I protect my energy and continue to give that compassion to other people while keeping my cup full.

GABBY: It's a specific kind of person who can do that work. And it's something that you'll grow to be very proud of, which, if you're not already, which I believe you are, but it's difficult on a good day, let alone during a global pandemic. And so many of the nurses, ICU nurses, so many of the nurses I've spoken to post-COVID have a lot of PTSD. So I want to give you the guided path to heal that trauma because it's required for your wellbeing. Because you said it, my vibration is low.

Of course, how could it not be? You watched people die. You watched people lose their life alone. You may have been the only person in the room. I mean, that moved me to tears just thinking about that. So I want you to do whatever it takes to get yourself back into that state of grace. Because we need you.

But you need your life. And you know what? If you decided, I can't do this anymore. That's okay too, my love. That's okay too. That's okay too. So I'm going to give you Happy Days. We'll get you a book from the table, okay? And I want to highly, highly recommend that you go headfirst into the trauma recovery.

There's a specific type of trauma recovery called somatic experiencing, which I write about in the book. And it's a lot of the physical work for healing trauma. So the heart holds the head, hold physical movements. Exercise, dance, it's stuck in your body and in your brain, right? And you become frozen in time.

So there's a thawing out that has to occur. And so, right here in this room right now, we can all extend a lot of compassion, gratitude and love to her right now.

LIZ: Thank you.

GABBY: Do you have support right now?

LIZ: I have a very supportive family, very supportive group of friends. Um, I'm really blessed in that sense and I'm blessed with my job too.

They do support us all and they all understand how it can be, but yeah, I'm very loved. I'm very lucky.

GABBY: And here's the deal. It might take a minute, might take a day, might take a month, might take a year, might take 10 years. I don't know, but every day can be better than the next. You've lived through a real big T trauma, but you watch people's bodies heal, your soul, your brain, your nervous system can heal too.

The same way you would tell somebody you need to go do PT because you broke your leg, you need to go do the therapeutic support systems and work the same way someone with a broken leg would do because our nervous systems become broken, our fear response, our trauma response. It's so activated, right? So the thing I want to tell you is there's a lot of hope and you have the support.

And you have the resources. Read Happy Days. The practices that I teach in there and the therapies that I've chosen are transformational for healing trauma. Thank you.

LIZ: Thank you so much.

GABBY: Hello, my friend.

SUSAN: Hello.

GABBY: You have a fan club here.

SUSAN: My name is Susan and I've been a fan of yours for a long time. And I think that I just want to say that you've helped me through one of the darkest periods of my time.

In 2021, I lost my husband and I don't have any family here. Listening to your talk just now about checking in, you know, moment by moment and connecting to your inner child and compassion. I just want to know, in your opinion, through grief, is there a period of time when you sort of check out and don't do those things?

GABBY: Um, when I experienced, first of all, I want to just acknowledge your loss. I'm so happy I could be your friend at that time. So while maybe you didn't feel like you had friends or family here, you had me and I'll never leave you.

SUSAN: Thank you.

GABBY: Yeah. But what I do want you to know is when I experienced the loss of my son, there was a period where my friends kept being like, cause I wasn't crying.

I would have went through a very dissociated period where I was just flatlined. And my friends would be like, you know, you can cry, you can let it out, Gabby, like, you know, just don't be afraid to let it out. And I'd say, nope, the dissociative part of me checks out. She's doing a really good job right now. She's protecting me and she's doing a really good job right now.

Now, would I want to stay there for a decade? No. But for that period that I was checked out. That was what I needed to be. That's exactly where I needed to be. And that's a part of us. It's a protection mechanism. It's a protector part. And so you have had a grief, a very big wound. There's going to be a lot of different protection mechanisms that are going to come up.

We can thank them for their great service. And when you start to do some of this work, they can start to relax. So let it be how it needs to be and slowly continue to chip away and you'll see, you'll notice that checked out part will slowly start to relax and let more in, let more in. But remember what I talked about with titrating, let it in, close it up, let it, you don't want to blow it out right away.

It's a lot. It's too much for your system to handle. So go slow.

SUSAN: One of the check out methods was me actually not one, not, I bought this ticket last year and I wanted to, this part of me said, uh, you know, I'm just too flat. I don't want to come for it. Coming here, I've met four beautiful friends. You know, we just met outside.

We don't know each other.

GABBY: Your cheerleaders.

SUSAN: Yeah, so I'm really glad. And the other thing is about comparing ourselves. So I, like Candice, I compare myself to you, you know, I compare myself to starting a widow farm in, um, which there's already one. And I think I just need to do the work.

GABBY: And, you know, we call it the work, right?

Like do the work. I don't like that word work. I say it myself, but let's call it get back into you, right? Do take the daily small actions because we think about work. It's daunting, but really what it is is small actions daily towards that healing and that grace. And so if we leave here today and you're like, Oh, I can do one small thing daily towards reconnecting to that grace inside of me.

I can do that.

I could read a passage of the book. I could listen to audio. I could go for a walk. I can connect to my new friends. One small thing daily. Maybe you add more, but as long as you hit one.

SUAN: I think my one small thing would be seeing that prayer.

GABBY: Lots of prayers. Take that book right there, Super Attractor.

SUSAN: Thank you.

GABBY: Yes, my love. Thank you. Thank you, sweetheart. Absolutely beautiful. Absolutely beautiful.

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GABBY: Hello my love.

DANI: Hi, darling.

GABBY: Hi, darling.

DANI: I'm Dani.

GABBY: Very cute look.

DANI: Thank you. It's lovely to meet you.

GABBY: Nice to meet you too.

DANI: So I've had this story that I've been working on from childhood, and that was that I need to be a big girl. And the issue is that it's really served me well until now. I've created a lot of success for myself.

I do work that's really meaningful. I love it. Um, I have financial security, three great kids. My life is great, but I've come to a stage in my life where, you know, in a culture where we celebrate being a boss bitch, you know, I am that and I'm proud of it, but I'm exhausted and that hustle, it's not appealing anymore.

And I've come to a point where I want to be able to receive. And for someone or others to say, you know, Dani, I'll take the lead this time and to getting back into my feminine energy. And maybe meet a nice guy who can be that for me. And I'm just struggling. Even at lunch today, I was with my beautiful girlfriend and you know, I insisted on paying and she's like, bitch, you need to learn to receive.

I'm sick of this, but I don't want to lose the success and everything that I've built. And I just don't know how to find that balance.

GABBY: What a great question, Dani. Okay. So being the big girl is the story, right? She's done a lot of good in your life, right? But she's also a protector part. So let me really break this down for you.

We're children. We have these experiences. In your case, it might've been like, Dani, be the big girl, right?

DANI: Divorce.

GABBY: Okay. So you had to take care of, you felt responsible. I got to fix everything. I got to take care of everybody. So the little girl who experienced divorce is a very extreme feeling and that becomes like an exiled little child.

We say unconsciously, I don't want to feel that again, bye bye. I'm going to lock you up and I'm going to build up all these protection mechanisms so I never have to feel that pain again. And so Dani says, I'm going to be a big girl. I'm going to do everything perfectly. I'm going to have success. I'm going to prove myself to my parents and to the world and blah, blah, blah.

I'm going to take care of myself because nobody else can take care of me and so on and so on and so on. So we've got the exiled child part that was traumatized. Big T or small T, we've all got them. We've got the protectors.

In your case, they're like managers, right? I'm going to manage my whole world so that I don't have to feel that pain, but when the managing doesn't work anymore, we get what's called firefighters, which are the addictive parts.

For you, it might've been workaholism. We go right to that firefighter, Oh, that managing isn't working anymore. It's too extreme. That exiled part got triggered. Boom. I'm going to go grab a drink. I'm going to go pick up the work. I'm going to go get on the porn. I'm going to go get the food. I'm going to get to the place where I can even dissociation where I can numb that pain, put out the fire.

So as we start to do the three C's and check in the check in process. Noticing when you're next triggered and you go to pay the bill or you go to fix everything at work, take a moment, choose to check in, become curious about all those feelings inside. It's the young part. What do I know about this boss bitch?

What does she want me to know? What does she want to reveal? Let her talk to you. Ask the part. She's just a protection mechanism that's living inside of you like a child. And then ask her with compassion and connection. What do you need? What we're doing is we have a lot of little people that live inside of us.

You with me on that? The exiled thing happened. We had traumas, children, whatever it might be, divorce, sexual violence, feelings of inadequacy, being told you're not good enough. A parent leaves, financial insecurity, you name it. And we feel so much shame and terror from those experiences that we'll do whatever we can to build up the protector parts.

Controlling, manipulating, checking out, depression, anxiety to protect against that difficult pain. Then we have the extreme firefighters that put out the fire. So you've got a manager who's the boss bitch, and then you've got the workaholic. Okay.

DANI: Definitely. And ironically, I'm a divorce lawyer, so.

GABBY: You're the boss bitch for the other boss bitches, right?

DANI: That's right.

GABBY: Here's the message to her. Dani, the boss bitch has done a lot of good in the world. And we don't want to lose her and you don't want to lose her edge, but you can soften her edges. These parts of us, I can look back at my cocaine addict part and say, thank you.

Thank you for keeping me safe. Thank you for pushing down the impermissible dissociated memories from your childhood that you are not ready to remember until 10 years later. Thank you. I can look at the controlling part of me and say. All right, you're still, you know, doing your thing, but you're getting softer.

So even though we have extreme parts, they've done a lot of good. And so this check in process of getting to know them and respect them, that little girl, she's been working so hard, Dani. To keep you from feeling the pain of that divorce.

DANI: Yeah, you're right.

GABBY: So, what happens if you started to just check in with her every day, and give her some compassion, and connection, and calm?

She could soften. And slowly, and slowly, and slowly, what happens as you soften, that feminine energy starts to multiply. And that's what we're longing for. That check in process is yours. Let me pull a card for you. Okay. In every moment, the universe is conspiring to bring me toward right-minded thinking and the energy of love.

I got two. When I'm connected to my joyful presence, I attract support from the universe.

DANI: Thank you.

GABBY: That was what I was meant to get to my love. My love. Thank you. Thank you. You're beautiful. Keep it up, girl. You do look like a hot boss bitch though.

So this, this, this audience has come today with such an open heart and such an open mind and I want you to continue to stay connected to the moments and the synchronicities and the grace and all that is revealed to you over and over and over again as you continue on this journey of turning inward.

I want you to hear me when I tell you this no matter how difficult You may feel that your life circumstances could be in this moment. Now, no matter how much you might be struggling in any given moment, no matter what is happening, we can choose again. We can choose to see through the lens of possibility.

We can choose to see through the lens of love. We can choose to seek solutions rather than problems. We can choose to remember that the universe has our back. Take that home with you. Remember this day. Remember the feelings and the energy and the golden light that we created in this room.

Take it home with you and commit to it and show up for it and re-align with it every single moment of your day. Take this energy from this room and let it multiply. I am so proud to be here with you as your teacher. It is a privilege. It is an honor. It is my greatest absolute joy in life to be in the presence of souls who are awakening in this way. God bless you.

Thank you so much, Melbourne. I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you. I will be back. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. Mm, I love you. I love you.

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